I want my Husband's love and attention and can't share it with anybody!!
By goodtogo
@goodtogo (149)
Pakistan
January 1, 2009 2:19am CST
I don't know whether i am being very possessive or not but i want all my husband's love and attention alone.Don't want to share it with anybody.i don't knw why i think that my husband is all mine. I accept this though that he ia a son of somebody brother of somebody and he is there for them when they need him but i think not always ther for me when i need him therefore i expect more from him.this is the reason that i think i become possessive because of this and he says that because he is very close to me therefore he is sometimes rude to me or insults me.but i think this should not be the case. i mean if he is close to me and he loves me a lot then he shoule care about my feelings as much as i di about him.therefore when he i always sweet with other relations of him i get jelous and i think this is my right.this is not possessiveness.Just want to get his love and attention.
4 responses
@mzplased (255)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Your not being fair to your husband by not wanting him to love his family or friends too. It is kind of slefish, i wouldnt want my husband getting mad at me because I was nice to other people. i am sure he is nice to you and loves you. I know I am nice to my family and feeinds. I am nice to my husband also, but because he is the person i am closest too sometimes I get upset and say unkind things, as does he. Thats life, you cant be happy all the time. Your husband is your best friend your supose to be able to vent to him and he to you. Do you show him the same respect that you want in return from him?
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@censae (72)
• United States
23 Mar 09
Are you trying to run him away? Certainly you became a unit when you were married. This does not however mean that the two of you are conjoined. To try and possess another human being is a form of boundage for you and the other person. It says to him that you do not trust him to honor the promoses he made to you. These are issues of fear of abandonment and separation that you hold and has personofied. He is your mate and he carries you where he goes. The same is true for you. That is how it works. It lets the two of you have other interests besides each other. So, you can grow and experience life to its fullest. This is not jealousy. This is a train wreck about to happen if you do not attend to your stuff. Identify what that need is that makes you want to squeeze the life out of someone else. Fix it! Begin to enjoy your husband and be glad he has the capacity to love in this expanded way. Love expanded makes the heart bigger. He can never give so much that there is not enough for you. Enjoy your family, friends, and the world around you-he too is a part of that world.
@lovetobeme (215)
• Canada
23 Feb 09
i also love my husband and want his attention but i truat him and it does not bother me if he talks to other people females included.my husband is a big jokester and he has a way of cheering people up
@stardustw83 (435)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Well i agree that you should have most of his attention how ever you should realize that you are both seperate people and every now and again he will need time with out you and you shouldn't be jealous of that at all. May be you should get together with friends when ever he plans on going somewhere with out you. Just be carefull cause you don't want it to get to the point that he feels smothered by your presence may be that is why he doesn't care that he hurts your feelings. May be you should think about getting a pet that you can pour your love into so that way your husband isn't feeling smothered that might be a good idea. Best of luck to you and your husband
