hard to do?
@butterflytears (77)
United States
January 1, 2009 1:21pm CST
With everything going on in your life I'm sure it's hard to live your life to the absolute fullest that you imagine. Our fast paced society makes it difficult to do much of anything "to the fullest" but what about when you have an extra obstacle that many people don't have? Well, I have P.O.F ( Premature Ovarian Failure) and I find it difficult to get past it and live my life the way I want to because I find that I'm afraid of my future. I never really was fond of kids and I never thought about wanting them, but now that I don't have that option, I find that I'm sad and thinking about how my future is going to be affected by this. I'm afraid of falling in love and them being rejected because of something like this that I can't control. It's easy enough to get your heart broken in this world and with something that I feel is like a handicap, I feel like it'll be so much easier for me to get mine broken all the sooner. I know I should be stronger because it could be so much worse, like it is for others, but I can't help how I feel. How do I live my life to the fullest when I can't seem to get past this hump?
3 responses
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
1 Jan 09
It's not the worst thing that could happen to a woman.I strongly believe you won't be rejected if you find a loving man whose priority would be work, life itself and not the family.I know two pairs who have no children, but they enjoy their time together.You can have house,husband, bunch of children and still be unhappy.
About this option.It's invisible.Find a man who cares about you, who loves you and he'll never leave you.Relax dear, I beg you.
@longbangod (1785)
• Philippines
2 Jan 09
I agree with silvercoin, when you found true love, the one destined to be your lifetime partner, your condition wont matter anymore.
Anyhow just pray and everything will be alright, God will surely grant the desire of your heart.
@zandy985186 (434)
• China
2 Jan 09
I also have the similar anxious feeling. What is different, I will be afraid will be hobbled by the marriage, but wants to have a child. I actually worried that chooses accidentally unmarried, several years will have regretted the choice.But ,i know i should get rid of these ideas.The life is needs to dare to create, dares to attempt. Is that right?
@savak03 (6684)
• United States
1 Jan 09
You will get through this. In time the pain will fade and you will be able to move on. In time you may look upon this as a blessing. You have stated that you are not fond of children. Nor every woman is born to have kids. Some of us are better at other things. Since you won't be able to have kids you won't have to worry about birth control methods and this can be very liberating. Having children is not the only way that women can live their life to the fullest. No doubt you had plans for your life that did not include children before you received this news. Keep your focus on them. Furthermore there are a lot of men that want a relationship without children. Just be honest with them and you will find your true love.
It is a fact of life though, that we always seem to want what we cannot have, but we have to focus on the blessings in our life to be happy.
