Seeing old friends......have they changed? Have you?

@rocketj1 (6955)
United States
December 28, 2008 6:09pm CST
I am really sentimental about old friends. If you've been important in my life, I have a huge soft spot for you in my heart! I have been in contact recently with some friends that my husband and I have not seen in about 10 years. Kimberlie started e-mailing me and we have been catching up on all the news from each others lives. She and her husband Mike live in our parents town which is about 2 and 1/2 hours away. It's the town I grew up in and the town we were married in. When we went to see our family there over the holidays, we had some extra time and stopped in to see if Mike and Kimberlie were home. My son Alex and my daughter Elizabeth and I all waited in the car for my husband to knock on their door. It looked dark, and we weren't sure they were home. They live above their office. My husband knocked and Mike hollered down to see who it was. I need to explain that Mike is...... well ......a nut! My son says "Have we met these guys before? " I say,"You were really little. You probably don't remember them." My son and daughter look towards the door and out steps Mike. He flings the door open with a silly grin. In 10F degree weather he's wearing no shirt with a scarf!! .......... Now we've all lost it! My kids are laughing their heads off and wondering "What kind of friends do my parents have anyway!" We had the best visit! The jokes were flying around at a thousand puns per second! We laughed and hugged and reminisced over good times! We all agreed that aside from the changing hair color of Mike (gray), we all looked exactly the same as we did years ago. (How DID we do that!! hehe) Have you ever seen a friend that you haven't seen in years? Was it like picking right up where you left off? Or was it awkward? Did they change much in appearance or personality? Did they maybe even improve? How about you? Did your life or appearance surprise them in any way?
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@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
29 Dec 08
I have met a friend over 10 years. And we have a lunch together. Something may changed. She is a mother now and I'm remain single. So it seems that she is mature. But anyway, she looks very happy. Hope everything going on well with her.
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@Humbug25 (12540)
29 Dec 08
Hi rocketj1 I am actually going to meet up with a guy I haven't seen in what must be the best part of 16 years tomorrow. I am really nervous as I am at least twice the size I was when he last saw me and needless to say that I look about 16 years or so older too. We have chatted online regularly and he seems like the same chap he once was so I am not too worried just a bit nervous!
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Ooooo!! I NEED to know! How did it go? Give me the scoop!
@Humbug25 (12540)
2 Jan 09
Well it actually went very well but I could only spend enough time with him to have a cup of coffee whilst my mum looked after the kids in the park. I was a bit naughty because I told her I was looking around the shops looking for bargains because after what has happened to me in the past I know she would worry and is worried about my kids too as am I. My kids still talk about a guy I dated a year ago! I would really like to see him again and he really has matured and grown a lot since I saw him last but he lives 2 hours from me and I don't want to get too close to someone or my kids in case it didn't work out. I am not sure how he feels about it all though I did get a text from him about half an hour after meeting up to say that he enjoyed himself and hopes that it won't be as long before we have our next coffee together!!
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• Philippines
29 Dec 08
Hi rocketj1! I would really love to see my old friends again. It's been a while since I have seen some of my good old friends. Some of them are based abroad, others are somewhere else here in the Philippines and others, I don't know where. Recently, I have seen some old friends and one of them surprised me the most. She has not only changed physically. Her attitude also has changed a lot. She used to be very humble and soft-spoken. Well, all that changed. She has become loud and proud. She also has become tactless.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
29 Dec 08
Uh-oh!Were you disappointed in the change?
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
29 Dec 08
i'm sentimental about most everything. i have always thought there was nothing like old friends & really there is not but i've made some nice new friends on mylot.i am even still friends w/2 of my ex-sisters-in-law. one ofthem & igraduated together. she acted srange for awhile but now we aew just like we use to be. another one i graduated w/to in 1960. my gosf that sounds awful & impossible. it is great to see old friens. i'm glad u got to & that y'all had such a good time together. i know i have changed but some of thhem don't seem to change much.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
29 Dec 08
I thought you might be a sentimental softie just like me!! Thanks, jo:)
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
29 Dec 08
i have to confess, i am. take care. jo
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Dec 08
oh that sounds like a wonderful visit and very fun. theres so many friends my hubby and i had that i'd like to see. but they seem to have stopped being friends after hubby passed. i guess they dont know what to say even after this long
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
29 Dec 08
Some people must find that awkward in some way. I'm really very sorry to hear that! Has it been a long time since your husband passed away?
• China
29 Dec 08
i can not believe the thing happen on me is ture . my girlfriend aparting from me ,about tow days latter ,she make a boyfriend .but the boy and me in the same class. can you tell me some good advice .
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
29 Dec 08
Wow! So you broke up with her and she found another boyfriend in 2 days?! That is terrible! You are better off without her, my friend! She does not seem like the right kind of girl for you. It must be difficult for you to have to see her new boyfriend in class. He will be unfortunate too as she will probably do the same thing to him too.
• United States
29 Dec 08
One of my best friends came to visit me this year from Germany and we had not seen each other for 31 years. We recognised each other right away and we just started up our friendship again as if it had been just last week since we saw each other. The first day I nearly lost my voice as we talked non stop all day. I was pleasantly surprised that I had not forgotten how to speak German fluently.
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@healer (1779)
• India
29 Dec 08
Its really nice to meet people after a long time and most of my friends whom i have met after a long time have changed a lot and its really nice to see them matured. The way they speak and their physical appearance also, but something will be there to remind me of him and its really nice. Some people change a lot physically and personality also so its really hard to make out if he is the person we have known. Some friends when we meet does not recognize me and its really embarrassing because i think i haven't changed but they say that i have changed a lot.
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@KaMlBob (786)
• United States
29 Dec 08
My childhood friend and I got together after not seeing each other for 23 years. We flew out to Tennessee to pick up my stepson and stayed at her place, she picked us up from the airport and it was strange, she looked the same as she did when we were 15 years old, she looked great and she had the same personality. It was awesome to see her and we still email back and forth. I, too am very sentimental about old friends and ALWAYS enjoy seeing them. I think it would be awful for it to be awkward and have nothing in common! It's mostly sad for me when I lose touch with people though.
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• Philippines
29 Dec 08
just like you i also have a soft spot for long lost friends. but since im young im actually now lloking for my childhood friends from school and from the nieghborhood. i actually found one again on facebook, and im so thankful for the inventors of that site cause i actually found my friend. but what saddens me is that she told me in her reply that i am familiar.just familiar. that's sad cause our group was really really close back in gradeschool. i have another friend who i found again, our reunion was awkward. anyways, im still very open to the finding old friends thing. what im realy trying to practice now, is to keep my present friends. i have neighbors who used to be my friends and yet we dont hang out anymore and its sad cause theyre just one door away. so i guess, the way to not have old friends is to keep in touch and always remember and love the friends that you have now.
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• United States
29 Dec 08
Being from a "small town" in North Carolina, I run into old friends and school mates all the time. Sure, we have all aged but we've lived and learned while changing as we did so. Sometimes I smile when I see certain people who "thought they were all there was" back in High School and now their looks have really faded away... Not too long ago I ran into my 3rd Grade teacher. I am 53 years old and was amazed at the fact that she recognized me before I did her. She even called me by name!
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• China
8 Jan 09
i am fell so gratitude for .i think you must be a kind girl .i am fell nice to you . i fell the friend is so improtant for me .because i am a true man. i am a student come from china .do you know abou the chinease .what is you felling .i am so poor you friend . last month i hurt myself .my feet hurt badly. almost can not moving .but now i fell well . fell very well to meet you online .sometimes friend is very improtant for me .because want to run business one day .so i need friend .i am i sunny boy . with my best wish to your farmily.
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• China
29 Dec 08
We have a website in China, there everyone must be sign in with their real name, to join that site, I find so many friends, some are my priamry school friends, some are middle school friends, some are my high school friends. I found everyone now have a good job, excepting me, so sad.
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• India
29 Dec 08
With a father in the Indian Army, I have been moving from one place to another all my life. Making friends and keeping in touch, losing touch- all became a part of my life from the beginning. And yes I did meet a friend from long ago after 20 long years. She had changed so much. she was such a tomboy and full of life but had become so serious in life now. Smiling had become an effort for her. But I cant say that for all my friends since with some of them its still like going back to your childhood. Somethings are just too precious and its worth keeping in touch for it....
@walijo2008 (4644)
• United States
29 Dec 08
I recently got back in touch with my best friend from high school, I think the last time we talked was about 5 yrs. ago. What made us start talking again, was I remembered her birthday, and I sent her a text message telling her Happy Birthday, I wasn't even sure if that was still her number. A few minutes later I got a text from her saying thank you, then from there we started talking again, its like we started right where we left off, we've also met for dinner once and I met her new man. She was married before and I didn't even know they had divorced and that happened two years ago..lol. We just tried to catch up on each others lives, and what we've been doing for the past 5 yrs. She hasn't changed much in appearance, still has the same red hair, and I don't think I've changed much, I just lost a few pounds. It was good to see her, and we're definitely staying in touch.
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