missing a parent on holidays
By sassybratky
@sassybratky (872)
United States
November 8, 2006 5:09pm CST
I lost my dad almost 3 yrs ago to lung cancer and seems like come near every holiday time i start to dread them like the some infectious sickness ..start feeling the hole that was left and spend the weeks leading up to that time depressed and crying and generally grumpy does this ever get better? easier?
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8 responses
@loved1 (5328)
• United States
8 Nov 06
I lost my mom 5 years ago and I still have my moments. My mom loved Christmas and would have threatened to whack me with a wooden spoon if she ever saw me moping around missing her. Are you a Christian? It helps me to know that mom is not gone forever, she just got to heaven before me. =) You are not alone in your holiday blues. I would be willing to bet there is a support group somewhere with people who would be willing to help you deal with this. Good luck to you and hang on, it does get easier.
@ashish1983 (138)
• India
22 Nov 06
when we are going outside with our friend then we don't miss our parents because we enjoy the day with our friends and we share all the things with our parents because some time we don't share the things with our parents and that things we discuss with our friends
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@lonewolfnan (4366)
• Canada
22 Nov 06
Christmas is a very rough time for alot of people and those who have lost love ones around this time feel it heavily.Families and friends pay such an important role to our over-all health during stressful times and this is definately one of them!
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@brokentia (10389)
• United States
8 Nov 06
I lost my father Feb 1999. Although I would like to say its gets easier....I don't think it does. I think we just grow to accept it more as the years go by. Trust me...I still cry to this day when I see chocolate covered cherries during Christmas time....he always had to have it....and it has been 7 years.
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@battleclown (47)
• United States
22 Nov 06
It is a common thing. You might have what psychologists call SAD, or seasonal anxiety disorder. It is exactly what it says; a certain season triggers those emotions. I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope this helps you. :)
@dnatureofdtrain (5273)
• Janesville, Wisconsin
22 Nov 06
I still have both of my parents, but I was very very close to my Grandparents, whom both passed. So Holidays are very hard without them, however I also have psychic abilities so once in awhile their Spirits drop in and say hell or I love you or hang around with their hands on my shoulder so that helps, even if its not the same. Take care, - DNatureofDTrain
