Reasons to breakup....

i always believe that we experience these things in life, to learn a lesson. Regardless if it was our fault or the others', we'd be better off to leave it as is. There is always a next time, and when that time comes (and if we have learned the lessons), then the relationship will probably bloom. I read somewhere, that only if you've learned the lessons of that experience, will you move on to the next step (which I guess would mean a successful relationship), otherwise God will still let you experience the same thing again.. So, my advise, learn what you have to.. God is making you a better person out of those experiences, He is preparing you for Mr. Right, right? =)

Hello there! It is a good thing that you are learning from all of the mistakes you had with previous relationship. That is good. And you know that you are better off without them. When I had my first break up, I really ask the same questions over and over for weeks but thank goodness I realized sooner that there is nothing wrong with me. I have given everything that I can think of in a relationship at that time... we were just not meant to be... I was bitter but then friends and family were there for me... I could endure other pain but not with this particular reason " third party" -- yeah... he dated girls behind my back for a week before he broke up with me. That I cannot tolerate, I am not a big fan of "cheating boyfriend"... I tried to took him back again but he doesn't want to at that moment... and frankly, I was relieved... then few months after, he tried to woo me again... but even if I have a LITTLE feelings for him, I really can't forget the girls he has been with... so there you go... I learned that no matter how you love the person, there will always be limitation.. and that you have to love yourself before loving others... and I can proudly say that I am happy with my love life right now.. I found my man... he is cute sweet and nice... I love everything about him. Thank you for the discussion! Happy New Year! And Happy Mylotting! Cheers!

hi amazingheart, your reasons are definitely right. to add on maybe parental intervention maybe the parent of one party does not like the other one. from the list the most common reason which i think causes break up is the 2nd one. there are a lot of guys or maybe girls too who are easily get tempted to look for other partner eventhough they are on a relationship. sad but it is happening. nice discussion! happy new year!

before i was asking myself when i have break ups if thers really something wrong with me. because i believe that i dont. everytime i ask them whats wrong they dont want to tell me and i always end up thinking. but later on, i ralize that the reason of uncertain break ups , its because i always hold on with my pasts and a fraid that it may happened again and i cant move on. well, i also learn from those mistakes.

i think the real reason why a relationship did not last is because it is not really meant to be. sometimes no matter how hard we try to keep the relationship alive we still end up losing someone we loved so much. or sometimes we get very lucky when we've done everything for a relationship and at the end we end up making that relationship last. well all i can say is that at least you learned from your past relationships. cause that's the real essence of break ups. to make us realize what went wrong and what should we do to make our next relationship worth keeping. ^.^ go girl. i know someday you will find your true prince..;)

Well, These are some of the reasons which i could think of for a couple to breakup. 1)Long distance relationship (i had come across, it is easy to start a long distance but not easy to maintain, so end up broke up after 3 hard years) 2)Lack of communication. 3)Cheating in either one of the party. 4)Religion problems. 5)Financial problems. 6)Different famiy background. 7)Objection fronm the family. 8)Different personality. 9)Different life style. 10)In love with somebody else. Anyway, what ever reason is, important is to love the one that loves you, treat him or her your very best but not over until love blind. Be sincere to a relationship is very important. I am still learning too and hopefully a better person as well.

1. Change- You, or the person that you are with, have become different people and now want different things.

One mean reason I broke up with someone is that I found out that he was a xenophobe. For those who don't know what that means is that he hated foreigners without any reason. Normally I would not have ever gone near a person like this but I didn't know he was like that until our 4th date. Another reason I have broken up with someone is that they were homophobic and could not deal with me being bi. After I told him he left me in San Fransisco. I was living in Oakland at the time but didn't know that the buses as well as he did. I had to call a roommate so she could tell me how to get home. Know I have a rule I tell them by the 3rd date and I make sure I know how to get home without there help. This will never happen to me again. Funny thing is that these two guy were the last two man I have seriously dated. I think they are why I started dating woman more seriously.

We learn from our mistakes and sorry to hear that your past relationships did not work out but its good to see that you took it the positive use of it. No matter what the relationship is we must try to be what we are and not some one else and if he like what we are than we have it and if not than we should not waste time giving chances as we are what we are and we cannot change it. In a relationship we must be honest with each other and try to keep no secrets as it hinders our relationship when they finds it out. Anyway wishing you luck and a very happy new year

I think it wasn't meant to be from the start. Well there is no relationship that is perfect, but when you only feel emptiness, and your alone it's not a relationship anymore. When one only loves, and it's a one way street. When the relationship is not healthy anymore for both of you. When the relationship get stagnant and you get bored. When you just can't stand your bf or gf anymore.When you can't work out together the relationship. When the growth stop. A lot of reasons to break up. But for short when you don't feel love anymore. Have a nice day to you amazingheart. Advance Happy New year or Happy new dear. Just kidding okay!

Self analysis is good, even great. But, there comes a time when you have to be able to grow and change within a relationship. You can't go the rest of your life breaking up with people, taking a look at your behavior and making changes. At some point, you have to find happiness with a person while being exactly who you are ... with all of your faults. When you find someone that you can be yourself with, grow and make changes with you won't have to worry about the breaking up part, but you can still improve upon yourself while inside a relationship.

if that would happened to my relationships .. i really have to assure that if i would break him i know that i wont miss him and i dont love him anymore so that i dont have regret .. and if i commited to other relationship i am be sure that i am already done and forgive, heal my past so that in my present he has all my attention and love... you know what .. what makes the relation more be greatful to every relation is that we have to trust. forgive, love, respect and most of all the understanding and time for our relationship.

I also experienced that my relationship was not successful. I broke up with my girlfriend because of her bad behavior both to me and my family. She is indeed very kind in school, but when it comes to family, that's the real attitude she had. I'm not planning yet to find another girlfriend, I must focus on my career which I will graduate this summer and online business first before to be ready with another relationship.

I think the only reason I broke up was because he was not the one for me. When i think back about my past relationships, I still do find that something is missing. Like I have yet found the one for me. It's hard. Love is complicated but whatever it is, I learn not to love others too much to extent you will hurt yourself. Especially if a guy left for someone else, I will never accept them back because if I do, I am getting myself hurt again.

That was great prolific life's learning process, where you have determined your life' color hue and its level. Meaning, if I blindfolded you and bring your finger, touched the color on one piece of paper, you can straight away give me an answer for what color is it. You're great now AH, well discerned. Enjoy your happiness. Cheers!!!

Hi! Well i have been in love with the same guy for over 9 years now. We were together in school..We got married last year in Dec. And through the coyrse of the relationship we did have our onw fights and quite regularly at that! He is a very loving and sensible man, very practical as well as supportive but because of growing up relatively alone and also because he is quite reserved kinds, he does not speak at all..would not open up his mind and heart to me...I was so annoyed with that and felt left out..I felt as if I am alone in therelationship...So I did yell at him, got grumpy , cried and god knows what all...slowly this issue has been addressed...i now feel that I do know m man somewhat.. When I look back and try to reflect on how our relationship has developed nad whta all we have been through to nurture it and keep it alive..I realise that there were several points when I thought it would be best if we got separated..but don't know why or how we kept going...and believe me it was not a single handed effort..he invested a lot of time and energy into us as well... And I am glad that we did that and did not break up cause this relationship is the base and ultimate treasure of my life! It the biggest success of me and I celebrate it everyday! :o) so, centre point is that relationships are extremely complex affair and very demanding as well as dynamic at the same time. So, we need to give it a lot of second chances...:) chances to amend and flourish.. Wish You the Very Best in Life! Be Happy always & keep Learning in every way..