Would you have made the call?

Yes, I believe I would have made the call. My son doesn't know his father, but if he wanted me to make a call to him and let his father know what he is feeling, etc I would do it. I know my daughter is always telling me how she feels about stuff when it comes to her dad and I always tell him unless she tells me it is something that she doesn't want me to talk to her dad about then I don't. I feel like the wishes of our children are what we should do. Especially if it is something that they aren't comfortable talking to the other parent about and the feel more comfortable having someone else talk to them for them. I think you did the right thing and made the right call. Not trying to be nosey, but did his father feel bad that he had hurt his son?

For sure! That's a terrible thing to do. My dad is the exact same way. He's not bad but he never talks to us. We visit him in the summers, and once in a blue moon chat with him on yahoo. He didn't call us this year. I feel neglected because he has his own family in Illinois and doesn't even bother with us. It's a terrible feeling, and it's unfair to the kids to feel so terrible. The dad needs to suffer too, in some way. Or maybe he doesn't know how bad it hurts him, so it's good to make him aware.

Yes....I would have and have done it.....and wasn't nice about it either. So many times my kids dad would promise to pick them up and suddenly he was too busy or running late. They should be told how much it hurts the kids to let them down..

You did the right thing. My kids don't even ask as they've come to expect nothing when it comes to their father other than the lies he tells.

Yes, I would have made the call. Your son's feelings are important and if you had brushed his request off or made excuses why you couldn't do it, your son's hurt feelings would not have been vindicated. It's important to know that someone cares and to let someone who should care know that he hurt you. Self esteem is very important and, while your son's father put a dent in his, you making that call helped to repair it. Good for you!

Yes I would have to say that I would have done the same thing. I think that it is important for kids to be able to let the person that hurt them know in one way or another.

YES!! One way to let him know that his son is upset of him and let him compensate it.

Yeah too right I would and I would probably not have been very polite either. I really hate reading and hearing these sad stories of parents doing this to their kids over christmas, I mean what gives it does not hurt to make just a few minutes phone call to someone who is supposed to be special.

I certainly would have made the call, I would also have my son talk to him so that he could hear the heat in his voice. I went through that with my son when he was younger. His father just stopped calling and visiting, this went on for quite a few years. Eventually, my son got the hint and stopped mentioning it. I hope your son's father realizes how much your son was hurt. After all he is the adult, not your son, and he should have had more consideration for him on Christmas Day. I hope your son is over it. By the way, what was his excuse for not calling?

You made the right thing. Your son wanted you to do it, it shows that he somehow misses his dad no matter what. Maybe he didn't want to make the call because he was hurt. I hope this makes his dad realises that his son needs him and hopefully the two will spend time together sometimes.

i guess so . well reason being when two people want to talk , and none of them can be the first one, then there has to be a mediator, who'd help in doing that.. so yes i would make the call..

yes, i would have made the call, because i think someone who neglects their children should not deserve to be a father at all.

The sad thing about relationships, things are not always what they seem like. I think the son in question actually wanted contact with his father, else, he wouldn't have been hurt by him not calling in the first place. Would I have made the call you did, perhaps I would, but not to tell him what I thought he wanted to hear.