If you would choose, would you take away the legality of divorce in your place?

Hi Jimmy! Am not here to make contradictions with your smooth discussion about the topic. Indeed, am glad there are guys speaking their opinion about the pros and cons of divorce. By the way, allow me to give some twist about the topic. A friendly debate. Fortunately you mentioned that you would not divorce because you have found your true love and just got married. In short, newly weds still. Now, I would ask you, if after 10 years or so and you no longer find your wife pretty, she has changed her colors or let us say all the attitudes you hate in a girl is on her, would your love remain to her? Another scenario is you argue almost everyday and she nags you, manipulates you, she gets jealous unreasonably about everything, and worse is she met someone and found on the other guy what you cannot give her.....With all possibilities that may happen in 10 years of marriage, would your answer be the same?

Good to hear that. congratulations for finding your love. sounds like she's a very lucky girl. i didn't know divorce is also legal in china, in philippines, it's not but some law makers are pursuing this. i guess those people are having hard times with their marriage. i like chinese women coz they are very loyal to their man, well that's what they show on TV. anyway, good luck to you brother.

Thank you, my buddy...yeah in China there are few women to say divorce unless they find ture love and marry a man that love her

there is another law for abusive relationship. you could discard divorce for that. i can file a case if my wife is abusing me physically then she goes to jail. then annulment would be a year away. see? i still don't see the purpose of divorce, please enlighten me

In the US, an annulment is insanely hard to get - you have to meet certain criteria and then be able to PROVE that you meet them; it can't just be that you and your spouse argue a lot or are no longer happy together. Sometimes unhappiness or a lot of fighting in a marriage can be fixed, but other times it simply cannot, even if both parties WANT to fix it, because perhaps the problems are caused by things neither person can change - no matter how hard they try. Sometimes, you just don't really know a person until you're married to that person. No matter how long you are together before marriage, no matter how much time you spend together, marriage changes things. And sometimes, you come to find out things about your partner that you cannot adjust to, or live with. Sometimes you find out that you just can't live together, even if you do still love each other, because you make each other miserable (I've been there, although thankfully my marriage recovered). People who are miserable together should not be forced to stay together, or prevented from trying to find happiness elsewhere. Divorce is almost never the best option, and most people work hard to prevent it, but that doesn't change the fact that sometimes, the best thing two people can do is to end a marriage - for the sake of their happiness, and even their health.

from what i see, people in the US usually live together before they even get married? isn't that enough time and space for you to really know each other? This type of mentality and reasoning is just giving people excuses to break up instead of fixing things and decreasing the standard that there is in the sanctity of marriage. have you not taught that god is in the center of that vow that you took when you said "i do"? now, it's alright to get married to someone you meet 2 months ago, there's divorce if ever it doesn't work right? see, britney spears' profile for example.

I agree with that, since there is already an option like divorce beforehand, they don't have that sense of caution and they don't try to resolve the problem anymore. it's like saying, my PC is not working well i'll just buy a new one. britney spears for example.

you go dude. i hate it when i see on TV that women files for divorce just because the man has tough times financially. they don't see us asking for divorce when they don't cook? or they can't clean the house well? right?

it would be nice if you share your story with us. i dont wanna ask whose fault it is, but let me say, who filed for divorce? sound like you didn't want it in the first place. good luck on your second marriage