Robbing Peter to pay Paul

It sounds like this guy is trying to do whatever he can in order to live up to his obligation to you. I don't know the situation but it's not surprising when anyone is having a problem making ends meet during these tough economic times. My stepson has gotten himself into a situation with the SUV we told him not to buy when he had a perfectly good Bronco that he owned outright. He tried juggling his bills but he and his girlfriend lost their apartment and have moved in with her mother. I recently learned that the SUV was repossessed for the second time in two months and now the dealer wants over $1,000 to release it and his payment will be over $700 a month. He came to his father for a loan but we had to turn him down. He already owes us too much money and there's no way that they can afford that payment now. Robbing Peter to pay Paul doesn't work for long.

I would have to say that sometimes I also do this. But there are just some priorities that more important. I would have to say that this would have been one of my top priorities. I try to make everyone happy at the same time, so it is all about money managing.

I know a few people who have borrowed money to pay us back after we loaned it to them. It just gives the person more time to have to pay back the money to the other person now.

it's not a good place to be but i have been there in the past. people have a hard time. of course they bring alot of it on themselves. hope u get that payment & get rid of him.

Sometimes robbins Peter to pay Paul is the only way a person can survive week to week or month by month but I don't see myself doing it. Eventually it catches up to you and both Peter and Paul will demand their money at the same time. I buy only if I can pay cash for the items. I save up for those big purchases and prefer not to be in debt to anyone for anything.

I hope you get things straitened out with this guy. I really do. It must be so frustrating for you to deal with him like that. As for robbing Peter to pay Paul........ I think it depends on the situation and the sad fact is that most people do it. I guess as long as both parties are paid (repaid?) in a timely manner there's nothing wrong with it, but, if you are irresponsible about it and have no intention of paying your debts then that is no good and you should rethink your ethics. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija

many people are forced in that position, if you do not have the money you have to get it from somewhere and so we are forced to borrow, or we pay one bill one month and not another then the next month we pay the other but not the first one and we have to live like that.

I have done this, but I hate it. But sometimes some collectors have to be paid sooner.

I guess that this person is really down on his luck. He is probably broke and could not afford to pay you anymore. With the economy this bad, it's a little wonder that many people out there are financially drained. He is probably telling you the truth that he borrowed some money from a friend to pay you.

not at all he owes you he needs to pay you have been kind enough he trying to take advantage of you.when you owe someone tou have to show geniune care in this matter now he needs to do his part.

It all depends on which side of the story we are looking at.. IF we are looking from your side, as long as u get the money, that's good for u.. BUt if one is looking at his side, he has got no choice, since u dun give him any leeway to come up with money.. To him, as long as he pays u, he will be freed.. So actually to him, u are actually the one forcing him with no way out.. haha

I definitely don't agree with robbing Peter to pay Paul - it can only get you deeper into trouble. It's a shame this man has had to do this - I suppose he felt bad he'd kept you waiting for your payment and didn't want to get further behind. Hopefully he'll be able to repay his friend and will get his finances sorted out soon.

nope i dont like the idea happy lottin and have a nice day

Hi Ronaldinu, Attempting to live the American Dream has lead most of us to paying bills and live from paycheck to paycheck. Between the country being at war, gas prices going up and then down, and possibly up again, it's hard for people to afford the necessities, let alone the luxuries. So loaning people money at this time is risky, since it's harder for people to pay back money. I think the idea of robbing Peter to pay paul hads become a way of life and unless the economy improves, people will be using that method as a way of surviving, it's a harsh reality. Tweenis

No I don't beleive in robbing Peter to pay Paul..that was a bitter lesson I learnt when I was younger and even know if I need the money I will not ask to borrow it simply as it will make me short in the long run, am sorry to hear you have had this problem I remember someone wanting a loan but couldn't get it because she had bad credit so I got it for her on her word she would pay me the amount she was supposed to each week to pay the loan off...that never happened and as I had not proof the loan was for her and it was in my name I had to pay for it..so can understand your dilemma it must make you feel awfull...littleowl

I honestly think that if you are going to ask someone for money to pay someone else it's better to pay the person you just asked money from as soon as possible. I don't like the idea of it though as it's so easy to get ripped off on the deal. I've given money to people in the past to pay off things, and I don't feel I was properly payed back.. Money isn't an object to me, appreciation is.

Hi ya ronaldinu Well I guess if you have no choice then you would have to borrow money to give to someone. He shouldn't have got himself in this situation in the first place and I guess it couldn't be easy for him so close to Christmas either!

Do you agree with the idea of robbing Peter to pay Paul? No I do not agree with this. My reason is that I don't like to borrow in the first place, because when time to pay back I still don't have the funds to pay the loan. As for robbing Peter to pay Paul is like putting your problems on hold. You pay one person and then when time to pay the next person you still don't have it then you are in trouble with that person and it just goes on and on. The best thing to do is come to an agreement and try your best to stick with it.

the thing is if you dont intend to pay back a loan then dont borrow in the first place read psalms 37:21

Regardless of what he had to do in order to pay you, outside of committing a crime, what he did to make good on his promise to pay you is his problem and his responsibility. You were more than generous to extend the payment date, even though you had your own family to take care of. You have a huge heart and there isn't a doubt about that. It is sad that he took advantage of you. However, we do not know what his own circumstances are and I am not one to judge. He could be here on myLot posting something similar. Posting his side of the story, while trying to earn a buck. I'm glad you were able to get some of your money and hopefully he will be caught up soon. Your rewards will be great, maybe not today or tomorrow and not from him. But one day you will see them. God Bless You!