"Happy Birthday" to my son

@reinydawn (11643)
United States
December 24, 2008 5:20am CST
My oldest son is 25 and still lives at home. His birthday was in October, but apparently his girl friend is just now "giving" him his birthday present. For MONTHS now I've been bugging him to clean up his room - it was really a huge mess. Yesterday I came home to find his girlfriend cleaning his room - I almost didn't recognize the place! She said she was finally getting around to giving him his birthday present. And from the looks of it, he wasn't lifting a finger to help. I thought it was actually kinda funny though because she finally got tired of stepping over piles of books and clean clothes to watch tv or something. I'm kinda anxious to see what it's going to look like when it's done - she was almost finished with one of the rooms yesterday when I saw it.
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@bunmi2501 (465)
• Nigeria
24 Dec 08
Hmmmmmmmmm, that was really a cool thing for her to do, but your son should grow up, at 25 year, he does not need his girlfriend to clean up for him
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
24 Dec 08
Eh, he's just lazy and it's not a proirity for him. I'm not the "spotless" kinda person either. I do think it's funny that he's found about 3 remote controls though! Usually when he looses something he cleans it up a bit.
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@roberten (3128)
• United States
24 Dec 08
How do they do it? How in the world do they manage to live is such conditions and not be bothered by it? I do not think I will ever understand. A little messy, no problem. Buried like Atlantis and I can't comprehend. My messy one is a girl. She can wade through clothes and mess up to her knee caps and it doesn't bother her in the least. I will be interesting to see how it all turns out in the end.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
24 Dec 08
I don't get it either. My youngest is a bit of a neat freak and cleaned his room up fairly regularly. Most of the time I just close the door on my older sons room and ignore it. I don't have to live in it!
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• United States
30 Dec 08
When my son lived with us he was a slob also. He use to keep his old clothes on the floor. He now has his own home and keeps it cleaner than he did when he lived here.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
30 Dec 08
Now that it's clean he'll keep it up for a while. Then he'll get busy with school and work and it'll get all backed up again.
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• United States
1 Jan 09
I think we are all like that to some degree.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
25 Dec 08
Hi reiny! First let me wish you and your family a very Merry Christmas! That's quite a nice birthday present that your son's girlfriend is giving him! For whatever reason as long as the room gets cleaned up I guess that's good enough! I didn't know that you had your son living at home! You hardly ever mentioned that he was there! That's so nice that you have your kids around! Is he a Libra? That would explain the procrastination on the cleaning thing! I have finally gotten the apartment almost finished! My boyfriend put his foot down and forced the issue! So the re-decorating is just about done and the apartment looks great!
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
25 Dec 08
Hey, is that why I haven't seen much of you around lately? You been too busy getting the placed in order? Thank you for the holiday wishes and I do wish the same for you! Yes, my oldest son still lives at home and my youngest is in Japan in the Navy. My oldest has never kept a clean room, but I havne't been big on cleaning myself. When the kids were younger I would much rather spend time with them, enjoying them, instead of cleaning. I guess I wasn't a very good role model in that sense...
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
25 Dec 08
I'm glad you're back and feeling better! I was really missing you :)
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
25 Dec 08
No, it wasn't the re-decorating! I have had what I think is a touch of the flu! So I haven't been feeling too well. So I haven't been here for a few days and I really missed being here alot. I justed haven't felt up to being on the computer and my apartment has been so cold that I have just been staying in bed. I'm feeling a little better now so I couldn't stay away anymore!
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@cooiky (548)
• China
25 Dec 08
25 years old . still do not do some cleaning work? gold
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
25 Dec 08
It's just his "personal" area that he doesn't keep up with. He's normally pretty good about cleaning the bathroom and cleaning up after himself in the kitchen. I am not a clean freak so he knows it's not terribly important. It was starting to look pretty bad though. Now that it's cleaned up he can keep up with it while he's working 1 full-time, 1 part-time job and taking some classes at the college.
• United States
25 Dec 08
I think its a guy thing. Actually no, its not! I know tons of girls who dont mind having their rooms left as pig styes (sp?!). I think its really the laziness that youth nowadays are so used to. I was watching a supernanny episode the other day and the kids who she was looking to help were basically telling her that they would not clean their room unless their parents paid them! How pathetic is that? Even if kids dont like doing the work, forget the work, its your room! How can you live in nasty conditions like that? Old pizza under the bed, clothing strewn around everywhere, junk piling up! Thats sick! I was just finished finals a week ago and I came back to my room and it was pretty nasty, I had been so busy studying and stuff I hadnt any time to keep my room in order, but as soon as I was done with finals, I had a cleaning spree and cleaned that Son of a b*** up real quick! It was an amazing feeling to see it all nice an clean! it wasnt because of laziness, it was because i was too busy! Unless they have jobs, kids nowadays dont do sh**! so they dont have any excuse to leave their rooms messy! Your son has an awesome GF! hahaha
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
25 Dec 08
My son does work one full-time and one part-time job, so he's not really around a whole lot. He's going to be taking a couple classes next semester also so it'll be less time he'll have to keep up with his room - good thing his GF cleaned it up now! Oh, and if there was food down there it would be a totally different story! He RARELY leaves food down there longer than over night.
@JummyTao (265)
• China
25 Dec 08
I think he should clean it by himself.He is a man not a boy.And,fortunately he has a good girlfriend do it for him.
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
25 Dec 08
When he has time he will keep it straightened up. But, I do have to take some of the blame for that because cleaning is not a priority for me. I'd rather spend quarlity time with them than clean so they kinda grew up with that mentality. It was just really starting to get out of hand this time though.
@suzzy3 (8341)
24 Dec 08
More fool her. I have a teenage son and I stopped cleaning his room because I could not see the floor .put clean sheets in the room every week and wait for the dirty ones to arrive in the laundry bin.I told him if he wanted to live like a pig it was up to him,eventually even he could stand it no longer,he gutted his room right out cleaned the furniture ,windows and hoovered the floor,he was on a mission and it took him all day and serveral large rubbish bags,now I hoover the room again.I wonder if she keeps her own room as clean,men can be disgusting and lazy.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
25 Dec 08
Eh, she' only be a fool if she continued to maintain it. I'm not very big on keeping the place spotless, I have better things to do with my time. He was getting a bit out of hand though and he knows it. At least it's clean for the coming school semester - he definitely can't keep up with it all if he's taking classes as well as working full-time.