What topics do you usually talk with people you just met?

Malaysia
January 6, 2009 5:55am CST
Hey there I was wondering what suitable topics that we should talk about when we are trying to break the ice. I usually ran out of topics and I know how important it is to be friendly to people as it will improve my social life.I normally talk about ridiculous stuff which always produced a lot of awkward moments. I guess talking about the weather is probably a bad idea. Thanks in advance for your feedback.
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@Yori88 (1465)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
I think the best topic to start a good conversation is to ask personal information first like favorites and hobbies. It is better to ask questions that gather simple information from a person you're talking with in other to think of a branch topic from his or her answers. You should also allow that person to ask you some things in order to find out his interests. Then you just have to be natural and don't try to impress and pull your own leg.
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• Malaysia
7 Jan 09
Great idea. I'll try it up. I wish I am one of those people who makes friends easily LOL
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• China
6 Jan 09
That is depend on in what circumstance we meet. If we meet for the reason of working, that is well, just talking about the job. If we meer on the bus, ok, just talking about the weather of something that may get both of us attention. :)
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• Malaysia
6 Jan 09
Hurmmm.... Yes I agree... Do you think it's better to just talk about something rather then talking less because there's nothing to talk about?
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
15 Jan 09
I've found it easier to talk about something the person is doing or the nature of the work they are involvedd in. They normally tend to open up a lot that way and with a little bit of interaction the ice slowly starts to melt away.
• Malaysia
15 Jan 09
Thanks for the idea. I do it a lot to but usually to friends that I have not seen for a long time. Some people do have a strange reaction talking about themselves. Maybe they are not having such a good time.
• India
6 Jan 09
Talking about the weather is bad but a safe choice. Otherwise I start with a few safe questions like what’s the person’s profession and who are there in the family. If it’s a married middle-aged lady like me, then kids is a safe topic too.
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• Malaysia
6 Jan 09
hurmmm... Thanks for some of the topics suggested there... I guess talking a bout a safe topic is better rather than a rather risky one as the person might not think he knows you well enough to discuss heavy topics.
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@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
21 Jan 09
it depends on where i meet them. if i meet them in my working place ( i am a musician ) then we are going to talk about music. i think that is the best topic to tackle for everybody loves music. it is a nice and safe ground to talk about. argg i dont like talking about the weather. but edward collin did that to bella and i think it was a nice way to start a something to start. har har har
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
i am a guy, a father of a three year old boy and a husband of a very die hard fan of twilight. my wife downloaded the twilight movie and she watches it almost everyday. har har har. maybe he likes edward thats the reason why she watches it s lot. i can even memorize some of the dialog there. thats the reason why i know edward ask belle about the weather.
• Malaysia
27 Jan 09
HAHA... Nowadays girls are getting crazy about twilight but i think this thing will subside.
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
19 Jan 09
Well I usually ask them where they are from .What they like to do for fun ?.Their likes and dislikes.I also ask about favorite pasttimes. Then if its a girl ,I ask them what they normally od on a Satirday with a view to probably asking them if I may join them. In addition if there is anything in the news lately ,I will ask them if they have seen teh news item and hope that it strikes a chord
• Malaysia
19 Jan 09
Thanks for your suggestions. I guess it's better to ask something or say something rather than not saying anything.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
11 Jan 09
Usually it is small talk. We talk about the weather or anything that won't irritate the other person. I feel awkward to talk about personal subjects or politics or religion with someone that I have never met in my life before. (c) ronaldinu 2009 - the more people I meet-the more I love my dog
• Malaysia
22 Jan 09
Yes... I feel the same way too when I talk about politics but some adults do dig it. I dunno.
@neuronic (242)
• Japan
7 Jan 09
Usually just small talk. Depends on the situation as well. If it is important we talk about specific topic, if it is just meeting someone through other friends than it's just chit-chat...
• Malaysia
15 Jan 09
Hurmmm I always thought that it is important to say the rite stuff but it is also important that you let go once in awhile. Maybe I am overthinking too much
@srik11 (482)
• India
11 Jan 09
me too, i find it very uneasy to talk to anybody for the first time,, i usually ask some general question to which i myself embarrasingly answer,without letting them interact,,,
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
6 Jan 09
People love to talk about themselves! ...Ask about their jobs, where they are from, do they have children, that sort of thing. Once people start talking about themselves, you will probably find it easy to expand the conversation.
• Malaysia
7 Jan 09
Yeah, I guess the answer is so simple which is to just be creative and use my brain. I just want to eliminate all the awkwardness that I normally get when I meet people. Thanks for the idea.
@rangeros (97)
• India
6 Jan 09
lol.. if I meet anyone I just start by asking about what they do and from where they actually are. It's funny but I keep forgetting to ask the name of peoples. XD And well in my opinion safe topics include asking about their education(), family and where do they live and just topics like those which only leads to small discussions. Doing thus, will let us know what kind of person he/she actually is. And so then we can any discussions we like as long as we know that they don't get irritated.
• Malaysia
8 Jan 09
Thanks for the idea. Talking about family usually makes people happy. ^^