Is Your Family Helpful?

hey you are tempting me to come up with a response which is tailored to get the best response tag. No I will not be tempted. Best respnse or not I will respond the way I love to. i have never really thought of bets responses. Anyway. In our house, I am the only man around as i have two daughters. They are both grown and one has got married and moved out with her husband. The yonger one is i hostel most of the year and comes home for holidays. So that leaves me and my wife at home most of the year. Now it often happens that bvefore my wife can tell me that a thign is not working, I have it rectified. She often says "What woudl i do without you." She is totally dependent on me. in fact my two daughters too are totally dep0endent on me even now. Any decision they have to take, teh turn to me. It is a different matter that they may not listen to my advice on many things, but they must take my advice. My wife has to just tell me some thing and it is done. i love to bring a smile on the faces of people I love and to see my wife smiling is really fulfilling.

Hmm. Maybe they're not super-speedy when it comes to helping in certain circumstances; but my family are helpful winners in their right - they don't say "no" if they can help, and if they can't, they'll explain reasonably and even offer to help find me an alternative solution. ;) I don't know, but I think as long as they're willing to help you, that's good enough. And that's not just my immediate family; I'm indebted to my extended family for quite a few things as well. (A list of what they've helped me with would probably take up goodness-knows-how-many pages.) Of course, I can understand why you'd be irritated with your son's inaction... -_-

I guess I am lucky, my family is helpful. We try to help one another in a prompt way.I am coming to this post three weeks late. I hope you have a can opener by now.

I generally like to play devil's advocate, and I guess this time is no different. If you've been struggling with a can opener for almost a year, I'm sure he just didn't see that it was a huge problem for you to be without it for one more day. I've found that often when people demand things/decide they need them right away (like help with something when the person they're talking to is doing something else, or new can openers) people tend to tune them out. When/if your son actually gets you the can opener, be sure to thank him. Try not to mention the fact that he should have done it sooner (which he should have). Just look at the positive, that he will have gotten it, and that you'll have a new one. If doing things for you leads to good things (rewards/praise) he'll be more likely to do things for you, and more quickly, in the future. I don't have an example of when my family hasn't been quick with help, because I'm blessed with family members that are anxious to help. (and I don't ask often, and when I do and they do help me it's often followed with some sort of 'repayment' (even if just a hug/pat on the back))

hi friends i am very happy to say that my family is very supportive to me.and each member in my family render their help to me.and they are always with me when i am low and when worries overwhelm me.i share my feelings mostly with my sibling and mmy mother.they are always there for me. bye!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

hi winterose... i am sorry to heard that you still no get your opener....try to use another to open your can:) how lazy your soon...can let him sleep all day,,,he needs to be do some excerise or he'll get fat or sick... as what your mention about,yes sometimes i feel like same feeling...just not happy about it.. like my younger borther,everytime ask him to clean the floor before have dinner or he gone out,but every time he says "Ok i will do it later",always later,then he just gone....he never get thing done before he leave or else....just wonder why he does not finsh things people ask him to do,and just go by a sec...it's not a hard work,it does not takes time,but still WAIT A LITTLE BIT.always like that... hmmm

I know how ou feel. I don't own a car and town is 10 miles or more and no buses run out this way and I have no way anywhere unless i get someone to take me. My mom was suppsed to show up yesterday morning to take me to town I got up at 8 and showered(my husband had turned off heat to concerve our kerosene) and patiently waited but she didn't show. I was supposed to have signed up for more heat assistance and for my fibernet internet. I guess I will have to wait till monday or the 8th now. My mom showed up today around 3 but it being Saturday neither the phone company or the heating assistance palce was open. Not having a car and having to rely on other people is hard. I hate relying on other people cause stuff happens beyond our control because of it. I wish places delivered like they used to long ago..

I'm very lucky I suppose, my friend. I like to remain independent to a degree but if they see I'm struggling, both my family and extended family will offer to help in some way. They don't wait to be asked because they know I'm unlikely to do so. When I used to go to work, and my two sons were at home, it took me an hour to get to and an hour to get home from work, on the bus. Invariably, I'd get in and my younger son, who was not working at the time, would have cleaned the entire house, the cooker and have a cup of tea ready for me, and dinner on the go. So, as I said, I consider myself very lucky. Brightest Blessings... I hope you get your can opener very soon, as it's quite an essential.

I'm afraid I am infuriatingly independent and would not expect help from either family or friends. In my case, if someone helped me out in this way I would be pleasantly surprised. Having said that, my family is as helpful as I need. Most of my family live a good two hours away, and my daughter is only four... Although she listens to hardly anything I say, she is very generous and always wants to be helpful.. I would try mail-order if I were you...that way you only have to rely on the mail-man!

Well I'm definately not going to get best response for my answer but because you're a dear friend on my friends list I'm going to answer your post regardless. I have never had the problem. I only had one child and she is now 36 married with two children as you know already. All I would have had to do is mention the can opener sucks and she would have gone and had it replaced right away. She would definately have never allowed me to open a tin that way. I think the next time a tin needs opening give your son the tin and the knife and say open this for me please. That is down right frustrating I'm sure!!!

Well i think in this case i am the lucky one. I have 2 younger brothers and they are soo caring and loving to me in fact my whole family have strong bindings. My 2 sisters got married 5 years ago and we still give them full respect and care and i think because we give them respect soo in reward our younger s doing the same for us. Children always leans from the elders. If your family have a loving and caring atmosphere in the childhood of your childs then they should have to be responsible and caring and if you was not able to give them good time and good relations then they are quite right to ignore you. They other fact is about society, our religion and culture always telling us that our parents and our childs are our responsibility. We have to take good care of them at every cost that is our duty. Mostly in western cultures peoples want a free life no responsibility, no relations other then equal partners.

I have plenty, the latest being disowned by my father because of a decision I reciently made. Such is life. I hope by now you got your can opener, but yes, through some of the toughest times in my life, my family has chosen I was not "worthy" of their help that was desprately needed. Ainge Keep your chin up, things always work out for the best.

my family is the type that will do anything for you.. they may gripe but you can ask them to help you move or mention you need something and they will make it happen.. now this isnt to say im spoiled because i have never asked for money or anything but like just in normal discussion i will say that im sick and hungry but dont feel good enough to cook and my mom drove an hour with homemade soup for me.. i also had can openers that i couldnt use due to fibro weakness and pain and my mom brought me all her extra ones for me to try.. when it comes to moving or something i have to get help from my bros they will whine and etc but they come around.. just the way its always been but i see all these other people that families dont help out anyone!! where as my family you may not even ask for anything but if we know we can help out each other we will and no one in my family ever abuses it by asking for help when they dont need it

Family would always help each other thats y they are family. I can without hesitation at 12 in night can phone anyone in my family if i need any help and since they live little away but i expect them if required to be with me with in 6 hours..(5 hours of traveling out of 6) and i know even if i did a big crime my family would do its best to see i dont go to jail and it is same with 90% families in atleast India and Indian sub continent and i include Pakistan and Bangladesh in it too.

u bought 2 electric can opener an neither one was no good so i open mine manually my daughter fuse but i don,t care at least it works for me.i don,t want another electric can opener.my old one is just fine.my daughter is helpful but i don,t want a new one they work for a while and quit

[i]Hi winterose, I have no problem with my younger sister or parents or husband when it comes to anything I need or I will request, they are there all the time.... That is hard when we don't get a help from our loved ones right away...I have a close friend who has a siblings like that....I remember when we were in College and she was sick, other friend took care of her and the siblings didn't even offer to cook for her or what to think they are living in the same room![/i]

Dearest winterose.....did you ever twig a nerve with me! How dare he? Thank goodness my house is empty....I used some pretty nasty explicatives directed at your son! Show this post to your son! I have only one son, he was home for Xmas...arrived home on Xmas eve, I had not told him I had fractured my hip on the 23rd! The whole time he was home (until the 30th) he waited on me hand & foot, even cooked Xmas dinner for the first time in his life! Best dinner I ever had! B4 he left, he made sure I had enough firewood in for a week (arranged for someone else to look after it, after that). Made sure I had dinners put by (frozen.) He has phoned me 3 times a day (long distance) to make sure I am eating & warm! He cleaned the house b4 he left! And he is always like this.....never asking, always giving! My heart goes out to you .. I know you love him with all your heart, but he is being an ingrate!

LMAO!!! AAAhhh {{Rose}} I got to laughing so hard I got the Hiccups now!! over your question here; Is Your Family Helpful? In one word...NOOOOooooo!!! You have health issues I have health issues, they don't care they just want what they want and don't care about my neck and back pains all through the holidays of cooking and baking and in pain so much, they always want more and or ask where is this dish or why didn't you bake your chocolate pies?? UGH!! I nearly come unglued with them, they all are old enough to cook and bake themselves with their spouses and boyfriends/whatever, but do they??? noooooooo!!! I just want to kick them all!!!! Yeah my back is hurting me and I'm a tad bit growly right now!!

I have a whole porch full of HEAVY trash that my son was supposed to help me carry out to the dumpster, weeks ago. I have no plastic on my windows to keep the cold wind out, because my son has not come over to help me. (I am not allowed to climb on things, and I am restricted to only being able to lift 20 lbs. or less) I asked my son to come help put plastic up in October so A. I stay warmer, and B. so my power bill doesn't get too high because I won't be able to pay it. It is now January. He lives across town, has two cars, and does not work.

no this has never happened to me my family has been always very helpful to me.