Would you still be a friend with your x?

Thankfully I had a painful parting with any of the guys I have spoken to inspite of the of our friendship. I have had and do have some resentments about certain things but mainly they came as a result of choices I made. My exes (two) are great guys and we still njoy each others company when we meet or speak. No matter how long it takes to communicate it is always good when we do. I dont know if I would be able to exercise yur advise if I was involved in a painful break though.

Absolutely! I think this is especially important if you have kids. I hear so many horror stories from single parents about the fights they have with their exes - unfortunately the ones that get hurt the most are the kids! I am a single mother and I have a great relationship with my son's father. We have become friends and are able to co-parent very effectively because of this. What we learned early on is that we both wanted what was best for our son. We realized that, although we may go about things in different ways, our goal is the same - for our son to be happy, well-adjusted, and not only to be, but to feel loved. All we needed was trust in each other - trust that we would each do our best for our son - and everything else fell into place. Today, we have a great friendship and our son, at age 12, knows that he has 2 parents that love him very much. Plus, since we talk regularly, he can't play us off of each other lol I have never been jealous of the love that my son has for his father or for anybody else for that matter - the way I see it is that the more good people that love my child, the better off he is. Plus, I am his mother and we have that special mother/child bond - I know that he loves me and that nothing will ever change that. Don't get me wrong - his father and I still argue, and we sometimes disagree about things pertaining to our son, but we always take the time to work it through.

Same with me.Me and my high school puppy love are still good friends.We still have feelings for each other but he jst can't admit that.But the good thing is that he's happy for me knowing that I already have someone but his feelings for me are still there.

If a person is not right for you or you not right for a particular person, you need to end the relationship and be glad that it ended. But that's no reason not to remain friends. If you care for someone, whether you're a couple or not, you should want happiness for the other person no matter what.

i can't be a friend to my ex. i can't be friend because if there is fault in him only i will leave him. i even can;t see him again, because of his behaviour.

I could be friends with my first love but he still does not like me (thats a nice way to put it). I figure that what is in the past should stay there, and as we grow and learn from it, just move on. If you keep the hurt inside all it will do is eat you up. We learn from our mistakes and if you can be friends with your first love, than you have it made, if not well just let it go. Sarafina50

yes but from a far your feeling is still raw beening around her keeps the feeling alive and it,s over.when she rejects you again all the hurt and pain will be refreshed.i still say ex,s should stay in there play friends from a far is better.

I agree with you. My x actually introduced me to my wife now. Although we haven't spent anytime together after my wife and I got together. We are still cordial whenever we do see each other in person. At first it was awkward, as my x told me she thought that my wife and I would end up together, this was a long time before I was even interested in my wife now. But it was after a while just fine.

I had contact with my ex recently due to a business situation. I had not seen or heard from him in years. We had a good old chat and caught up on what we have been doing over the time we have been apart. It was nice to catch up but we are both married to other people now and to pursue a friendship would feel weird as far as I am concerned. I am not sure how he feels but I would imagine it would be the same. Some people can do the "friends after" thing; some even invite their ex to their wedding! Personally I don't think I could do that and my current partner would not handle my friendship with an ex very well; come to think of it I probably wouldn't either if the situation was reversed. I think being civil and polite to each other is enough as hiding from them would make life way too hard.

It is pretty much like everything in life, it seems the older you get the more you confront your past in your future. I am lucky to be civil to 2 exes, I would not say we are friends who would go out and share a movie, etc. but in the past, I became friends with an ex then married him , that lasted 7 years now we share a son and are friendly for that reason, but I would not ask him over for drinks or anything. Bottom line is you find good friends where you can, you have a benefit with exes because you know them, have already established a bond in the past . So, some of the friend layout is already done. Find a good friend and cherish them, no matter the origin!

I've been lucky enough to at least remain acquaintances with all of my exes up to this point. My most serious one has been gone for 3 years now, and it's still hard to face him because I was in the wrong when he left me. I still feel like I need to apologize a lot of the time, because I want to take back what I did, but he seems to have moved on, so I will try too.

yeah i thnk so.. cuz i am! i mean if u really liked her enuf to bcoem her boyfriend then i thnk u shud b able to remain friends and beign friends in teh full term happy lotting and have a nice day!

I would not want to be a friend with x because that would remind bad memory of relationship, and I am not going to forgive for any of his bad behavior.

depends on the situation that each of you have a good relation before coz it hurts

Hello! I tried to be friends with my ex girlfriend. However, she still loved me, and, therefore, she did not approach to me as a friend. She was always saying things like: "I want to be with you. If you want, you can kiss me.". Things like that. I had already decided, that it was all over, but she kept insisting, hoping. I could not make her live with all that hope. And she was always yelling at me, after I broke up with her, because "I gave more attention to other girls". What is the matter? I'm not with her, I am not her boyfriend, and if there is one thing that I cannot tolerate is people yelling at me in public places. She made a hell of a confusion, she cried, she turned her friends against me and all, just because I liked another girl and not her. But poor victim she was. It seems like I do not even remember how she said that she liked revenge, when we were still together. It is like if she never was an aggressive person, which is completely my opposite. And all my friends watching that, they were looking at me like if I had been the worst guy ever. And then I decided that I would not be her friend anymore. I stopped going there to talk to her. She tried to come talk to me, I replied good, but I was cold. I was not arrogant, I was just cold. I couldn't talk to somebody like that as before. And then we started getting far and far. We still talk, but not like we used to. It is a shame, because I'd befriend any ex of mine, no matter how hurt I was, as a friend. Sometimes, the love we feel can turn into a great relationship. Respectfully, Munhozmib.

Depend about the past. I could be a friend but can also be an enemy.

I was very bitter and was not in communication with my x for many years. Then, out of the blue, one day he called. We came to grips with alot of the old baggage and now we are very good friends. It will never be what it was but it is nice to feel he is a friend now.

I would love to be friends with my ex. He was my best friend while we were together and there are aspects of our friendship that I really miss some days. Like, he was the best critic/motivator I ever had for my writing. I could give him anything and he'd tell me honestly if he thought it was good or if it needed work. I don't have anyone like that anymore. Or at least no one I trust to be like that. Some friends swear they are honest about my writing but they never offer anything but praise so I can't be sure if they really are honest. But he either doesn't want to or can't handle a friendship with me so we don't speak.

I hate all of my exs so I wouldn't be friends with them. They were all a-holes that I find hard not to punch in the face when I see them out and about.

As much as possible I would prefer to be their friends. But life is not that easy as we wanted to be. It is a case to case basis of how the relationship was. (Jakker your responder is right,).But if seeing him again wont bring old drama,pain,and tension then maybe its the best to reconcile and just be friends. :)