To be or not to be?

You are right aisaellis, I envy u for that,in my case u know sometimes I cannot be the person that I want myself to be, specially when it comes to my mother, sometimes she's becoming so manipulated she wants me to be what she wants which is I dont want. There is nothing I can do but to follow her, dont want her to be disappointed about me.

error - manipulative -- sorry

my mom is like that sometimes too that's why when I can't reach her expectation, she would then compare me to my sister..hehehe

I agree with you, but what if that particular person who ask u to be what he/she wants u to be is the most important person in your life??and what if u love that person so much that u dont want to hurt him/her, but u know for a fact that if u will follow what he/she wants u will suffer but the thing is u will hurt him/her which one will u choose??

To be honest, I will ignore their wishes. I know this kinda selfish, but if they really love me, they must accept who I am. But let say they still forcing me to be someone else??? I think I will question them again, about relationship and I am very sure they will give up their idea. If my personality is very strong, any soft feeling will gone and my defense even stronger. This is almost same scenario like my life right now. I'm married. But before I met my husband, I really love the way I am, and why this guy wants to be with me? It must be he accepts me as who I am, not as others. Ok then the story is begin. After married, I can see his true colours. I think I was being hypnotized by love hahaha, anyway He wants me to be like those novel wife or mother. I think his expectation is different from when we were dating. I grown up as the youngest, independence and always trying my best to be the best and I love freedom. But when he wants me to be someone that I dislike, I pissed off, and I do not care and not fulfill his wish. As long my conscience is right, why I need to be someone else. But if he wishes me to be someone that I idolized or is within my list, then I will consider it.

Yeah i agreed with you... But what if that person ask u to be like what they want u to be is the most important person in your life?? are u going to follow what they want?

Yeah I agree with u.. But what if that person who ask u to be like what he want u to be is the most important person in ur life?? Are u going to follow him??

The most important person in my life would not force me or want me to be someone I'm not. The most important person in my life would love me for who I am. You're unique because of who you really are.