Im going to quit answering some

I can sympathize with your posting. I too get frustrated with those that start many discussions yet don't seem to respond to many others. I'm a relative newbie to Mylot however, there is one question in regards to your posting that I would like to ask? And it is this, why is there an expectation that if I add you as a friend I have to respond to your discussions that you start? I understand that adding friends is a great way to network and bring more people to your discussion. However, I do not post a response to every discussion a friend of mine starts. I will only post a response if the topic interests me or if I have something to contribute. I will definitely make an effort to respond to those on my friends list first, but if none of those discussions interests me I may start my own, but I am more likely to respond to others in my interests section. I understand being frustrated by somebody never responding to your posts, as I do think that is disrespectful if you're consistently responding to them yet they never respond to you. On the other hand, I don't want the expectation of others on Mylot to be that if I add to you as a friend I will respond to ALL of a friend's discussion list because I will not. I will only respond if I feel I have something of importance to say. I will not post a one liner as this is another of my pet peeves here on Mylot. That's just my 2¢ worth. Happy Mylotting!

Bunny..don't stop on mine..I try to post to all of yopurs but sometimes this stupid computer freezes on me and then i have to go watch tv.... I understand what you mean.i think the same way sometimes but am not going to let it get to me since i plan on doing everything right this year.. and that means blowing rasberries at everyone..lol.. huggs

You might check and see if you are posting subjects that these friend's post responses too. I know I have friends who are always posting about wrestling, or soap operas or things I have no interest in. I hope that you have some satisfaction from your choices. Good luck.

ha ha ha ha ha ..... your nice ranting, bunnybon7. When I was on 1 - 500 no. of postings, felt very upset like what you feel it now. That's good, actually. At least they heard your friendship call specifically on "inter-respond-friend-to-friend" discussions. Last time I heard "Grandpa Bob" also pushed his limit of patience towards his friends responding attitude to his posted new discussion. Almost want to restart his friend's list. What happened next?. Most of his friends roamed to his discussion and seeking some sort of apologetical responses. OK - do as you wish for your own decision making. Yeah...undeniable statement for having the same hair color but very different at heart. Hopes your crying heard by your friends. In anyway, many accountable reasons for their absence in your class of discussions. "Little Bit Little Do, Once Missed Got To Redo".

I do understand what you mean. I tried to have notifications on but I got too many emails and could not cope with them. I check discussions my friends start but even then I cannot answer them all. There are so many friends on my list and I struggle to answer 20 discussions a day. I am not well and that is as many as I can manage so there will always be discussions that I cannot get to a and some get lost in the process. It can take me a week or more to find discussions sometimes but I still try to answer them.

i think some people have been really distracted with the holidays lately.. i know i used to be great about responding but then the holidays and some personal problems and my mom having cancer again kind of threw me for a loop to where i couldnt think of anything to respond to anyone.. i could think of things to post but couldnt think of anything good to say back.. yeah some people just never answer back or put anyone on notify but some i have noticed will be faithful and regular in answering then stop for a month or so then start up again.. so maybe they will come around.. and if im one of them well im just trying to keep myself from going insane by not letting myself think too hard about anything

I've had a glitch with my notifications for over 6 months now. All my notify's are on but I never get any e-mails when my friends start discussions. I've written to myLot several times and never gotten an answer or the glitch fixed. So I miss a lot of good discussions from my friends. It's frustrating but not much I can do about it except keep writing to them about it. From what I hear a lot of others are having the same problem so although I'm not alone in my frustration it doesn't really help!

well i guess most of the members do the same thing...some just wont respond or put the notify off because they receive too much notifications..i turned mine off to all of the members i have on my friends list for a reason..my inbox is so suffocated already and i haven't got much time to check on it and check on mylot due to loads of things to do specially at work..i got less time to check so i just go to friends started discussion and from there i answer one by one on which my time can only accumulate..some people are just so busy and some i think don't have much things to input in a certain discussion, so rather to go out of way with the discussion they just wont respond.. as for me, that's what i do, i don't answer if i know little of the discussion..i don't go after the pennies..i would rather know what to say than go out of the discussion

I know that I myself don't have friends discussions on notify. I just don't check my email enough to go through everyone's, but I do try to visit the discussions my friend's started page, and I try to do as much as I can to respond to them. Sometimes I respond more then other times. I do have friends that never answer me but then again I never answer them either, so we're even in that. I think taking them off is the best thing to do for now, it will help ease your inbox I am sure and I also think that it will help you weave through discussions.

Hi bunnybon7, I have not done a disscusion for a long time but I have been responding to all of my friends disscussions including yours and I know what you mean, when I do discussions I don't get many resposes and most my frriends don't seem to respond to it, I would about 27 the most and I have over 200 friends. Hugs. Tamara

Hi bunny! I know exactly how you feel! I have already done the same thing in a few cases and I don't even think that the people even noticed that I don't bother answering their discussions! So it's no big deal. But, in some cases the notifys just don't work right. I have had some people tell me that their notifys are on and they don't get my notifys and I don't get theirs. I don't know! I pretty much get the same ones all the time. I have 300 people on my friends list and I obviously don't get that many notifys or I would never be able to open my emails!lol I have to go through my friends list and do some cleaning out because some are no longer here and others are just not really "friends". So I agree with you completely!

I have you on my friends list and the notify is on. Being a man some of the women post things I wouldn't talk about. I have replied to several of yours that were just general information. I know you have replied to some of mine too. You just hang in there and it will all balance out in the end. I can sure understand why you are upset though. Art

Hey, I am here. I will answer, I have you on notify. . I understand how you feel. I was feeling the same way until I thought about it. I respond to their discussions and I get paid for it. And I leave it at that. Half of the time I don't even go to my email I come straight to the site and answer from their. I don't like answering from the emails. I do have some of my friends on notify and you are one of them. I reach payout so I don't worry about the ones that don't answer. I will go and check the friends in my friend section and if they haven't been active in a month or so I will delete them. Just keep on responding and get paid or points for it.

I have all my notifys off, I can't deal with the huge load of emails. Instead I scroll through Friends started as my first priority. As for those who don't reply to my discussions, or those who rarely start discussions I can get interested in, I remove them from my friends list. In fact my list is just about due to be culled, I'll do that tomorrow. If you are not starting discussions that interest them enough to comment, then they possibly have little in common with you, and you can justify deleting them. Lash

Yes, some "friends" are good at posting discussions but not so good at reading and replying to those of their friends. It's not a bad idea to concentrate your efforts on those friends who really do take the time to comment on the discussions you start.

Yes what you are saying makes sense to me. I do not start a lot of discussions and in fact it would be at least a year since I last started one. My reason is simply that sometimes I cannot get here to myLot for weeks or perhaps months and I think it is very rude not to at least read and comment on some of the responses. So until my circumstances change I will not be starting discussions. In general I think that friends should help each other and in this instance that at least means responding to some of their discussions. That is more so when you take the time to respond to discussions that your friends have started. It is simply not possible to respond to each and every discussion that is started by yor friends, but doing so to one or two every month is not unreasonable. If those on your friends list do not like any of your discussions, then why do they keep you as a friend I am wondering? I sometimes think that some people are not really aware of the meaning of friends, whether in the "real" or "cyber" world. I do not respond to every discussion started by anyone on my list of friends, but I do try to do so on a regular basis. Sometimes a friend might start several good discussions that interest me, so I will respond to those ones and perhaps not be able toget to any other discussions at that time. Other times I cannot find any friends' discussions that I can contribute to, i.e. either the topics do not interest me or perhaps what I would say has already been said by others. However I would think that I do respond to at least one discussion from each friend at least once a month. That is providing I am active on mylot for a fair bit of the time during the month. I do not have all the notifications turned on either as I simply could not cope with that many emails. Good luck and I hope that your friends read this and perhaps give some serious thought to the value of friendship and responding to some of your discussions.

This is a common complaint...I keep hearing it from so many Mylot members. Well...I honestly don't notice whether the people who respond are my friends or not. :) I just respond if I have something to say, and if I have nothing worthwhile to contribute, I just don't respond. :) I hope you won't chuck me out of your list. LOL!! Cheers and happy Mylotting

Hi bunny, Here is what I've started doing when I'm overwhelmed with all the posts that show up on my email. some people, I don't know how they do it, but they post several to many discussions a day. I can't answer every single post, so I pick one and answer it. That way, I have a chance to maybe answer at least one of all my friends discussions. I don't post many discussions because it's a lot of work to answer each and every response. Once I do that then I don't have a lot of time to answer other's discussions. That's the only way I know to be fair. Also, sometimes I don't find a discussion that interests me. I look but don't always find one. If you find people that never answer any of your posts, then turn them off. Simple as that. leenie

Yes they also do that to me as well, it is like why haven't you responed to my disussion and I will but have not been on. But I always do. I just think it is rude sometimes. I mean if you don't respond to everyone fine but none. Come on now that is just rude. I totaly agree with you. I wish you luck with it. Your friend onlydia

hey. how about me? im not even your friend but im responding to you right now. :) just kidding. good luck mylotting.