Do you believe that being open and being honest is sometimes a risky thing?

I try not to let the past cripple my future, I fail sometimes but most of the time the past is keep in a place that doesn't bother me or affect me in negative ways. I think that being honest is sometimes a risky thing, but in my opinion better risk to be honest than risk fooling the whole world (including yourself). It's better to face problems face to face than to simply avoid them, easy to say, but it takes a lot of courage. I think the best idea is to stop yourself from being dishonest to anyone. True, some things are best kept unknown to others, everybody should have some secrets. However, keeping secrets or not revealing them unnecessarily doesn't mean that you are dishonest. Being honest always maybe very difficult. not being dishonest should be a practical advice always. ^^

Not all people can accept human's self-learning. Especially, when they keep accusing other without looking deep into themselves what they have "self-inner-properties" for; Strength, Weakness, Opportunity and Threat. Life process learning is justly like a nature-nurture-school, an example; when we first known as infant. What takes first?. From our first second of birth, we are nothing. Next 7 days, our ear functioning for hearing(listening). Another next 7 days, I mean day 14 our eyes started their function for sighting. The power or faculty of seeing; perception of objects by use of the eyes; vision. So, the flow chart of our life beginning would look like this; birth crying(sad & happy) hearing(listening) seeing(sighting) toddling walking What the hell I am talking in my both above paragraph?. Am I talking trivial on responding to your point of discussion?. Am I just for earnings by making respond and caring our friendship as myLot friend?. My answer is all for 'NO' to my own question marks(3 of them). It's all related to make answer to your question. If I were in her shoes, I have to 'cry-out' for help and respect those helpers. Secondly, I have to listen to all helpers' points of help. Thirdly, I have to meticulous adherence to technicalities on those help tips for which one is the most feasible and effective for me. Second lastly, I will doing SORT and SOLVE those problems accordingly; one-by-one and step-by-step. Very impossible for one person to make clear all problems in one short at one time or commonly know as BULK SOLUTION. Unless, really got the perfect delegation superb-expert parties. Finally, for my 'walking' step - I have to look my life with my future minded person. That's all from me AH, if I'm less in my explanations just ignore it. Be good and take good.

being open and being honest is indeed a risky thing, amazing heart. this is why those who are so open and so honest are considered strong, hard and blatant. you will always run the risk of hurting people who are sensitive to honest opinions or answers when what they hear is something which is not to their liking. you will also be hurt if the reactions of the ones unto whom you have related a true an honest fact is sarcastic and feels like you are being shooed away. this is the experience that your friend has through before. as for me, there is no reason for fear of rejection. it is better to be rejected right at the onset rather than a little later. i don't want to buy time for getting rejected. after all, that is rejection all the same. besides, i have learned that if we will always be honest in our dealings with people, we will get the good and honest ones to our side. i'd rather take the risk then rather than to be with people who are not worth my time making friends with.

Honesty certainly entails that kind of risk. It damages the ego when we're rejected especially when we're rejected exactly because we were honest. However, I think I'd take the risk anytime if I am to realize if I'm talking to a real friend or not. If the reason of being honest is superficial, then I'd rather keep my privacy. Thanks for the comment on my discussion!

I understand it if one doesn't want to reveal everything about their past. Everybody is entitled to their secrets. But when it comes to people who really matter it is always better to tell and keep your conscience clear besides it only makes your relationship with that person stronger.