Simple or Elaborated wedding

When I get married, I will prefer to have a simple wedding. Don't get me wrong, I will want to have a gorgeous outfit, and beautiful wedding rings for me and my partner, but in terms of everything else, I think low-key is the way to go. The important things to me would be to have everyone who is closest to me present to share the day with me i.e my family and closest friends. I think the meaning of the day is slightly lost when it is too big an event.

I've talked to so many people who say if they had to do it over they would just elope because the huge wedding they had was just too much. Weddings have a way of getting out of control and becoming about everything except the couple. I know couples who at there weddings didn't see their new spouse once after their first dance together because they were being pushed and pulled around the room. We are getting married in May and we're just going to slip away on a little holiday and come home married. Our families can have celebrations for us after if they want but the huge expensive wedding just isn't us.

My friend got married and spent thousands on the wedding. The marriage service was in a quaint little old church and the reception was at a old romantic looking castle. That sort of setting must have cost about eight thousand pounds. They were driven in an old Rolls Royce. They broke down on their way to the irport. Their honeymoon was a week in Florida and a week in the Bahamas. I got married at a registry office. Then we had our reception at my sister's flat. We went to Venice for a long weekend for our honeymoon. We spent less than one thousand pounds on our simple wedding. We did get divorced. If I married again I might do so abroad and have a small celebration in my home country afterwards. I would spend lots on the honeymoon not the actual wedding.

In some ways, I agree with you. I think it's ridiculous to spend 25,000 dollars on a wedding - which is on the low end of the cost of the average wedding these days! However, it's not a terrible thing to spend a bit of money to have a nice wedding and reception - after all, it's joyous occasion! You've found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, and you want to share that joy with the people you care about. But you can have a GREAT wedding - with a beautiful dress, nice reception, pretty flowers, the works - without spending more than 10,000 dollars, and in some cases, without spending anywhere near that much either. I say if you have tons of money at your disposal, then sure, throw a huge elaborate wedding, since it's not likely to hurt you financially. But when you're scrimping and saving, having a huge wedding only makes it that much more difficult to start your life together. The first year of marriage is hard enough without starting it in debt due to a wedding you couldn't afford!

Mine was simple. We married on a beach in Hawai'i. It was a dream of ours to go there on our honeymoon. Neither of our mothers had ever been. So we went there for the wedding. We spent a week there following the ceremony with both of us having our parents stay to take care of our daughter. I think that ceremonies should be what the bride and groom want. If they want something big to celebrate and they can afford it I don't think it is a waste of money. You can't put a price on memories and your wedding day should be one of the most perfect memories you keep and cherish forever.