What would you do when you find out under her/his pillows is an ex. picture?

I think if the person we loved had a picture of their ex under their pillow, it would give all of us a little pain and doubt, but there are things to be considered here before deciding that you need to leave her. Firstly, how long is it since she broke with her ex and got together with you, and after how long with her ex did the break occur. It may be that she's not entirely over him yet and needs a bit longer to adust, but I would ask her the reason for the picture being there in the first place. It could only be under her pillow so as not to upset your feelings by placing it somewhere you can always see it... you need answers. Secondly, it is just a picture. It's inanimate... maybe they're still friends in a sense, but they weren't meant to be anything more, although I can't see the reason for her to have the picture beneath her pillow. Thirdly, I would consider her reactions to you, physically and mentally. Do you feel wanted, or do you feel you are a "convenience" or somebody to fall back on? If you feel she loves you and there's no problem with physical contact, then I wouldn't think there's a problem here. I think you have the right answer... she needs to let go of her past and her ex, but gently does it... patience is a virtue. Just a calm chat could smooth stormy waters, my friend. Brightest Blessings... I hope everything turns out well for you.

Mind if I ask why do you have to keep it under your pillows in the first place ? I mean it would totally wreck the feelings of your girlfriend upon knowing it. Although it is already past, I think whatever has passed must be let go, keeping a picture even under the pillows would mean so differently from your girlfriend. I hope she manage to get over this, and may you're relationship is doing well.

If I have a boyfriend who keep his ex picture under his pillow will be out of my life because that simple means I am not wanted nor needed there. Actions speak louder than words.

It would mean WAR hahahaha of course i would not accept it because it would mean he is still thinking of her! which is a NO- NO for me lol and right then and there i would confront him about it and give him a piece of my mind, if he still likes / love her then we must end our relationship right then and there but if he does not anymore he better have a good explanation on why her pic is still with him..and afterwards ill shread the picture into pieces and burn it lol

I will hurt for I know he will still have feelings to his ex. I cannot ask him why he still have her picture and under his pillow? Because I cannot talk if I get hurt I'm speechless for i don't have anything to say. I cannot think. I don't like arguments that is why i'm speechless. I'll let him feel guilt to what he's done. Let him think what is happening and I would like him to be tortured in the way he was done. For sure i know that he knows what is happened and most of the time he is the great pretender.

Well i'll ask my partner about it and will discuss with my partner about the matter.......There's no point in pretending as if it doesn't bother me because sooner or later it will start getting into one's head....

That would really be something and I would talk to her immediately about it. Having a picture of an ex under the pillows means a lot. If she'd say she still have something for that guy (which possibly what the case is), then I'll let go of the relationship immediately to let her think about it. I'm with you on that. It's nice n30 to at least you will give her a chance out of love.

If I found apicture of my husband's ex under his pillow, I would confront him about it immediately, and I am sure I wouldn't be too kind about it. I am a very understanding person, but I would draw the line at that.

i feel like if they need to have pics of their ex much less under the pillow. they still have feeligns that have not been let go and that they need time to heal over the past so it would be best for me not to be there..cant make someone forget their past if they arent ready to

about my brother ,in the old days we were fighted so often,each he beat me.i often asked my father for help.it is sound like a joke. but now we are so kind ,i often ask my broter for money,what about you. he sometimes like a girl so much.but the result their aparting.i do not how to say.i want to help my brother ,but i do not how to help him .can you give me some help. thank you so much.

I'd be really POed if I ever found pictures of my boyfriend's exes in his things! I would just start yelling at him. I found an old note from an exgirlfriend of his once on his bed. He said he was cleaning his closet out or something. I believe him, but I was still mad about it. I guess I'm a jealous girlfriend type. I mean he liked her once, so he could like her again. We live together now so there better not be any pictures there!

I would be mad as a hornet! That would show me they are not ready to move on and no matter what they say to me..it would only mean they can't have them.No one wants to be alone but that is just where they would be. I don't mind photos in a box or something like that but under their pillow? While their in bed with me?Noway.There would be fireworks!

well first thing is i will ask directly the reason of him being ther n if she still likes him i will take her to him and vice versa

Hi, You are not the only person who has had to deal with pictures of ex's so take comfort we know how you feel.Well my very first b/f had pictures of ALL his ex's in the top drawer of his dresser drawer. I never forgot it but because of that discovery I refused to have a picture taken with him or any picture of myself given to him.Even tho it has been many years I have never forgotten. Now I still do not like having my picture taken by anyone. My first husband did not get any picture of me but the one wedding picture we had. My b/f now understands how I feel so he knows I won't give in to easily when pictures are being taken. There are a few but most of the pictures include my family. I have an uneasy feeling so I don't look happy in the pictures.

If my bf had pics of his ex that included him it would not bother me as long as they are not out in the open and NOT under his pillow. If I found out that my bf had a picture of his ex under his pillow I would leave and never come back.

I might freak out at first...Just kidding! Well, am not that nagging type of girl, but that does not mean I would ignore or pretend that I know something. Definitely, I would confront him about it and make him explain if he is still crazy with his ex. I would give him the space to think what and who is his present and future. Good thing, I have not experienced that with my current. ...I know it's my pictures what he keeps under his pillows and everywhere. Too confident! ... Just in case, one day, your illustration happens, Whew! I would really freak out.

That's not a good picture. I will ask him why he has that picture under his pillow. But, I don't think I will get an honest answer from him. But, still I will ask why and tell him that it hurts me to see that picture under his pillow.

n30wing, It is important to understand that all of us have a memorable past of our lives and it comes in the form of past relationships as well. I would advocate that the both of you have a talk or at least you should try and let her understand about your feelings, instead of letting your imaginations go on the loose and out of control. Take care.

I don't know what to do but, I will definitely be pissed off!

My current boyfriend still has a picture of his ex-girlfriend in his bag. I also saw another picture of that girl that he saved in his flash drive. He never deleted those files. I also saw some of the love letters that she sent to him when they were still together. I am not sure if he loves me as much as I do, but everytime I ask him why, he answers me in a very persuasive way.