how can I rebuilt my life

China
December 24, 2008 11:55am CST
I am so upset recently as I got too much presure on me .I was always be called for overtime ,seeing sick people ,and I am so tired for exams,studyings and plans .I was happy for working cause I like saving people and take care of them ,but now I am not that so sure .should I just go to find someone to marry and find a easy job ,stay at home take care of my husband and child ?but how about my dream ,be a useful person ? everybody kept saying that I look awful ,but I even don't have time to go to gym .I am feeling dying .
4 responses
@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
29 Dec 08
You did not mention what you do but is sounds like your in nursing and there is a high "burn out" rate with nurses because of the heavy responsibilities they have. If you are a nurse there are other places you can work and continue your nursing position, for example you can work in the "Blood Bank" these people are not sick, you are taking blood donations from healthy people and you still are keeping your nursing position. Radiology, Clinics, Psychology to name a few. Emergency Room positions are very stressful and working on a "ward" is a lot of work. There are many other options available. Good luck.
• China
29 Dec 08
thank you howard .but sometimes you can not make a decision between "job "and "responsibility".I still can't clearify what I am looking for .Do I really love my job ,I guess the answer is "yes ".I wish I can help people more . but you are right ,I need to find the way to solve the problem .
@fairydew (180)
• United States
25 Dec 08
Sounds very much like "burn-out." You are running out of energy and fuel for your present job. You probably need to take action quickly. Relieve some of your pressures. Eat right and especially drink enough water right now. Your body is probably using it as quickly as you put it in the system. Sounds like you might be a nurse. If you have a career goal, don't let go yet. There are many other areas you could go into and help people. Getting married is not the answer in my opinion. It is just a new work environment and may be even worse than those outside the home. If you get married, let it be for finding the right soul mate you can be a help to and he can be a help to you.
• China
28 Dec 08
I have to agree with you that I was out of my control .you are right ,there isn't only one way to do my job ,I guess I really need to sit down and think about it . thank you ,it was so nice to read these words ,they make me feel better.
• United States
25 Dec 08
Is the overtime temporary, or will it continue on permanently? It seems you love your work, but there is just too much of it. Is it possible for you to look for another job in the same profession, but without the overtime? You should try to find a way to balance your life, so that you can do your work and help people, but also take care of yourself! Also, is it possible you could be sick? Maybe some underlying illness is causing you to feel so bad. I know there are illnesses that are hidden, and not readily obvious, even to doctors (I assumed you are a doctor?) Staying home to care for husband and child is not exactly easy! However, it is probably not the same kind of stress, which is better.
• United States
24 Dec 08
You are only 33 (if that's correct in your profile)! Be optimistic! Your whole life is in front of you. Do what you do best and do it well! You can just go outside and find somebody to marry him/her. Technically you can, but you understand me! If you think that it's time to find a new job and maybe it is time for that. But never stop pursuing your dreams, ever. That's one part of everybody's life, dreaming! Believing in yourself. At some point everybody feels like you, even worse! But you know what they say "what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger (or maybe stranger)" Hmmm...