Nanny 911 : Parents who punish by fear.
By SomeCowgirl
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
United States
December 29, 2008 8:45pm CST
Yesterday a marathon of Nanny 911 was on and my fiance and I watched quite a few of them. One of them in particular caught my eye as the nanny spied (not intentionally but to make sure everything was okay) on an argument the mother and father were having. Before that though the children told the nanny that their father scares them because he threatens (and I think they made it seem has) with a belt.
I know that when I was younger I was scared of my father and am still to be honest. He used to spank me if I did something wrong, and that's why I was so scared of him. Do you think this is the way to punish? I honestly think that while sometimes kids may get out of line and punishment may be in order, making them scared of you is no way to go.
So do you agree? Or have you punished your children in this way? Do you think it was right for the nanny to spy?
Oh and do you know if they call social services on parent's who need it? Do they do nannying out side of what they show on T.V.?
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
30 Dec 08
I think it was ok for the nanny to spy. She was there to help the family and she needed to know what was happening.
Nanny is there to teach different way of punishment so the parents don't have to use the fear. I hope that this family took her advice and the dad stopped using his belt.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
30 Dec 08
I agree that it did help the family. I don't think the father should have used the belt in the first place, it's not right to punish children in that manner and isn't really that effective either.
I appreciate the response.
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@Cryssystar (53)
• United States
30 Dec 08
Well, punishing your kids, don't work according to psychological theories. If it did, you'd only have to punish them once. As a child, my mom always punished me and it made me rebel lol. I do believe it was alright for the nanny to peep in on what was going on. Regarding social services..I have noo clue.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
30 Dec 08
I guess it depends on the way they are punished. Some people think punishment is all about the yelling and the spanking, and some even think it's just about taking away privileges. I think there's more then that, maybe a combination or maybe just.. reverse psychology or making them feel their wrong... I don't know about the social services thing but it's something I asked my fiance yesterday, neither of us know.
We also thought since they are from another country, do they have the right to?
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@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
5 May 09
This is a very good discussion baby and I am sure that a lot of people have different opinions when it comes to disciplining their children I am sure that some people think it is okay to discipline harshly if they think it will teach the children to listen and behave,and then I am sure that there are some people who think that it is wrong to discipline harshly because all it does is scare the children,and I can understand why people think about things in different ways then other people,I remember when we watched that marathon of Nanny 911 even though it has been a couple months,and I remember the Nanny spying,but not intentionally,to make sure everything was okay when the mother and father were fighting,and I remember when the kids told the nanny that their father threatens them and that they are afraid of him,and I do not think that spanking is a way to punish children because all it does is make the children scared of you,which is no way to go if you ask me,and I do not think it is wrong for the nanny to spy,after all she was there to help the family get closer together,and she was trying to make sure that everything and everyone was okay,and I am not sure if they will call social services on parents who need it,and they might do nannying outside of the show but there is not telling,I love you with all my heart and soul,have a great day,good luck with all your mylotting goals,and Happy Posting.
