Would you hire a private investigator to spy on your spouse?
@InvestigatorDee (105)
United States
November 8, 2006 8:42pm CST
If you suspected your spouse was cheating but couldn't come up with factual evidence would you hire a private investigator to spy on your spouse? Why or why not? If you had the money, would you hire the private investigator? If you wondered what your spouse is doing with all his money, would you hire a private investigator? Do you wish you would have had a private investigator do a background check on your spouse or ex spouse?
You bet, I would hire a private investigator! I wouldn't want the stress to figure out if my spouse was cheating or not. Plus my spouse could try to hide it from me but couldn't from a private investigator. Plus if I wondered if my spouse was cheating, then there isn't much trust in the relationship. Why waste precious time, when you can get the evidence from a professional and divorce the loser. Yes, before I got married I got a background check on my spouse. I wish I had done it to all my loser boyfriends.
Do you agree or disagree with me?
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@masacantu83 (167)
• United States
9 Nov 06
Nah...I'm not sure I'd hire one I trust my hubby and I've always told him if you want to cheat on me tell me first so we can end this before it goes somewhere we don't want it to lead too. But I'd consider calling the show Cheaters...save me money on an investigator.
@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
15 Jan 07
I have seen that show where the investigators keep an eye on activity of the spouse and what they are doing when the other person is not around. It was quite interesting and most of the time the spouse was cheating on their partner. I would hire an investigator if my partner was coming home later than usual or had ladies perfume on him or was acting very strange around me. Of course, it would depend on if I had the money. Another possibility is to have a good friend let you know if they see your spouse with another person.
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@cnshively (11)
• United States
9 Nov 06
My husband is absolutely too transparent. I would be able to find everything out simply by asking him. He is not the worlds greatest liar.
Now I know I WOULD hire a PI to investigate my oldest daughters biological father, because I know he's hiding way too much information.
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@workingpinoy (52)
• Philippines
9 Nov 06
i wouldn't go through the lengths of hiring a private investigator to spy on my husband. it's just a waste of time and money. if what you want to find out will not bring dire consequences or put you and your family in danger then i'd say drop the idea. but if the reason for the investigation is to know whether your husband is plotting to kill you, then by all means, go ahead.
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@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
20 Dec 06
I agree, evidence of infidelity is definitely grounds for divorce and time to be going. I would hire a private investigator as well as snoop myself. But if they found nothing I would have to accept that as evidence of some kind too right?
@erielle (1280)
• United States
9 Nov 06
I don't see anything wrong with running background checks on people. But, to hire a spy is just plain pitiful. If my spouse is cheating on me than I will find out in due time. But, what if he wernt and I hired an investigator? I would be the untrusting one.
@Alloy42 (372)
• United States
20 Dec 06
A private investigator isn't really necessary, you can find your own criminal records (and sometimes family member's information) for free by going to the city/county/state in which the offense occurred and requesting the information. Some precincts charge copy fees, so be prepared for that. Some precincts also have websites but charge access fees, and you'd want to check each city/county/state's site.
If you want to get someone else's information with any degree of accuracy, or you don't want to have to search all over, or you'd like other information (like your employment and rental histories), then you are most likely going to have to pay for a service.
I've spoken with a lot of people who wanted background check information; so many so that I put together a web page with a few good resources: http://home.austin.rr.com/alloy/backgroundcheck.html
Hmmm I kinda like what I wrote there... I think I'll put that as general advice on the page :-)
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@Donnyboy8 (786)
• United States
9 Nov 06
I would use a private investigator If I had reasonable proof.
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@janeshrathod (104)
• India
19 Dec 06
ok! well then if you trust ur spy more then your spouse the dump the man and marry the spy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@suzyangel08 (616)
• United States
27 Dec 06
I believe God would take care of me on this one:)
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@sassyces (1602)
• Philippines
19 Dec 06
Oh yes, DEFINITELY! Actually as of now, If I only have the money, then I'd hire an investigator to check on my boyfriend. It's not that I don;t trust him, it's just that there are a lot of stories that's circulating and I would want to spare myself from all the thinking it gives me. Unfortunately, this sure costs ALOT and since I'm still a student, I still have that much money.
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@jal1948 (1359)
• India
19 Dec 06
If i doubted my spouse,I would confrotf and ask for explanations,in a nice mature manner, without being biased,knowing that maybe i could be wrong,continue giving him the benefit of the doubt,till i find concrete proof,i would not waste my hard earned money on a private investigator,even if i could afford it, they come pretty expensive anyway,unless i needed concrete proof to obtain a divorce.As for getting a background check on all boyfriends seems absurd,u should trust your better judgement,and save your money, and misery.
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@whacks (774)
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
For relationships between spouses, I do not agree with still hiring a private investigator to prove. Do it yourself and if you really have not that trust anymore, separate or divorce! It's hell to be living with somebody whom you do not trust and love anymore.
