Why do we always stay?
By BARBIE305
@BARBIE305 (34)
United States
December 29, 2008 9:15am CST
Have you ever been in a relationship where you know it's no good for you but you stay anyway? I figure with me, I stay out of comfort. It doesn't matter if they are with you everyday, even if they live with you. You will still stay with them. Or what about if they seem to always be looking for something better. Has that ever happened to you? He seems to love you but can't help but oggle every girl in a 10 mile radius. But if we are in love, we still stay. We do everything for them, but sometimes it seems we do more than they do for us. Is it because women are creatures of comforting motherhood. We have this internal need to take care of everyone. So you tell me.
I have left many men because they weren't worth any woman being with. But I have also stayed because I ended up falling in love before their true colors showed.
Do you have similar stories?
I know some of you have it worse than I do. I haven't been beat up or anything like that. But I have been through my crying days more often than I should have been. And sometimes it is very hard to leave, especially when there are circumstances that keep you with them.
So discussion open for interpretation or addition............
1 response
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
29 Dec 08
I had been into bad relationships...I had been into relationships where I was the only one, the number one and the another one. I have made guys cry and likewise cried. I fell in and out of love.
With regard to the most hurting relationship I had, I stay because of love. I know it is not proper and I would loss, but I stay because what I thought I can make him change his mind. And I realized it should not be that way. I realize that I would be ruining my life and my dream if I remain. Good thing I woke up and stepped out where I was then standing. And I did.
Now, I stay because I found the guy who loves me more, which is better than my past. I had to chose him because it's harder to find someone who loves you more than someone whom you love more.
@BARBIE305 (34)
• United States
29 Dec 08
I am glad to hear people getting out of bad situations. I know it isn't easy. I am in a relationship now that is a toss up. I do love him and he loves me but he also has a short temper. He doesn't hit but he yells about the smallest things. He is in counseling now and I am trying to give him the benefit of the doubt and hope he changes but experience has only shown me that you are who you are and you can only change if you want to and really try. So I guess time will only tell.
