to love or to be loved?

The beauty of love is when it is reciprocal. You have to be the lover and the beloved to enjoy your relationship. When you are the lover alone, you will feel cheated and pressure will be on you. You will be like a puppet. You would'nt want to offend you partner, so you can't correct her when he/she is wrong because you will scared he/she might be angry and leave. On the other hand, you won't be confortable when you are beloved, you might think your partner is tieing you down. You will be tempeted to be proud and it might result in breakup. And like they say you never know what you got till it's gone.

loving is a relationship that requires at least two to have it in existence. you cannot be loved alone, you will have to love back. you cannot love alone, you will have to receive the love and reciprocate before a relationship of love can be happening. so you see, xtian, love is a symbiotic relationship. this is the reason that the loving fails once one of the partners falls out of love. when a good and compatible person comes your way, loving and being loved will just simply roll. everything will feel easy and right. just wait for the right person, xtian, they you will know what i mean. because the compatibility phase of the relationship will do all the magic to it.

i like to be lover, i dont want to be with someone who i dont love. i want to be with the person who will inspire me to be a better person & that is someone who i love.

I guess i would have the same response.. I would choose ofcourse to be the beloved...but what if everbody chooses the same? hehehe... who will be the lover??? Kahlil Gibran once wrote, "Love is sufficient unto love"... love equates love itself...so no matter what we choose between the two, there would be no assurance of being safe for love only needs love too...