Are you too proud to beg ?
By ronnyb
@ronnyb (6113)
Jamaica
December 30, 2008 5:16am CST
What if she just told you she has had enough and he is walking out the door, would you play cool or get down on all fours? Maybe it was your fault but maybe it wasn’t ,at least you cant see how it could be ,would it make a difference ?.After all you are a man and wouldn’t something like that reduce your manly status ?,would she ever take you seriously again when she thinks about that pathetic view of you on all fours ?.What about women ,would you beg your man if he was leaving or are you too proud ,maybe you are thinking I could have any man ,why should I subject myself to such reduction of status
What about situations not involving relationships like asking for help with a problem that you are having, do you find it easy to ask for help or is that a last resort for you after everything you have tried has failed ?.Would you ask just anyone for help or just your friends and family ?.
I am using begging and asking for help synonomously but are they ?
Please tell us the situations in which you have begged or asked for help ? ,who you asked and what were your reasons for asking them ?.What are the situations you would never beg or ask for help and how did you feel afterwards ?.
Thank you in advance for responding ?
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7 responses
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
30 Dec 08
i would not have been too proud to beg for help for my children when they were small & i had to raise them by myself. thank goodness, i didn't have to. things were close but i got them raised.as for a man i use to beg my ex to quit drinking & let us have the kind of life i wanted w/him. i loved him very much but he wouldn't do it so i left him.that's been 35 years ago. i still talk to him every great once in awhile. he's still drinking & has been married i don't know how many times. glad i left when i did, if i stayed would have been nothing but grief & i'm glad i didn't. i'm not much on begging. people shouldn't have to beg someone they love to act right!!!
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
30 Dec 08
i totally agree with you about begging for your children ,for them a parent should be willing to do anything.With regards to your ex,you should be willing to beg but I suppose there is a limit as you are only human.Happy to hear that things turned out right for you in the long run
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
30 Dec 08
thank you. i'm glad that has been behind me for a long, long time. have a good one.
@areaK1 (9)
• United States
31 Dec 08
I don't think showing your woman that you aren't too proud to beg reduces your manly status. Now if you walk around whining all the time, that's another thing.
But we like to see the sensitive side that says, "I do care and I don't want to lose you" too.
But, this is coming from someone who has a serious problem asking for help. I've recently hit hard times and it nearly killed me to just hint to my dad that I needed some help but it really felt great when he came through. I didn't beg; I didn't even outright ask and no I wouldn't have begged but there are other circumstances when it comes to my relationship with my dad that prevented me from wanting to ask too.
We all have our pride but sometimes we should set it aside in the proper situations. Otherwise, you might just lose your love or whatever - is it worth it? That's the question you have to ask yourself. Is looking "manly" at that moment worth losing her?
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@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
31 Dec 08
I agree that apoligizing if you have been wrong might envolve you getting down on your knees, but there doesn't have to be any begging envolved in that. You merely show you are humble in the case, and there is no need to beg the person to forgive you. You are coming out vulnerable and it's up to them to accept it or not.
I don't think begging is a good thing in a relationship, as when someone begs the other stand above them in a dominating fashion; relationships should be about equalty in my opinion.
I can't remember ever begging for something, perhaps as a child when I was trying to get something from my parents but not nowadays. I can imagine people begging for help who are desperate, but otherwise I can't think of a situation.
Happy new years!
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
31 Dec 08
no i would not beg right are wrong why do i have to get down on my knees to beg him either he wants to stay are he don,t.iam not a dog and will not act like one.when you spoke of proud i was thinking you was talking about something else.i wouldn,t beg my man either he loves me ant want to be there are he can move on i will get over it.may sounds cold but it,s a fact.
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@sivanj (1263)
• India
30 Dec 08
I don't actually want to let go my self-respect at any cost. everyone of us will accept this and say the same, i believe.
But it depends on the situation. when you do a very bad thing and you need to apologize then you may even go down on your knees. there is nothing about self-respect to feel sorry & say sorry. similarly no egos between friends and life partners. i may even go a step lower to keep the relation alive. might be after sometime i will politely say that it was not my mistake and they have mistaken me.
something like that happened once. i did a work and had written my name as the author and my leader's name alongside. there is one more senior person whose name i wrote as last. just before submitting the report i had to get his sign in a form (formality). then he found that his name was in the last and his ego didn't give way. he started shouting. actually he does not even know what i have written. so putting his name in the end was itself a formality but now he demands that it should have been at second place and not third in the list. i apologized but he didn't accept. thats pure egoism. even i was ready to give way being a junior but didn't work. thats why they are called egoistic seniors.
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
31 Dec 08
It takes a a really secure person to admit error and apologise.Apparently the person you mentioned is not so secure at least that is what I think.I dont think that every situation demands a response ,somethings you should just overlook.I think this guy behaved as a junior even though he was a senior.
Thank you for responding
@ds6413 (2070)
• United States
31 Dec 08
I am a female and admit I used tears before. One ex (my first b/f)who had broken up with me I used a different approach. I played it cool and said to him non chalantly " you will never find anyone else better than me and you will never forget me". That made an impression on him and he never forgot me.
@numberonechick (139)
• Singapore
30 Dec 08
I have begged before and seriously, its a complete waste of time. If he was the one guy whom I deserve after all that I have done, he wouldn't leave just like that. Leaving in a proper way is still good but I would prefer to respect the decision. Because, to love is also to let go. And as for the guy whom I used to begged to come back, I thought enough was enough. Of course I've got friends that really support me and I decided to stop begging and just move on simply because I know I deserve better. There's also so many guys out there why bother chasing him like as if he is the only guy left in the world?
