Why do some woman still think getting a man is the answer to everything?

Hopefully, most women (tho not in my family or state)have learned that they don't NEED a man for anything. Having one around is nice. Finding someone you can have a great relationship with is wonderful. It always surprises me when people are worried that I am alone. I was "alone" the first 35 years of my life. Wasted ten years (well not the 9 mos I was pregnant and 13 years since my son had been born and in my life) in a marriage I didn't want with someone whose life was based on lies, got out and have been a happily single mom ever since! I have great friends and don't see any need for that type of relationship. If one pops up, cool, but I am not looking for it and certainly don't need it! I agree with you!

Im in the same kind of boat you are. Im single and loving it. I do not understand some of these women who think that way. Like they have to have a signifiant other. I figure im pretty signifiant all by myself. For the younger women maybe its that mating call or need that they are feeling. I dont know.

First, I am so sorry to hear about your partner. I believe it all depends on how you were raised. There are some women who were raised to be the prettiest and capture the richest man they can. While others are taught to work hard and be the best person they can be.It is sad that some people assume you have to search for a man.

I think, basically it is choice to stay alone or to stay with someone, if you feel comfortable and happy and living your life, without a man, others have no business to interfere in your very personal matters. Just keep enjoying your life, without bothering about such people's comments, I would say.

In todays society, many both men and women seems to think that if you are single and not seeing anyone that something must be wrong with you so she just oculdn't understand how you don't seems to need someone in your life. I have personally been asked why am single for so long and more so only have one child who is now 12, my response is always, because I would rather be alone than unhappy. There is nothing worst than being in a relaitonship just to say you have a man but being abused or unhappy.

Well,I think this depends on what kind of life do you want.Maybe you do not need a life partner and can take care of yourself all by yourself,but this does not mean that you don't want one,cause life may become better.May be you want to wait for the right person,but things in the world will not go as what you want, and it's hard to find a person that 100% be suit for you.If you like someone,just take a shoot,and I think there's nothing bad.If you reaaly want to be alone,that is another saying.

Learned after my first divorce that being able to work and take care of yourself, is more important than hoping to find a man to take care of you. I have a friend back home and she has a boyfriend with a really good job. But he does not do anything to help her. He works off shore 7 days on and 7 days off, when he comes in he comes to her house. HER HOUSE, get it. And he lays there eating off her and watching tv till time to go back out. He doesn't offer to pay any bills, or help to fix things around the house. I ask her one day after she fell off the ladder and broke her leg, while trying to paint the ceiling with him just sitting there what the he$$ she wanted with this idiot. She said that people would think that she couldn't get someone if he wasn't there. Older women seem to think that they need a man to be a total woman. Or that people will think no one wants you. Well I would have to let them think what they wanted before I knept a man just for having people think I have some one. Some women don't know how to stand on their own 2 feet as they have never done it before, always depended on a man. So they settle for something less perfect in a relationship just for show. Not me I learned I can do it myself or I got friends that will help me. I have a husband of 15 years, but if he left tomorrow I would survive without him.

Many women feel this way, missbdoll, simply because they lack the degree of self-esteem they need. Having 4 daughters myself, I've had to have that talk with them before. They need to understand that a man should not define them but be an asset to them. During the times I have been without a man I've taken the opportunity to learn to appreciate myself more and get to know myself better.

Maybe she's the type of person who wants a man to take care of her, we are all raised differently and she probably thinks a man will complete her. If you can do things on your own and still succeed then I applaud you. I'm sorry to hear about your partner passing, I guess if you're supposed to have somebod in your life it will happen when its supposed to.

not all you pick are responsible.most of them needs only onething and we called it fun!pay and run!in my case trusting each other are very difficult!

Hi missbdoll~ I have always been annoyed by people who make such a moronic statement like this woman! I have been on my own most of my life. I have worked hard and took care of myself without the aid of a man! And I am damn proud of it! I have dated, been engaged, but not married. I never felt that it was necessary to have a man to complete me and I always felt sorry for my friends who did. They all ended up divorced and with their lives in a major mess and not being able to get theirselves together! And all I felt was how pathetic they were for depending on a man! I am sorry for your loss, but very proud of you for being able to see what is most important for you in your life no matter what anyone else says!

I don't know why a man is still so important to women now. I just want my daughters to be able to take care of themselves and if they have family to take care of them also. Then if a nice man comes along there is no pressure to marry, just enjoy. Happy New Year

Hi missbdoll, I have 3 daughters, age 30, 38, and 40 and none of them is marry, they work, they are very independent and are succeful in what they do. Sorry about your partner. I hope you have a very prosperous 2009.

i think that has to do with her finacial background. though almost all women date men because of money mostly its those who are too dependent that still feel its the answer to thier daily lives

I know some women who just can't live without a man. I think a woman should develop her own talents and if "Mr. Right" comes along, fine. If not, fine. Women are too dependant on men. they need to learn to be themselves and support their own lives.Even if they don't need financial support, they still need to develop the ability to have their own self expression and personality.

Many peopel believe this so much because it's been ingrained into society for so long. The thought that a woman needs a man to make her life fulfilled is horrible and so out done. You don't need to be married to a man to be happy. Hate that thought.

some women feel they need a man in their life but sometimes this is not true there is nothing wrong with beening single.there is time for everything under the sun.when you feel you are ready you will seek a partners,when you ready

well well for me its not that bad if you work hard for building your business because we know practically that it is our future who we are dealing with but i believe that true loves waits and true love comes on the unexpected day... so lets not wait that our prince will do the things for you.... it is you responsibility too to do your part being a person .. it is better if you have your own then your waiting for something to come in your life...

Well theres nothing wrong with wanting some companionship, but I definitely dont think having a man in my life is the answer to everything, I think its important to also have other goals in life, and to focus on being as self safishant as you can, because your man or husband cant do everything we have to be able to help them, as well as ourselves, I dont believe in prince charming that kind of thing only exists in the movies, and real life and love is never going to be perfect, like in a fairytale book or movie, and I think that we have to have a more realistic views on love, and not expect to have someone to fix our lives, and with that being said, I do believe in love but in a more realistic since, and I do want companionship someday, but not to fix anything and not to validate my life, but to share my life with someone who truly loves and cares for me.

that's really absurd... well, i gotta congratulate you for standing on your own without any man... it's not actually getting a man rather it is being with a man, a partner to be with you... but it's never gonna be the answer to everything... you don't want to become a parasite to somebody, don't you??? believing in yourself, knowing that you can stand up on your own, having faith that you can surpass all even you've got nobody else... in the end, all you've got is 'YOU'...