Passwords???
@keelymcilwain (797)
Canada
December 27, 2008 11:53pm CST
I am just curious how many people know there partners passwords?
My boyfriend and I at one point shared a computer. We both new each others passwords since before we were dating. At what point did you find out their password and why? I think since I use mainly 1 password just different versions of it that by telling him one he could figure out the rest. But he openly told me his for when I use his computer and it seems to be the same for most things.
I do not know his banking info as its not my account and has nothing to do with me. And I have never even tried to get into the account. I know his msn, face book, and game sites. He knows the same for me.
If you don't share passwords why not? Is it just a privacy thing? For me the things he knows passwords to aren't very private, there my profiles online that anyone can see anyways. I feel comfortable with this because we are open and we don't seem to have anything to hide. I don't share banking ones with him because like me he feels its not for him to see.
If you do know passwords do you check their accounts to see what there up to ? Say like in there messages and stuff? At the beginning of our relationship I think we both checked through each others stuff just checking if we could trust them. I know its not the greatest way to test trust, but I think it worked for us. Maybe because we didn't have to crack the passwords.
If you have nothing to do with passwords do you snoop through your partners computer? Or say a friend's or family members if you do not have a partner?
What are your thoughts?
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10 responses
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
28 Dec 08
I believe that there should be privacy. I don't need to know my wife's thoughts or communications. I am not insecure at all. Cheers!!
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@keelymcilwain (797)
• Canada
28 Dec 08
I wish I wasn't so insecure, but I have had a bad relationship for 4 years, I was 20 when that ended and I moved home. After that I had trust issuse. This way by sharing common things like a password to facebook. That helped me learn how to trust my new boyfriend. I think If I didn't know say his msn or his facebook, everyday I would have thoughts who is he talking to and about what. What does he do when im no home type thing. But knowing it im like yea man go on the comp Im going to the store and I don't have this feeling some net Sl*t might be coming over.
@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
28 Dec 08
My girl friend knows every pass words to everything & vise versa... She & I've been living together for close to 5 years & have been dating for close to 7 years... I guess on my part, it's more of laziness, for the lack of better expression... In the beginning, it was more like, "I'm not really good with words or explaining things in details... Here! Here are pass words to everything... If you have any questions, look'em up... If you still have questions, I'll try to explain them...!!!" type of situation... If my girl friend wants to shopping for the house, she'll look up my account & see how much money is in my bank/credit card... If there's less money than she tought there should be, then she pulls up the details on my accounts to see where I spent the money, more for accuracy than "snooping"... She did find out that once, my paycheck didn't clear, direct deposit didn't come through when it should've been, & called me at work... I went to human resources & it was fixed the next day... I wouldn't call what we do "snooping", but we do look into each other's things... There was one time when my work, my 2nd job, emailed me unexpectly & my girl friend checked my email... She knew I was going to be late without me having to call her... - I purposely set up my email accounts so that a copy of email comes to my blackberry & the other copy goes to my computer - My girl friend & I have completely open relationship as far as each other's personal things go... There's nothing about me she doesn't know & vise-versa...
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@keelymcilwain (797)
• Canada
28 Dec 08
We have just decided with buying a house that we should have a joint account to make things easier. I make less then him so I don't mind at all. So I guess this means I will have accesse to that account. The previous ones had things to do with his kids and his ex so I just clearly stayed out of it.
@CRSunrise (2981)
• United States
29 Dec 08
I know my husband's passwords, and he knows mine. I have no problem telling him mine. He doesn't usually get into my stuff unless I know about it. I know my husband's passwords, and he will tell me his password if for some reason I don't know it. We are totally trusting.
@mimico (3617)
• Philippines
29 Dec 08
This is very tricky. Not giving your partner your password means that there is a lack of trust in the relationship. Asking for your partner's password likewise shows a lack of trust. Personally though, I'd prefer to know each other's passwords. It's up to me whether I want to dig in and take at look at his bank account or email, right? But I'd like to know, just in case I decide to snoop. i won't snoop though, I'll try very hard not to. :)
@Kmarie923 (875)
• United States
28 Dec 08
My boyfriend and I know each other's passwords. I know all of his and he knows most of mine. I don't like to have the same password for everything, so I have quite a few. He knows my email and facebook and all that though. We trust each other and don't really have much to snoop through. Though when he first told me his passwords, I admit that I did go through some of his messages.
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@keelymcilwain (797)
• Canada
28 Dec 08
Thanks for admitting! Makes me feel a bit less of a snoop knowing other people have or do or will do the same thing. Why did you go through them? What was your reason. Mine was because of his ex. I needed to know it was over.
@amyers06 (61)
• United States
28 Dec 08
I know my husband's passwords to everything. Mostly because I had to make them for him! He knows mine too... but only because I have the same one for everything.
As far as snooping... I don't snoop. I'll check his email for him when he asks me too but that is about it. I don't care who he talks to. If infidelity on his part is gonna happen... it will happen. And he knows the consequences!
@keelymcilwain (797)
• Canada
28 Dec 08
So true eh. If its going to happen, they all know the consequences, so either be really sneaky and try not to get caught or just don't do it! lol
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
29 Dec 08
I know some of my partners passwords for some things and she know some of mine for other ones. I don't know her email passwords or her banking information but I'm really not sure that I even should know those. I think those are kind of private but I guess it just depends on the couple.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
28 Dec 08
before we know each others passwords but sometimes we realized it would be great if we have privacy sometimes.
@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
28 Dec 08
I will say that both my hubby and I know each others passwords. At first we had trust issues and after checking each others accounts to see what we were up to really helped us also with our relationship. Now that we know what we expect from each other on the computer. On top of that we are always on the computer at the same time anymore because we do the same stuff. Even when I'm not home I don't have to worry because he tells me what he was up to on the computer and what family friends wrote. As I tell him the same. We fell that if we are open with each other with what we do on the computer that it helps us alot with trusting each other. But now we hardly tell each other what goes on when we use the computer in less we suspect something. Which is hardly ever.
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@best07 (22)
• Singapore
28 Dec 08
Me and my wife do not keep our passwords/pins a secret from each other simply because we trust each other. There's no secret between us and frankly I trust her more than I trust myself. After being married for yrs..I guess she's the only one I can trust. Having stood by me during the difficult times...when I was down and out and through many others I guess we are inseparable. Knowing each other passwords/pins is not a privacy matter unless you don't regard your partner as a part of yourself. Just my thoughts.
