Will you permit your spouse to work abroad?
By jlamela
@jlamela (4898)
Philippines
January 7, 2009 5:10pm CST
I am against of having a couple apart, because as a couple they should spend time together to help raise their kids, but most couple nowadays especially in the Philippines are separated because one of them went abroad.
Do you favor this arrangement?
3 responses
@youngsweetheart (772)
• United States
7 Jan 09
I haven't got any choice but to accept that sometimes my husband will be out of the country; he's in the military. His job isn't dangerous, thankfully, but sometimes he's in dangerous places.
I hate it when he's gone, because the kids don't really understand, and it makes it difficult to maintain the marriage. When he comes home after a deployment, we have to get to know each other all over again. You know those pictures you see of a happily reunited family? That lasts about as long as it takes to snap the photo. Once you're at home, things can be very tense - he's not used to being home and having responsibilities outside of his job, and you've found your rhythm and now he's disrupting it.
Ideally, spouses should not have to be separated for more than a few days or a couple of weeks, but I know that sometimes circumstances dictate a different arrangement, and as long as the couple can handle it, that's their business.
@fireheart99 (69)
• United States
9 Jan 09
It depends on how good the salary offer was, and if it was something he was very passionate about doing. We don't have any children, so its not like I would have little ones crying that they miss him. We aren't doing too well financially right now, so if he got a better job abroad and really wanted to do it, I would let him and suffer the consequences. I probably wouldn't want to go with him, because I am very attached to my family, particularly my nieces, and wouldn't want to leave them.
@aprilsue00 (1991)
• United States
7 Jan 09
I would hate if my husband went abroad. I don't think that I could be with someone who isn't with me and helping taking care of our children. It would not be fair to me or the children. Under certian circumstances I suppose it would be okay but it better be for a short period of time. I could never be a military wife. I couldn't stand my husband being gone for so long.
@aaamine (134)
• United States
7 Jan 09
yea, this situation now happens a lot. it sometimes happens in India when the husband works in middle east countries to earn more money and the wife and children stay in India. its very hard, u know.
it happens in United States also. many couples they dont work in same place. husband works in one city and wife goes to a different city and usually they meet for weekends.
I would say it is ok at some point of time in life. But not permanently.
It also depends on how many kids(if) they have and is there anyone to look after the kids,etc,... otherwise it will be too much burden on one spouse.
And also, it may cause problems in their marriage life also, u know...