TRUST in a relationship. 100%??
By savengt
@savengt (89)
Singapore
December 25, 2008 6:41pm CST
Do you think it is possible to have 100% trust in a relationship?
Human heart changes and it is important to remind ourselves constantly of our role and committment.
When you heard about your partner cheating on you from a reliable source, wont you have the slighest doubt even though you may choose to trust or investigate in the end.
Or do most of the time, we thought that we really have 100% trust in the relationship untill someting happens and we start to have doubt?
Is it wrong to have only 98% trust and the remaining 2 percentage is the constant effort by your partner to gain your trust?
After all, we dont want to be too complacent in a relationship that we start taking things for granted and issues will fall into place. At that stage, trust will be affected.
Please share your view.
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12 responses
@Gesusdid (1676)
• United States
26 Dec 08
with out trust in a relationship you have nothing at all , right there your losing half the battle ,that person can say i love you til the end of time but , how can you beleive them ever ? how can you look at them the same way? ...if your partner cheated on you and still say they love you ...THEN would you trust them , ? do love you just as they loved the person they cheated on you with ? ...my point exactly godbless
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
26 Dec 08
whether to fully trust or not when in a relationship, depends upon the person wholly.
it is true that a human being cannot be fully relied upon at anytime considering that we are only made of flesh. and flesh is weak.
however, if a person chooses to be fully reliable when getting into relationships, he can be trusted 100 percent. so you see, it is really a matter of will power from one's part to practice fidelity or be an infidel. this is the reason why i opted to be open to hear about what's truly happening around me. i just kept an open heart as regards the weakness of man.
when i heard that my husband was running around with some women, i confronted him about it but, no quarrels. i do not have to be a jealous wreck because, i cannot force him to take the straight path. it is a choice that he has to make, and it will be his will power to change and be righteous that will make him choose to be upright. well, he chose to be continuously womanizing, we have to break apart at a time when i am already advanced in years.
no, i do not wish to have any more man in my life. my three kids are more than sufficient worry already. i have my hands full loving and taking care of them all. this is my choice.
@roselynm1023 (950)
• Philippines
26 Dec 08
hi!
i admire your strength in confronting your husband about hearsays about some women. you are right we have instinct too although we trust our partner but in this temptation filled world its really hard to rely on our selves as well as on our partner. everyone should be open minded at the possibility of betrayal at some point of the relationship. it will depend on how deep is the love towards one another. the issue about percentage i guess does not matter because trust same as love is immeasurable. one cant say to his partner hey honey i love you 98% and you should love me 99% because no one has ever created a measurement for love as well as for trust. i guess it just a yes or a no. to trust or not to trust.
thanks for the nice discussion.
i guess trinidad deserves a best response. clap clap clap
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
26 Dec 08
I think it is nice if you can trust 100% but i think those who do are fooling themselves, people are controlled by emotions and instinct, and as you say things can change in a person, we are very complicated creatures and our emotions and instincts make us very selfish at times, I had a discussion years ago with a young girl who thought I thoughts were crazy, she was young and she was so sure of her boyfriend, they did get engaged, but I guess something happened because i heard they had broken up after he had an affair, I myself did put 100% in a man who I thought was so strong in that area and so honest but he cheated on me so I am afraid I just would never think that nay human being is a superman when it comes to human nature...
@savengt (89)
• Singapore
27 Dec 08
I guess a strong relationship requires mutual trust between each other.
We will never have 100% TRUST because trust is not a destination but a path that we walk on.
Trust needs cultivating and developing along the way, we always seek to have 100% trust as the goal. Sometime it flatuate accordingly to situation. We cant have 100% trust even on God (sadly) because of we are not perfect. The human hearts deceives and harden. Sometimes we cant even trust ourselves.
@celticeagle (166976)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Dec 08
I feel that in a wholesome and good relationship you should trust your partner explicitly. If there is a good foundation and alot of communication, respect and consideration then you have it made. Ofcourse there is the occasional bad situation that comes up. But, relationships are like anything else-Work!
@savengt (89)
• Singapore
27 Dec 08
Yes, we seek to trust 100% in a relationship.
But because of the fact that we are not perfect, we seldom have that perfect trust.
Good perspective of yours, we seek to do our part in a relationship and if the other half cheats on you, he /she will have to answer.
However, do note to be wise too. A relationship is based on love, a more important factor to me, before trust is built upon it.
It all started with love. Dont trust blindly, make sure your partner is giving too.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
26 Dec 08
Without taking my husband for granted, I do trust him that he wouldn't cheat on me. However, I don't assume that he will always make great choices or be on time for things, so I remind him about events or to talk to me before he agrees to do things, so I guess I don't trust him 100%.
If it's just a discussion about whether you trust your spouse not to cheat on you, I trust my husband 100%. It just wouldn't occur to him to cheat on me.
@manixxx (116)
• Japan
26 Dec 08
hmmmm, for me, i would not give my 100% trust. just like what you have said, human heart changes, a man/woman can change, so, i would not give my 100% trust. it is better to have some 90% trust on your partner and the remaining 10% would be for yourself, in other words, don't be too serious or dependent on your partner as if no one else evolve your wolrd but him/her. that is not love, that is selfishness, give your partner a little bit of his/her own time for herself/himself. i would also say that you give yourself a little percentage. you have to trust others but you also have to trust yourselves, so that if all else fails, that remaining precentage for yourself will help you move on and rise again after you fall.
@ladydmo (19)
• United States
26 Dec 08
I don't know about 100% trust in a relationship especially if you have been hurt before. I think for the most part people go into a relationship trusting the other party until or unless something happens. Just like innocent until proven guilty. No offense and I am not defending women at all but it is very hard to give a man 100% trust knowing the statistics about them cheating. The only person I have 100% trust in is GOD not my children but GOD he has never failed me. Man will all the time.
@workaholic08 (148)
• India
26 Dec 08
It would be great to have a great partner to trust 100% coz even if you trust the partner 100% and he turns out to be a cheat, then placing trust on that person actually makes us feel vulnerable.Given the era that we living in, relationship is a business.
@workaholic08 (148)
• India
26 Dec 08
It would be great to have a great partner to trust 100% coz even if you trust the partner 100% and he turns out to be a cheat, then placing trust on that person actually makes us feel vulnerable.Given the given era that we living in, relationship is a business.
