whats the hardest part of your relationship?

the hardest part in my relationship right now would spending time together. matter of fact i believe the hardest thing in a relationship would be spending time with your loves one. i mean like come on, if your loves one want to see a movie that you don't like (let say PS I Love You), you probably will accompany her and watch it. second part i believe would be trust, sometimes when you don't want to tell them something, they will think you are hiding something from them. now, thats bad. so trust also very important.

It actually depends on the stage the relationship is at. That is if you are newly together as a couple, are in a long standing relationship, have young children, have older children or even no chldren at home. Each stage brings different demands on our time and attention and that can sometimes cause problems. For example with the arrival of a new baby we tend to be oh so happy. Then realism sets in because babies can and do make a lot of demands. For the first time we have to consider this helpless baby who depends on us for simply everthing. We also find that everything has to be planned, i.e. feeding baby before going out and making sure enough clean clothes in case of accidents, allowing extra time to do the shopping etc. Not to mention the baby waking up during the night which resuts in the parents becoming sleep deprived. As the child/ren grow the demands on our time change, as they should because if they aren't changing then there is something wrong. That is not a thought that any parent ever wants to consider so we accept the changing demands. For most couple the hardest parts are: 1. Time spent with each other 2. Time spent apart from each other 3. Money We need to make the time to spend with each other. What that really means is that we have to turn off the television, go offline and simply spend time with each other talking about anything that affects our life. That is important whether we are young or old, in a new or established relationship. Sometimes it might mean that we for example go out somewhere that we would prefer not to go. Okay so men do not like mushy movies but the fact is that the female does, so sometimes we go to a movie that is not to our taste. The female does not like going to smokey bars but she does every once in a while because that is what her man enjoys doing. We each do not need to go with the other all the time, but once in a while does not hurt and can enhance the relationship. A couple does not need to spend all their time together exclusively. It does not make for a good relationship and in fact can make things less interesting or harm the relationship. Each partner in the relationship has different wants, needs and interests and that is what attracted us to our partner initially. Why once you are a couple would you want to change the person you found so attractive when you first met? Not all of our friends have to be the same. Being apart can help the relationship in that when we can be together we have different things to talk about and that makes for a good friendship within the couple side of the relationship. Being able to feel comfortable with your partner having some independance and a life outside of the couple relationship is an important part. It spells two things. One is "trust" and the other is confidence because without those twio elements, there can be no long term relationship of significance. Money is another important issue in a relationship. Both partners, if the relationship is more than dating each other with no future plans, needs to know the financial status. They both need to set realistic goals on how much they can spend, what they can save and how they can achieve their financial goals for the future. If one of the partners makes all the financial decisions, the other person can be left in limbo. Each partner needs to have some money, even it if only $5 per week, which they can spend as and how they please. That is their right and also gives them some independence plus it is part of the trust element in the relationship. That is we trust each other to limit their frivilous spending to whatever limit we agree on and in the cited example that is $5 per week.

SInce having kids just getting to talk to each other and get a conversation going with out having a child inturrupting every 5min or less. It gets hard because you can't discuss everything infront of the kids but man they get in the way of even simple hugs & kisses ect when we come home from work ect. And I truly miss being able to walk thru a store just holding each others hand :( Don't get me wrong I love our kids but we do need that time togeather and we don't get out often on our own anymore nor will we for a few yrs I'm afraid.

For me its very hard to maintain a long distance relationship. My boyfriend is from another city and its 13 miles to be exact. though its not that far but he have to travel by ferry to visit at my place. We don't spend much time together but we always text and call each other. And the most important thing in a relationship is trust.

Hmmm the hardest part of my relationship is... I can't think of anything hard. I guess... hmmmm... The first several years of our relationship was the hardest part. Now it seems like easy sailing. The one struggle we have is making "alone time" together. Since our son was born we don't get as much time alone together as we used to and sometimes its hard.