Will the elegance and cost of your ring matter a great deal to you?

United States
January 5, 2009 3:29am CST
I am not married yet, but will no doubt in the future be engaged to my boyfriend. When I think of him having to buy me a wedding ring I am reminded of the Beatles song, "Can't Buy Me Love." He could buy me a less expensive ring made of quartz or cubic zirconium and I would still be ecstatic. It could be stainless steel and not white gold or even yellow gold or platinum and I would still probably be crying my eyes out with joy. It can be quite an expensive feat, especially since it is traditional to buy an engagement ring first. All in all, I really would not be let down at all with a less expensive ring. How do you feel on the matter?
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12 responses
@Galena (9110)
5 Jan 09
I don't think the price is important. first and foremost, what matters is the meaning of it. you do have to consider that it's something you'll wear all your life, so it should be durable, and something you want to wear forever. and that can be cheap or expensive. as it happens, the ring I plan to use as my wedding ring was free. my mum found it, years ago. and I love it, it's just perfect. spending hundreds couldn't get me a more perfect wedding ring than that one.
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@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
5 Jan 09
I am divorced but I still have my engagement and wedding ring in my jewelry box. The cost of them didn't matter at all. I have a blue topaz nine carrot gold engagement ring. I didn't need an expensive diamond ring. I have an 18 carrot gold wedding ring. Love is what matters and it is lovely when it lasts forever.
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@porwest (89267)
• United States
22 Jan
This reminds me of our friend Kacha. She boasted and boasted about her $10,000 engagement ring. When she finally married it lasted two years. So much for the fancy ring.
@dropofrain (1167)
• India
6 Jan 09
This ring matters a lot in my life. I always wanted a solitaire as my ring. I just love it. But I belong to a SEC B so it is difficult for me to get one. It is the emotions at the end of the day which matters the most and not the size of the ring.
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@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
7 Jan 09
It is all about what the ring symbolizes to me, cost really didn't matter. But one thing that was important to me was that my fiance picked out a style that I loved on his own. We talked a little about rings before we were engaged but I never out and out showed him what I wanted. When he gave me this gorgeous ring that I love and will wear forever I was so happy that he knew me well enough to pick something on his own that is completely my style.
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@GAUCI123 (1042)
• Malta
5 Jan 09
Well I am married, and my wedding ring for me is my precious ring, however it dosen't cost a lot of money, it is a simple gold ring with some white ring in it. For me it is not necessary to buy an expensive ring, the love counts. I wear it on occations since I worry that I will lose it, imagine if I have a ring worth thousands of dollars I will keep it in my drawer, since I will be frightened that I will be robbed. :)
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• United States
5 Jan 09
Yes it's the thought that counts =] I think I might be a little timid to wear my ring daily when I'm married since I'm not used to wearing rings and might lose it! Eek I wouldn't want an expensive ring to be taken from me either.
• India
5 Jan 09
i always think that if any girl is capable of convincing a guy to settle down and marry her, then she is the most luckiest in this world. The fact that a guy wants to settle down with me is more than enough.. i dont even want a ring to proclaim him commitment to me. just ask me those magical 4 words - "Will you marry me?" and i would ask for nothing else in this world.. So my answer to your question is - No, the elegance and cost of my ring doesnt matter a great deal to me.
• United States
5 Jan 09
That's how I feel too. I kind of don't even want a ring lol. I am just amazed that someone so loving and beautiful even loves me so much! He could buy a 25 cent ring from a machine and I would still cherish it =] just as I cherish him
@DCMerkle (1281)
• United States
5 Jan 09
I'm married and the cost of the ring didn't matter to me, but the look did. I really just got a gold band, but it had to be thin with beaded edging to it. Now I started thinking about wedding rings in general and thought about the rings that are handed down generation to generation. Rings that were bought 50 years ago are now worth something and for those that are even older are worth more. Now that all depends on the type of gold, gems or design that was used. Something like that is something that is handed down and for some it becomes an investment. Look at all the gold rings that are being sold today. I'm not saying that is somethng that should be taken into serious consideration, but it's something that could matter later on down the line. DCMerkle
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• Canada
5 Jan 09
This is what i feel about engagements and this is what I feel about the rings. When my fiance proposed to me Jan of 2006 he didn't have a ring and I couldn't be happier. THe reason for this is that the 'engagement' part has become far to over done over the years. He felt embarrassed that he didn't have a ring and i felt ecstatic that he didn't. Why because he was able to ask me no matter what and he didn't need a ring to do it. I told him he could put a piece of rope around my finger and I'd still be happy. The ring is just a symbol to everyone else that you are going to be married. It's not for the both of you to know because deep down inside you know forever is there for you both. I dislike when I hear ungrateful girls say well I want a 10,000 ring on my hand. Why because that's a bit much, why not have him put that money towards something useful? Like a house or heck maybe even your wedding. I feel it's about understanding what marriage and engagement is about. It's about a promise forever, finally being with your love for a life time. To me that out does any expensive ring or pretty dress. I'm content with saying my vows in jeans and a tshirt. Because in the end i'd be marrying my best friend, my hero and the man I love. Nothings better than that and I wouldn't want anything more or less than an 'I do'.
• United States
5 Jan 09
My husband and I have been married for 4 months and hae been together for almost 5 years. When we got married we had to try to coordinate our days off with an available Justice of the Peace. We didn't even have rings at the ceremony. I was okay with us going out and just getting some gold bands, but he wanted the rings to be more special. With or without the rings I don't feel any less committed or any less loved.
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• Philippines
5 Jan 09
i'm only 17 at this moment but i have a boyfriend for four years. we are waiting for us to graduate and to have a stable job before we get married. for me i don't really care if he'll buy me a less expensive ring. it is just a ring. it can't determine his love for me. i'm not a materialistic kind of girl. i wouldn't mind if he'll buy me a toy ring for our engagement. all i care about is him. his love for me. and our future together.;)
• Mexico
5 Jan 09
What´s up! First of all, let my thank you for the discussion. And for your question, I like that girls don´t care much about that things, that is it expensive or not. Most of people now care only about money, they actually marry people they don´t like for the cash. So, I would say that the girls that are like you are the best. Even tought, if in a Future I get married, I will give my wife the best ring I can get for her, ´cause for some girls, that symbol is really important, and not for what it is its cost, but of what it represents, and I always will give my girl the best I can give her. (I don´t say this because " I buy girls", that is the expression that most people use. But sincerily, My girl deserves everything I can get) Hope this helps you. Best of my regards. P.D. Your picture is cool XD
@porwest (89267)
• United States
22 Jan
I think you have the right attitude. If a woman I intended to marry became offended or off put by the ring I choose, that relationship would be over immediately.