Alone on New Years Eve
By kasulmi
@kasulmi (11)
Czech Republic
December 31, 2008 8:08am CST
I was hoping until the last moment that people who I consider to be my best friends call me and invite me to celebrate new year with them. But it didnt happen. It was nearly the same last year, they didnt invite me and after that they showed me photos from the party and told me how great it was. But last year I wasnt alone so I didnt mind not to be invited so much. This year I have nobody to spend the night with, they know it but they are not calling. Did they forget me? Or they dont want me there? I dont know why this is happening I was trying to do for them everything they asked me for for a whole year, helping them as much as I could with their issues. I was just trying to be their friend. And now they are planning to have fun without me. Sorry to bother you with this but what is your opinion. What am I doing wrong they let me alone? Thanks for your answers and happy new year to everyone.
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9 responses
@deborahkat (519)
• Brazil
1 Jan 09
I was also not invited Kasulmi. And also will spend this night at home. Not alone because i live with my family, but they don´t celebrate so it´s like being alone. It´s in times like these that we see who are our real friends. Because be a real friend is not look for you when they are in need. Friends are there to laugh together and cry together.
I really wish you a wonderful new year´s eve and a 2009 full of friends, but that in at least one of them you can trust. Also give more value to yourself and don´t be so sweet. People like to step on you when they see you have a good heart.
Take care.
@ellie333 (21016)
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1 Jan 09
Hi Kasulmi, Welcome to myLot, you will find friends here, believe me this year my online friends have helped and got me through so much. I was expecting to be alone this year but my father arrived a couple of days ago and has been here with me since althoug I must admit I have been great company. Even if I had of gone out this year I would have probably felt alone in the crowd. Keep being the loving person that you are but also value YOU more and let peopleknow that you want to party too. I hope 2009 brings happiness to you and finds you making friends with people that value your friendship too. Huggles. Ellie :D
@gwoman2 (710)
• United States
31 Dec 08
Hi Kasulmi,
I'm sorry that you feel alone...maybe you should be a bit more agressive...for example...I like my privacy a lot...I love being alone in my home...but...last night my oldest daughter was filling orders for her Hors d'oeuvres and party business and her partner just came out of nowhere saying..."Ok, just want to let you know that I will be here for New Years with my daughter...And that's ok because I do love her and her family very much but I've been spending my New Years Eve alone for almost 20 years...so this is going to be different for me:-(
Why don't you call one of your friends and say: "Ok, so where's the party and at what time should I be there?" Yea, it's a bit forward but it should work and then you will not be alone.
I hope you have a great New Years Eve and day and I sincerely hope that you won't be alone!
Take care.
~G~
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
18 Jan 09
This is a late reply but anyway, I was alone too but I wasn’t expecting anyone inviting me that night. Well, yes a family who I happened to have dinner in a restaurant invited me to their table when they noticed that I was with nobody but I declined anyway. I spent my New Year’s Eve alone because I worked out of town and I was not given the opportunity to go home. I don’t have friends where I worked that would go out and celebrate with because of course they do have their own family to celebrate with. So there..
@UK_Shree (3603)
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1 Jan 09
Hi there, well I am really sorry to hear this. I cannot say for sure why your friends left you out but I think that you should speak to them and be honest about how you feel. Especially as this is not the first time that they have done this. Things will only get better if you talk and get everything out in the open right?
And don't worry too much about being alone on New Years - it is not that different from any other night. But if it bothers you that much, you should really speak to your friends about it
@yoursonlyurs (394)
• India
1 Jan 09
dear kasulmi
i read your loneliness...shall we be friends forever from this 2009
so as you never feel alone again
we shall chat and merry around
add me as your friend
let us exchange emails
then chat dear
waiting for you
@gemini_rose (16264)
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31 Dec 08
I am so sorry that your friends have not invited you, maybe they think you have other plans maybe they just do not realise you have no one to spend it with. you could always try phoning them and asking them what they are up to and mention you have no plans and see what happens sometimes people do not realise and you have to invite yourself!!!
@coolingstar9 (79)
• Singapore
1 Jan 09
Ready sad to hear that but at least you can have wonderful time with them other than new year.
I think that's also good. Perhaps you can take your initiative to call them, ask whether they have any programme, so that you can join them for the new year fun.
@mozema (8)
• United States
1 Jan 09
I was alone on New Years Eve, but that was my decision, not because no one invited me.. After a very stressfull year (2008), from high gas prices, presidential election and people losing their jobs and everything getting so expensive, etc.. I just wanted to start my 2009 alone and to tell you the truth, it was very peacefull and relaxing, when everybody is going crazy and drunk and making it a big deal to party, I was real happy staying at home alone.. so look at the bright side of it, and maybee next year, you should host a party at your place and invite all those friends over..LoL
