should i trust my friend who once had a crush on my hubby?

If you completely trust your husband then why are you asking this question? Also you say your friend won't hurt you yet you have doubts. I can't help but think that you are threatened by her. She must be pretty and interesting otherwise you wouldn't care. No one cares when an ugly woman flirts with their husband. What you feel is very natural. I wouldn't trust my friend. People care more about love than friendship.

I believe in instincts,girls is gifted with it. If you feel there is something fishy with her, so be careful! I mean, you can't just be too wide for her or too open. Jokes are always half meant! If it is liked what you've said that from conversations and emails she always kid on that issue, so it is always better to beware of her! It's a kind of an eye opener for you! If you feel different bout her, just keep a distance, but not totally avoid. Your friendship somehow must be valued. It's good to hear that you have a trust with your partner. Just continue to trust him and be faithful too.

I think the only one who knows the answer to that is yourself I can sense a bit of suspicion in your writing so first of all maybe you need to do an honest assessment to the situation have you talked to your husband about it? you did say you trust him but people make mistakes and there is nothing wrong with talking to your husband about your worries. if he knows and he cares about you as you said he does, he will keep his distance with your friend at least. then you can talk to your friend about your feelings. if she is your best friend, she wouldn't hurt your feeling, that's true. but people make mistakes. try to be open to both of them as much as you can. they may laugh about it and say that nothing will happen. or they will say just the thing you are afraid of or show signs that confirm your suspicion. whatever it is the result you will need to talk to them and be prepared. I'd say it's better to find out now than later.

The real question is, do you trust your husband? You already said you do. If that is so, then it doesn't really matter what your friend does. If your husband is trustworthy, he is not going to fall for any games she might play. However, if you have reason to doubt your friend's intentions, there is nothing to say you have to remain close to her and keep her involved in your activities.

Well, crush is just an admiration. If you know your friend well, then you could tell if she's capable of betraying you. She has two options: keeping the friendship between you and her or snatching your hubby away. If she values the friendship too much, no need to worry about. But if she has more than admiration for your hubby, then that's another story... Of course you have to tell her even in a casual way that it's okay for her to admire your hubby, but nothing more than that... because there is no way you're giving up your hubby...

I think that is not a big deal, crushes are little things that people have all the time. I think that is almost a complement to you. She is saying you found an awesome guy lol. Anyways, yes, you should trust her, if the talking about your husband displeases you, then you could just ask her to stop talking about your husband. She might just be trying to make a joke about it.

I would not be paranoid. But I would not let a snake in my own house. So be careful whatevever you do. If she is having a problem with her hubby, help her to fix them out. But I would not let her near my hubby unecessarily. I would be keeping a close eye on my hubby.

Trust her with what? I'm pretty sure that you won't ever find yourself in a situation where you have to ask her over to babysit your hubby or anything so I think you have absolutely nothing to worry about! :D It's a pretty weird situation though, I think I'd be all wired up too if I were in your shoes. Thanks for the comment on my discussion!

It is a potentially explosive situation. Although she backed out in the past adn you do trust yoru husband fully, why invite trouble specially when she is having problems with her husband? I know you you trust your husband, but men are by nature polygamous and when the situation so develops then chances of yoru husband having a fling can'[t be ruled out. Be careful.

My best friend hit on my fiance a few years back. I confronted her about it. She denied it and said she wasn't attracted to him. I still don't trust her around him. I trust him but not her. I don't have any advice sorry.

It seems to me that your friend really values your friendship. Back when you weren't even married to your love and didn't have kids, i.e., when the dependencies and hazards were insignificant , even then she did back out and respected your feelings for the guy instead to playing games or snatching your bloke. Hence, it is near to impossible that she would do it now , especially when you have kids. Also, you should see it this way that your guy was meant to be yours thats why you two got married and now have a family...just trust both of them and be happy that your friend is near you again...:) However , being the Virgo I am , I would say, be a little cautious too...not distrusting but cautious, as extremes are always disastrous! Don't take your marriage for granted and at the same time re-re-reconform to your friend how much you love your husband, how much he means to you and your kids and also tell her how much he loves you...keep the together time with your friend ( especially wrt occasions where your husband is alos present) in limit. DO not over do it! :) And I am sure things will work out as they should! :) Have a Happy Life!

well honey,from my experience being in this position before my 1st cousin was crushing on my ex and i found out later they where sleeping together.so i don't trust any females around my man.i mean its hard enough trusting men these dayz.we have to watch our friends and family too.sad but true. now she's paying for it.he treats her really bad.i think to my self often that could have been me.

keep away from her and the situation so that this thought never gives you pressure and stress. the life between u and ur hubby is important. never misunderstand ur hubby. have a blessed life ichandel...

hi, from my view, this world is cruel, nothing seems perfect. I will say, you better keep watching. Because I have some friends has same experiences like you, even those who are married, they still have an affair outside there -_-". Since her jealousy has made u worried, you better stay away from her. But of course both you and your husband needs to discuss this openly, because who knows, your best friend can use backdoor ways without you knowing she is actually tried her best to steal your husband (touch wood*) Anyway precaution is always important. Maintain healthy relationship and spending time with your husband and family and you will not worry anymore.

Suspicion and distrust are two pieces of baggage that you do not want to carry around with you. It will weigh you down and rob you of good times that you can share with your friend. She respected your relationship with your husband before he was your husband so give her the benefit of the doubt and trust her now. You say that you trust your husband so that should help you to be more at ease with this situation.

I think you should be careful of your fiend.

'TRUST' is a big word. whether this lady had a crush on your husband or not, thats immaterial. What should be avoided is temptation. Please make sure that your hubby is not getting too friendly with her. If I were in your situation, I would be there to help and support my friend with her problems with her hubby. But I would never bring my husband into the situation.There will always be a safe distance that he needs to keep with all my friends;-) and the same applies to me as well. That being said...I am sure there is no reason for you to worry cos, both your best friend and husband love you and they will never wanna hurt you!

well, crush is an admiration and anyone either married or not may feel thesame attraction. we used to have crushes during our high school days mostly and theyve gone for a while. for me, i should not put things in my mind. it will just ruined the friendship and just like you say you trust your husband, same as give a chance to your friend as long as shes not yet out of the line. you should be happy somebody is still admiring your husband.