lazy suitor
By Llonorra22
@Llonorra22 (1150)
Philippines
December 26, 2008 3:00am CST
Hello friends,. Just to give you a little background this guy approached me when I was in church and asked to formally court me. I asked him if he is aware of my condition. (I'm a cerebral palsied lady but I can move around through the help of mobility aides)As he courts me, my mom did a background check. We found out that up to now he is still jobless, inspite of him being 26 years old, and of him being normal individual. My mom did this for my own safety because he used to tell me that he is a guard and will resume for work this January. But just this week, we also learned through a friend of my mom that all that he's telling me was all lies. because we leaned that he used to work with (my moms friend) fired him due to his job laziness. When I learned it through my mom, I decided to turn him down. I'm not being materialistic here my friends, I'm just being practical. I'm thinking of our future if ever that we would have a relationship.... Do you think that I made the right decision? Should I still befriend him? What's your opinion on this guys? Please share.. Happy posting!
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3 responses
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
26 Dec 08
You are perfectly within your rights to determine if he is suitable for you or not. You should just turn him down politely if that is your wish. Cheers!!
@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
27 Dec 08
That's what I did I rejected him politely. Happy posting..
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
26 Dec 08
Thank God better sense has prevailed and you have made the right decision. I was worried about t his only and had warned you to be careful of such men. It is better to be careful and happy. Lead your own life and be happy. Such vultures will be available at every corner, out to prey young innocent people. You have done right and Im proud of you. Keep it up.
@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
27 Dec 08
Thanks friend for your concern. The first time I've discussed about this,you already showed me your sincerity and your honest concern. I really appreciate that.. I would like to share you something that derived me into such decision, I never felt that he truly love me..
@annierose (21583)
• Philippines
26 Dec 08
If I were on your shoes, I will do same thing as what you did.It is a good thing considering also the background of the one who is courting you before you accept him, in order not to have regrets in the end.We also do same if someone is courting us.It is really a bad thing making lies. I do not like people who fabricates story also just for me to be impressed with him.For me, a good man should always be honest to the one he loves.Imagine, he is just in the stage of courting you, and then he already invented some stories on you. I think, it is not good.I not want a lazy man also to be my boyfriend.I think that I will not have good future if the man I am with is not responsible. In fact, I cannot be happy also having a lazy boyfriend by my side.
For me, I can say that what you did is right. In going into relationship, it is right to use your heart in choosing the man you will love. However, using your mind must not be neglected also. We have given a heart and mind to think rationally and we should use it wisely.I can see on your picture that you are still young and I know you deserve better than him. I believe that God has someone created for you to be love and be with for the rest of your life. Just be patient and hold on to your faith in Him.
@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
27 Dec 08
Yes I always do that. I always let got decide on my fate. In fact,I prayed about this and God abruptly answered my prayers... Thank God He led me to a right decision.
