trying to find parents

Oh, wow... that would be a hard decision. I'm sorry to hear you are going through this. It must be really difficult. I can not say whether you should or shouldn't look for your parents, but you need to consider the real possibility that they may not be good people. Hopefully they are, but it sounds like they may have a lot of troubles. I have a son from my first marriage and his biological dad was very abusive. Soon after I left him he stopped coming to see our son. My husband that I have now adopted my son and my son has not see his biological dad since before he was 2 (he's 12 now). I worry a lot because I know my son will probably one day go looking for his biological dad and I know there is a good chance my son will be hurt (emotionally) and used, but I also know after he is an adult I can't stop him from making that decision so it is better for me to be supportive of him and make sure he knows I am there for him when he gets hurt. I really hope everything works out for you no matter what you decide to do. If you do go through with trying to meet them, please try to get prepared first and find someone (adoptive parent, brother, or friend) that will be there for you if it doesn't work out. Remember you can be any type of person you want to be and that it's not your fault that you are in this situation. I wish you the best of luck and I will pray for you.

My husband has gone through most his life not knowing his bio father. Not that he couldn't have contact with him....his mother just didn't want him around him. So when he was about 25 they started emailing and calling each other. After we got married we went to visit his dad for the first time. (AR to CA...long drive) We have learned that his father is very different. He still has respect for his dad but we are very thankful he was not raised by his father full time b/c my husband would not the man he was today. Since then (2003) we have not seen his father only had limited phone calls. His father has not even tried to come see our children. Things are weird...but my husband does not regret going and finding out the truth.

hi bigeovist..happy new year...they are still your parents no matter what..just think that you will not be here in this world without them ...hope you can find them in due time ..dont lost hope...