leaving my bestfriend
By shanemre
@shanemre (357)
Saudi Arabia
January 5, 2009 9:42am CST
I am currently in the process of finishing my studies, and tentatively on March, I will be leaving my country to be with my husband... But the difficult part is when I look back to the people I will leave behind. Of course my parents are not easy to leave... but what I am worrying is about my best friend too. She has learned to depend on me too much. I haven't told her that I will leave sooner than she thinks. I cannot tell her because every time I open the topic of me living in my husband's country, she starts to cry, she is telling me she is scared to be without me. I feel pain when I see her crying like that...
How can I tell her that I will leave soon? How can I teach her to deal with it too?
2 responses
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
9 Jan 09
Hello shanemre! It's really sad to leave someone you love to be with someone you love too. I think you better live with your husband. Your bestfriend has to live on her own without you. She has to experience the good and bad in order for her to learn and grow as a person. She will not grow if you're always there for her.
@shanemre (357)
• Saudi Arabia
9 Jan 09
I have tried a lot of times in the friendship to teach her how to deal with things without me. Not in a manner that I will totally be out of her life. I am jsut sometimes teaching her to do things without me doing it for her or without me telling her what to do...
... I will be leaving on march... and every time I start to talk about the topic, she tarts to cry. But, you are right, she has to know... and if she really is my best friend, she has to understand.
Thanks a lot !
@riyasam (16556)
• India
8 Jan 09
that is not good.i think you have to be truthful to her,the sooner the better.it will give to prepare mentally.she will have to accept the fact,that your place is with your hubby.
