Is it ever right to not love your family???

I think deep down we all love our family... or at least want to love them and we want their love in return. We only get one life as far as we know, and we need to play the hand we're dealt. Trying to not love someone seems to take far more energy than just choosing to love no matter what. It causes health problems, depression and numerous other undesirable things, to hold anger and dislike inside. I have a sister who only seems to call me when she needs money (and I don't have much of it myself), a Grandmother who starts petty arguments with me when I just want to be with my family, and many of my family members seem to not really know me or want to know me at all. But I still love them, and do whatever I can for them.

Sometime and some family members are very hard to love. We can chose our friends and so can feel more love toward them because for some reason in some families the member feel that they don't have to work at being lovable. Some time family member think that their family has to love them because they are family. It would really be nice if our families were lovable. I do think that we should work at loving our family but it doesn't mean we have to like them and put up with their bad behavior or have them treat us badly.

I think that no matter what there is a part of everyone that loves all of their family. Now in saying that I will tell you that I have a bad father. He used to mentally and physically abuse me and my brothers. To this day I do not talk to him at all. But I think that there is apart of me that loves him still. I do not respect him or care for him but a piece of me still loves him. He is my blood and if it were not for him then I would not have the family that I have and love.