Do you take risk and courage for love?
By amazingheart
@amazingheart (781)
Philippines
December 27, 2008 12:28am CST
I have always daydreamed of having a man who would be my soulmate, someone I could share my every thought with. But I have to admit that when it comes right down to it, that possibility scares me. I feel like being close to someone can very risky business. :( This is always my reason to all the guys who sent their interest, that I always take slow and I am very cautious with my decision. But the truth is, I am afraid to take risk and can not find courage to develop a loving relationship. :(
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15 responses
@clickmind (93)
• Philippines
28 Dec 08
You are wise to take it slow, you should. But I don't think opening up to a guy, in the context of friendship, will be risky. Of course if the guy has started courting you, that is already a different story--especially if you don't like him, hehe
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@clickmind (93)
• Philippines
28 Dec 08
I think I know what I'll wish for you this new year.. =)
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@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
28 Dec 08
Dear friend,
I hope in love, the couple do have to maintain a better bond or relationship each other, taking care each other with special care every time. Risk and courage depends person to person and taste to taste. I do like to have a love without much risk and or not courage only I need a sincere love, it is there the loved one would avoid the other to get hurt and I may allow my loved one to take risk or show unnecessary courage, it not courage also I would love her provided she love me sincerely. Moreover I would also give importance to her taste of her way to be a good lover. Hence I feel in love not to hurt each other is more important and more than that loving each other.
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
28 Dec 08
hello amazingheart,
Indeed when I love someone, I'll give my one hundred and one percent to her. It's worth trying. At least I tried than never try at all.
Getting into relationship is like playing a gamble. Some are losers. Good for the winners. For not all realtionship are working out as expected. But as the saying goes "It's better to love and lost than never love at all."
Why don't you try, who knows you will find not only your soulmate but also your true love. It's just a matter of trust.
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@amazingheart (781)
• Philippines
28 Dec 08
Thanks for being nice Robert. Wonderful words indeed. :) I'll take it. Its just a matter of trust. Thanks... Happy mylotting!
@UtopianIdealist (1604)
• United States
15 Jan 09
Placing your heart in someone's hands is always a risk, but once you find that person, you will know it was worth it. Taking it slow is a good idea, and you will know when someone is worth more risk when they are able to respect your decision.
I know you will find the right person, I do hope this new year helps you find it.
@amazingheart (781)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
Hugssss!!! Thank you so much, that was indeed a very touching words!!
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
28 Dec 08
Yes when the right man comes, no more fears of taking risk and eventually you'll find courage to develop relationship as when you fell in in love, trust and respect go with it. Others can't even think to be cautious. The best way to do is to be sure of your feelings and be cautious to whom are you feeling in love with but if he's the right man nothing to be worried of...
@amazingheart (781)
• Philippines
28 Dec 08
Thanks bing! I will take that consideration. If I meet the right man for me, then yes, maybe, I can take a risk and take it slowly. :) Thanks!! Muuaaaah!
@raik02 (78)
• Philippines
28 Dec 08
In my case i would always take the risk no matter how unsure i am. because i believe that if i dont make a move nothing will happen in most cases. and besides it is another opportunity to make myself better. i just always keep in mind that with every risk failure is normal and that failing is never a shameful event.
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@stormy09 (437)
• United Arab Emirates
28 Dec 08
Why afraid of taking risk.. Go dear you will not going to be happy if your always cautios with your decision.. Dont worry about what will happen next because that is the game of life/love very risky but very exciting..
@shalom123 (51)
• India
27 Dec 08
Without taking risk no one can suceed in any terms of life. In love too it is important. First of all we should be confident enough of our feelings. Then only we can let other person know it.
@amazingheart (781)
• Philippines
27 Dec 08
Thanks Shalom happy mylotting...:) Have a nice day (or night):)
@desiree_apuli (455)
• Philippines
27 Dec 08
It is nice to hear that you take slow and be cautious with your decision but you have to take risk because if you will be always afraid to risk you will end up as an old maid. We have to take the risk because in every relationship there is ups and downs it is up to both of you how you handle the situation. It is also nice to be cautious because you do not know if that person will just be your boyfriend or it might end up as your husband.
@amazingheart (781)
• Philippines
27 Dec 08
Thanks desiree!! Wa! Being one child is not a good idea for being an old maid lol. That I don't want to happen.....I just could not find courage to take risk, or maybe still I have not find the right man yet? :) Life! Thanks for responding!
@charismaladyn (43)
• Goose Creek, South Carolina
28 Dec 08
There's nothing wrong with being cautious. But then again, there's nothing wrong with taking a chance. If you don't take chances, you won't make mistakes, but then you'll never learn anything about yourself and about the world. It's more than developing a loving relationship with another person... it's also about discovering who you are.
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@GAUCI123 (1042)
• Malta
27 Dec 08
Well it is a pity that you don't take risks to be loved and love. Love is magical when you find it and you treasure it forever. It is true that you may suffer for love but that dosen't mean that you cannot risk. Well you can't take things too much fast, but it is wonderful to be loved and having someone waiting you home. Hope you will find the perfect man for you :)
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@amazingheart (781)
• Philippines
28 Dec 08
Love is really wonderful Gaucii, maybe I just have to recognize and prioritize the various aspects of my journey and evaluate more how important it to me. Thanks! Happy mylotting!
@SueD823 (371)
• United States
27 Dec 08
This saddens me, for some reason. Though as a woman I think we all suffer (?) from the "Cinderella Syndrome", I know that we all have a very good sense of reason that there is not perfection, but there is something very close.
I say unfortunately, but in reality, it is my fortune that I am on my third marriage. I have never been happier in my lifetime. We have been married for 3.5 years. We met and it was a whirlwind courtship...gosh I sound old, but for lack of better words....!
We were married a month later! Yes, we have are ups and downs and we all hear it, from the the ones that have survived marriage or relationships that have lasted decades, that communication is #1. It is. Learning how to communicate is what is important and more importantly, to communicate without hate.
It is a struggle at times. And we fail, but we both have the same goal.
Be picky, my dear. Wait till the time is right. But waiting for perfection....? Well, I don't know. No one is perfect. We can only get close and we can not change anyone, we can only accept their quirks and what we think are downfalls and go with it and laugh.
Good luck in your quest and I wish you love and happiness!
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@amazingheart (781)
• Philippines
28 Dec 08
Thank you sue! I agree. Changing a one's a person is a NO-NO to me. I understand there are just things and aspects are simply not negotiable. Well maybe there is just a certain amount of frustration and disappointment is inevitable. That's how life it is.
Happy mylotting!
@jamenzojoy (57)
• Philippines
27 Dec 08
life is basically a risk-taking endeavor. everyday we take risks, no matter how hard we may not think of it. we eat everyday and we take on the risk of either developing food-related diseases or a more chronically-occuring health concern. when we go to work, we take the risk of having to commute and hustle with the crowd or drive our own car weaving through heavy traffic. if there's choice involved, there is risk. and we always go back to the question "which of these choices is better?". so, in essence, we take the risk of having to choose an option when we could have opted for the other. relationships are like that. man is not infallible, you know. and only when you start to understand that we basically have choices, no matter how trivial they may be, we run risks in our lives - and that includes relationships.
why don't you try to go back to your childhood days and reflect on how you were shown love and affection by those around you. chances are, you will find your answer there.
@amazingheart (781)
• Philippines
28 Dec 08
Thanks jamen! That's very well said.. Life is really not perfect. It is just a matter of choice. Maybe from here I can take my journey that will satisfy my deepest and most important needs, a companion who enhances rather than inhibits that journey. Thanks for responding!Happy mylotting!
@prasanna201 (117)
• India
27 Dec 08
u are right about ur dilemma...people want to share their secrets with someone who they find most trustworthy..and to gain someone's trust u need to share some of ur secrets with that person..may be the best solution for this problem is to disclose some of ur secrets (that son't drop a bombshell on u if disclosed to the world) with that person and observe how he receives it..by interacting with a person u can know his character and then u may have the courage to take risk and confide in him..and then may be u might find ur soulmate
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@amazingheart (781)
• Philippines
27 Dec 08
Actually I choose to be happy being single.:) I enjoy my solitude instead, but I can't help questioning myself what if's?. Hehehhe..
@giorazor (46)
• Georgia
28 Dec 08
love is like something that we need to live, but it makes us weak.... someone may simulate by your love and so on i wouldn't count.... but let's see from positive side... i need love to feel that i am alive. i love this filling because it's crazy and u r getting crazy for love for your partner it's somehow gaves u power to do such things that u haven't done yet
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