Is it right for husband to take your Christmas money (gift) to use for bills???

I got $300 from my aunt and it went straight to the bank....for bills. My husband's bonus check for the year ($300) went to buy the kids shoes and some clothes AKA bills. It is all about priorities.

I guess it depends on the financial situation. If they are struggling to pay bills, then I think it is acceptable. If he took the money just to be in control, then I think your friend needs to rethink her relationship. I know if we were struggling financially, I'd hand the money over for bills etc, because it is more important than me getting something for myself, but I do have a young family and I do put them and their needs first all the time.

I'm taking DH is short for durn husband? Idk... I think that any money that comes to a couple should be decided upon as a couple as to how to use it. My grandmother gave my fiance and I both $20.00 each and we both decided to spend it on his mom (at first but she wouldn't let us) but then we ended up spending it on each other / ourselves. I was sneaky though, got him to spend it on only him..

If my mom were in the place of your friend, she would get pissed and protest. She'd ask why on earth he'd touch her Christmas money for bills when he can pay for the bills. I know the experience anyway. My dad gave us each money last Christmas. He ends up taking the money from us to spend on household expenses, claiming that he is broke, which of course we don't believe. I don't think it's right because there's always a way. When my dad used up all our money from our bank book, he sold our other car. He claimed that he's broke but he ended up buying expensive things for himself. But that's our case. Just giving you an idea.

Well, as a couple, it is good to share whatever you have together. If the household is lacking in cash to support the bills and household needs, then the money should go to settling all these first. Shoe are luxury to enjoy when there is spare cash. Hoever if the husband just wants to use the wife money so to save his own, then that would be very irresponsible. Ultimately, it depends on the couple to talk through it and discuss how they wish to allocate their funds.

Its sad when finances cause couples to fight. I agree that some of the money should be spent for house hold needs but i am also in mind that some should money , even if it were a small amount, should have been left for the wife. from what i can tell, women find it important to look great and, since this is important to the wife, i think the husband should have undesrtood this.

It would depend on what the husband did with his $100. If it went for bills then I don't see why her's shouldn't have too. After all she does live in the house and does eat too.If it were me I would have just said take it for what is needed. After all family needs comes before new shoes.

I would have to know if he used his for bills too or did he keep his. If he kept his for whatever and then used just hers for bills that is wrong. However if he used both for bills, I really don't find anything wrong with that. In fact I would think that she should have offered it for bills instead of thinking of shoes. Bills as much as they suck should be a big priority.

Not at all if it is her own idea. I mean if both accept it then it is Ok. Well if you have crisis then it hardly matters. But still It was not a good idea. Bills and food are OK but new shoes etc seem like luxury. May be not I am not aware of actual circumstances. so I better shut my mouth.

If they are a real couple she shouldn't mind (or he shouldn't mind) when the other partner thinks about paying for common expenses.

Hi hopeful327, That is not one, I would have got really mad, but when she got the present she should have hid it and spent it off as soon as she was able to. I would take something of his and sell to get a nice pair of shoes. How mean can anyone get. Tamara

I think that it should be decided upon the couple. That is what my husband and I do. We decide together if there is money that we receive from people on how we are going to spend it. And sometimes yes we wind up spending it on bills. Cause at the time that is what we needed. I don't think that the husband should out right just take the money and spend it on the bills without discussing with his wife. I mean that is just not right and not fair. Did he use his money as well that he received for Christmas for the bills as well. If not, then that wasn't right and he should have used his money for bills and let her spend her money how she chooses. Sometimes how my husband and I will do it is if we receive money and we need to pay bills later on when we receive money he will give me the money back and then I spend it on what I would like to buy.

I don't think that it is right just to take the money. If they need money for bills and food, it is understandable that her husband want to spend the money on that, but I still don't think that it's right just to take the money without talking to her first. I would get angry if I were you friend. I would never spend the money on shoes if we needed it for groceries and bills. I think that would be very irresponsable, but even if I agreed with my husband's decision, I'd still expect us to discuss it first, and in my opinion it is not acceptable just to take the money.

i think that it was her gift not his. if he got 100 too then he could use his on bills. all our money is spent on bill through the year and i dont see the harm in taking a gift to spend on yourself. my husband is the same way,but he would never take a money gift from me.

if the family is having trouble paying the bills and getting enough food on the table then of course the xmas gift money should go straight towards that! though he should not have just taken it..and she was being INCREDIBLY selfish and irresponsible to want to spend it on SHOES when bills and FOOD are needed. paying the household utility bills and feeding the family are by far more important than a stupid pair of shoes! if i was her i would be upset that my husband took the money, HOWEVER, I would NEVER forego buying food and paying the bills just to buy a pair of shoes!