Can You Handle Criticism?
By grumpybear
@ShortyAkbar (384)
United States
14 responses
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
1 Jan 09
I can handle "criticism"...I can't handle being "put down". To me there is a difference. There's an old saying...Friends tell you what you "need" to hear, not what you "want" to hear. I'm ok with that. I know I'm not perfect and I'm always up for learning something new or a better way of doing something. If someone can offer me that advise, I welcome it. Now if someone just wants to sit there and rag me and not offer me an alternative, then I will get upset.
Rhonda
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@Chastised_Dreamz (559)
• United States
2 Jan 09
I think your response was well put and I agree there is a clear difference. Criticism to me tells you what you may be doing wrong or what needs to be changed but it also tells you what you can do to improve or as you say it gives you an "alternative." If someone says "that's stupid" or that you're doing something wrong for example but they don't tell you why or what you may be doing wrong it isn't really helpful to you.
I kind of talked about this in my blog but in relation to creative writing. I don't feel like rewriting it though so here's the link to the entry if anyone's interested: http://awriterssanctuary.blogspot.com/2008/12/workshops.html
@theredquill (586)
• Philippines
2 Jan 09
I always take constructive criticisms positively and try to learn from them. I believe everyone of us has this "blind" area of our personality that we aren't aware of, so it would benefit us to have some feedback from others. This will somehow make us improve ourselves. However, negative criticisms (those that are aimed below the belt, or are meant to embarrass us)---honestly, I don't think I can handle that real well. When someone embarrasses me in front of others, I tend to retaliate. That's human nature, I guess.
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
2 Jan 09
Hello ShortyAkbar!
There are instances when I can't handle negative criticism that easy. There are negative instances that really hurts big time. There are those told to me that I easily get offended. But I do not react immediately. I tend to think about the criticism told to me. If there is some truth into it, I make sure that negative criticism is treated as a constructive one.
@janjee (160)
• Philippines
1 Jan 09
i guess i can.
when someone criticize you negatively, it does not always mean that they want to anger you or something like that. sometimes, it opens our eyes to our weaknesses or wrongdoings. you see, we may not notice it, but we do misbehave at times.
i'm even thinking that we even have to thank those who honestly tell us who we are, because in that way only can we be aware of ourselves. it may be hard to take at first, but in needs inner reflection. don't take it personally. think of it as an advice. it may even help us improve ourselves. especially if that criticism is from a close friend who knows us well.
@regal_aeros (2605)
• Singapore
2 Jan 09
i can take it IF it was given properly.
Honestly, it's an art that i'm trying to learn too. The art of giving criticisms that don't sound like one and not offend people too much.
I do get really hurt when people (like my mum) nags me about my weight and go on and on about me snacking.. and i usually snack when i'm stressed. So her naggings really make it worse and i tend to get moody and "depressed".
I won't deny that when i receive bad feedback, i do tend to ponder about it and try to better myself. I think that is the best way to handle bad "reports"
@Haylie2610 (582)
• Dominican Republic
1 Jan 09
Well... I'm not really sure. You see, when someone starts tellin' me what I'm doing wrong, or how I'm not good at something, I laugh at it and even make up some jokes about myself... but sometimes, it hits me really bad and I try to say "no, it doesnt matter, I'm not THAT bad" and at the same time, its eating me up for the next few days... I dont really know, I think it depends on the level you get criticized or the mood you're into at the time.
Happy MyLotting and have a nice day!
Xp
@finescribe (199)
• Philippines
2 Jan 09
Before, I cannot take negative criticism. For me it seems natural. But there was an instance that I almost lose something due to my inactivity with the negative criticism. This prompted me to do something instead of just downplaying them.
Negative criticisms are sometimes the moving force which will enable us to do something for our favor. It is a challenge being forced in order for us to do better. However, we must approach negative criticism into a more creative aspect and as a whole because if we take them just part by part without considering the context, we might lose the value of our work.
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
1 Jan 09
If one criticizes my work or something I did incorrect, OK, but if I hear rude words from a jealous person about my life, my way of thinking, my eating habits,clothes,friends or something like that,of course I won't handle it.You know,criticism is like small attack,people like checking whose teeth are sharper.;)
@hibiscus_mel (719)
• United States
1 Jan 09
Negative critism is really hard to deal with. I myself don't like negative critisms but I cannot help to think about it why some people can easily bombard you with negativity. Sometimes I just keep quiet and sometimes I answer back at the people who critizes me. I think answering back has something to do with the level of comfort you have with that person. We have to remember that when critized we exert more effort to do better. We want to prove to the world that they were wrong with what they have just said. I do believe in the saying that says, " a diamond is a chunk of coal that made good under pressure", I believe so can we.
