What do you think? Friends/Mothers/Everyone.
By firefox0100
@firefox0100 (47)
United States
December 30, 2008 7:29pm CST
This mom has a daughter, and she's not eighteen yet. She works not for much and goes to school, but fails miserably. Now she has this boy, she's always on the phone with him. Met him on the subway and he was following, according to the daughter; that's how they met. The mother has never met him. Doesn't know who he is? What he is? and What he does? She found his number on her daughters cell and called him. She only did that because on Christmas morning around 1-2 am someone called her on block id asking if she had a problem. And this was a woman. The woman kept calling back not saying anything and the daughter kept hanging up. So the mom after calling her daughters friends and finding out wasn't them. Concluded that the mysterious boy/man had some chick on the side and found about the daughter. Thinking things might get serious, like the some chick walking up to her child and stabbing, she called him to try and throw water on the fire. He was very disrespectful and claimed that they were just friends. Saying it wasn't him and didn't have anyone around him who would do that. The funny thing is after the mom called him, the calls stop. I feel the daughter's getting played. The daughter's saying no he wouldn't do that, and placed him on this pedestal of high praise, still claiming they're just friends.
For Christmas he got her an ipod. Not the cheap ones, this one cost $229. Now tell me has any of your friends bought expensive gifts costing this much? I am wrong to think that this is more than friendship and that they're are both lying. And Mothers what would you do in a situation like this? Where your daughter's lying and hiding things from you that if something happens you don't know where to turn or what to do. Suggestions?
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3 responses
@hildas (3031)
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31 Dec 08
I have an 18 year old and a ninteen year old daughter and to me personally this is certainly more than friendship.
I think the daughter really should be more open and not hide her boyfriend away like this as she is nearly an adult.
One of my daughters last year was attending college and was in her second year and was doing well until she met this boy. She started bunking off to meet him and I found out when the college phoned asking where she was.
I confronted her and told her to think about her career and all her hard work but she threw the head up and packed her things and moved into his parents house. She never finished her studies and now works in a small grocery store.
I really am annoyed with her but I have give up telling her as its like talking to a wall. I hope she sees sense soon, but she is an adult and she is learning the hard way I guess.
Children. All our advice and bringing them up well to no avail sometimes.
@firefox0100 (47)
• United States
31 Dec 08
I'm sorry to hear that. You know they have all the time in the world. I don't see what the rush is. Go to school, get the degree, get the job and then get the boy/girl. I mean things don't always work that way but it would be much easier for them if they thought and followed in those steps. But you are right they will learn the hard way, I just hope something drastic doesn't have to happen first before they wake up and smell the coffee.
@dropofrain (1167)
• India
31 Dec 08
These days it is really difficult to find out what is true and what is false with these kids. They are upto anything these days and will do anything to do what they wish. I think the world around us has become so disgusting that you feel the heat these days.
@numberonechick (139)
• Singapore
31 Dec 08
Well its really sad to see children nowadays not wanting to listen to their parent's advices. The only reason a mother is stopping their daughter from dating a particular guy is because the mother knows what is best. Obviously in your case they are in a relationship but the girl is being stubborn and all. It's hard for the mother as the mother wouldn't know what to do to help the girl. There's no real answer to it either. But I were the mother, I would get some counselling help and do some research on it as to how to communicate to my daughter. Also, find true cases of girls who were in a similar situation and regret for making such a decision. You know, if you watch some talk shows such as Tyra Banks, there are girls out there who are so eager to ruin their future just like that. So perhaps try to watch some of these videos and find out how they manage to convince the teenager from making a wrong decision. I would then apply a similar concept.
