I am really worried about my mom

I do not want to speak ill of anyone's families espcially since I do not know the whole story. But on the other hand have you stopped to think of why he might be saying that? Could he just want it to look like he's the only one that cares so that he will get more in the will? Maybe he just doesn't want you to see your mother in failing health because he thinks you couldn't handle it. The only one who can really tell you why he is doing that is him. Try asking him why he doesn't want you to visit your own mother. Using "I feel" statements are always key to getting the most out of situations like this with as little confrontation as possible. I hope everything worksout for you and your family. If your mother is in bad health I would go see her regardless of how your brother feels about it because you are the one who would have to live with her passing on without having seen her or telling you you loved it...not him. Best wishes to you and yours.

What is your brothers problem? He shouldn't be acting like that towards you when you're only asking ligitament questions! I'd definetly be going there to check things out if I were you because afterall, it is your mother too. Something doesn't sound right, like you, I don't know what it is but it doesn't sound right and I'd be there finding out what it is. To let you know, I'm a caretaker of my parents too and I would be ever so happy if my brothers would offer to help me but they don't so for your brother to act like that towards you doesn't wash and I'd be finding out why in a heartbeat!