Is it ok to crush on another guy/girl even if you have a BF or GF?

Frankly Crushes are feelings. You can't help how you feel about another person. I mean that guy could be super-cute... you wouldn't be able to stop your heart from saying "Boy has he got a cute...ahem" The point is whether you pursue him. Just because he's cute doesn't mean you have to go out to him and go out. Obviously as long as you can consciously control the instinct to meet that guy,I think its okay You could have the best garden in the world but you can't help appreciating the beauty of Swiss Alps

hi! i agree with your opinion crush is merely admiration while being into a bf/gf relationship is a serious thing. although admiration may lead to gf/bf relationship but i guess once you are committed to someone and you know that you love each other so much you will just ignore looking around for crushes because you ultimate crush will your partner. :)

For me, I think its not okay. Cause its like your not satisfied with your partner. Cause if your really in love with your partner then you wouldn't see anyone else. But that's just me. lol. , I would be hurt if my boyfriend would have a crush on someone else...and thank God he doesn't have a crush on anyone but me.

ha ha ha ... good point of discussion, thanks for providing. Yeah it happened in reality and no need for an example story for this kind of situation where now it is a common phenomenon in one relationship. OK - I hope you don't mind if elaborate your point of discussion this way. In biz world, I think it is a good element to have it, in making one business growing. I mean on the development side for one business and I don't even mean it for destructive type of element. But, if the thing happened not in a perfect equilibrium state, it might jeopardized the whole current swift running relationship. Think twice and wise, will get the exact answer. Once done, a hard thing to make setback.

Yes, then again it does matter that how much you have committed to each other. Its the matter of commitment. the more you are committed the less likely you are bound to have a new crush.

It's alright because it's just a crush and there's no perfect relationship.

Hello amazingheart! Honestly, it's not ok to have another crush to another guy now that I'm married. I even don't want my husband to admire someone aside from me. Sounds like possessiveness, right? I admit, I am and my husband knows that. He knows too that I don't admire other guys anymore. He can tell when he was here because my eyes are only for him. He can have over some things but not to humans..hehehee..

i think its just ok. in my own definition of a crush, its purely admiration or appreciation to one's quality, appearance, attitude or physical attributes. and there's nothing wrong with it. but if there is an attraction betweeb the two of them, then, we have a bigger problem with that.

i think it is okay if you are still in your limits. just don't lie to your boyfriend about him.to having other friend is not a mistake.

I think it is ok to look at people, observing lives around you. It should make you appreciate your partner more. But i think it is not ok to have crush over other people cos that is unfaithful, and in this situation when you have crush on others, you will go into extra affairs given the right opportunity. It is the same for your partner. Affairs start from this kind of crush.

Hello amazingheart, I think there is nothing wrong to have a crush with somebody else even if one has already his boyfrien/girlfriend or wife/husband, because you see crush is just like admiration.You admire someone over some aspects in their personality and it's pretty normal as you've said. Happy new year friend

yes you can have crush while dating another one. whats the matter this is a human nature

I think there is not much difference between crushing on someone and getting into some kind of interaciton..because when you think somebody is nice cute or when you think nasty thoughts about him/her that means you have commited the action in your mind...and as everything in the physical world is seen to us via our mind i think it is a bad thing..i dont approve it...

I don't think it's ok to have crush on another guy/ girl if you have already a BF or GF.but I am ok if one like to see the beauties in the street or somewhere else.

As humans we have certain characteristics that draw us to other so I don't think that it's strange to have more than one person you have feeling for. The important thing is to not act upon these feelings. I have been married to the same woman for 26 years and I have had many crushes. It's acting upon those feeling while still with another that would make it wrong.

If you have one then why you are eyeing another. It proves you are not satisfied with one. well that is like muslim culture. They can marry 4 girls at a time. Polygamy is allowed only in the most modern (so called) religion of the world. admiration is OK. But if you are having trouble in finding perfect person then you probably be not satisfied with this one. people change in company of other people. The characters change under persuation. The only characteristics that do not change by influence are going to change by age. So think again before you even settle down for a BF or GF.

I think that it is probably a natural thing to sometimes feel an attraction to someone even if you have a boyfriend or husband or vice versa. People are only human. Temptation is not necessarily a sin. It is only a sin when it is acted upon. Sometimes a man will look at another woman and a woman can find another man attractive. For instance, I am a married woman and I look at other men that seem appealing. However it is not going to really hurt anything to look at them. As long as you have respect and honor your relationship with your significant other then things should work out alright. It is really only a natural thing to maybe have a crush on another person. It could just be something that does not last for a long time and then you will appreciate your boyfriend or girlfriend for the good relationship that you have. I think that you say it right when you say that it is just normal to have admiration for someone. It does not hurt anyone really and as long as you remain faithful to your other half then there will not be anything to worry about. I wish you much luck and take care.

i think it's normal because we're humans and we can't help but admire others. crush and love is two different things. when you are crushing on someone, it doesn't necessarily mean that you love him/her so there is no reason for your partner to feel jealous since you are only admiring him/her because of some features. so i really think it's healthy to crush on someone other than your partner, what's wrong is loving someone romantically besides him. lol

For me its natural to look and admire a person even if you are in a relationship. It's just plain admiration and not to the point that having any conversation and exchanging numbers right?! That's a different story. We cant lie to ourselves that we have crushes to anyone we see even celebrities, but being loyal or faithful to our loved one is the most important of all. Having admiration is part of who we are. We admire and that's it!

It's okay as long as it remains a "crush". If it goes beyond that, it's gonna be trouble, that's for sure.