When people disagree with your discussion badly, do you let go or give back.

I have considered to not even respond to this because I think you're missing a point. When you start a discussion you have to realise that everyone is entitled to their own opinion; however if this refers to the discussion I think it does. I read through what others had posted and your responses and it seemed like whomever didn't agree with you, you left them a snippy response. Now a lot of times that can come from a language gap, but I see your English and usage is rather good. So, I can only say again, that when posting on here you have to realize that everyone isn't going to agree with you. Your responses towards others are going to be preceived as a person that wants to say something but not listen to anyone else. In turn, they will get alittle defensive towards you when you're not respecting them or their thoughts.

You've done the right thing dear. Yes, there are too many in here who are just closed-minded. You cannot please everybody. Mylot is a community and its purpose is to make it grow by rewarding its members through their efforts. However, there are members here that I really cannot delineate why they have to be defensive on discussions or on topics that you never intend to be offensive. It's playing on my mind that if a certain topic is offensive to you, why bother responding to it, right? There are members here who can't control their temper when in fact everyone have the opportunity to choose a topic to respond on that truly interests them...Some times, that situation isn't happening. You really can't control other people's mind. That is why, MYLOT should do something about it and be discreet. I have encountered people who made provoking words or response to my discussions. I wanted to ignore it most of the time. But, we are just human, we also want to defend ourselves. Once or twice, I had to comment on their response still in a nice way. Worse, when I checked on the profile of those who made a provoking response to my discussion, i found out that he/she belongs to my friends list. Too bad really...Am hoping after my comment, he/she would realize that the discussion was just a topic that is something to discuss on and not intended to offend someone. Am also hoping that he/she would not rate me in the negative because I have not done wrong. Am in GOOD FAITH that every discussion I make is not intended to offend anybody...Surely, the same as you are.

I appreciate when people who do not agree with my viewpoint, give thier response in ways of not making it seem personal. But if someone was making personal statements in the way that ou have described, i would say a few words and then let it go if it tends to carry on.

well, i'd just treat these people as children who are immatured and let it go. and yes you've done the right thing to just let it go. no point in bringing yourself that low too right. i do agree with you that there are many ways to disagree. For me i choose the most politically correct way to disagree. At times when i do get hurt by such comments, i would just take a deep breath and scroll down. I'd just pretend that i didn't see it. Because if i were to react on my emotions, things will get ugly.

Hello ketybhagat! Better ignore the person than spend your time thinking about it. So what if he/she felt that way to you? You don't know him/her anyway. You're here for earnings, for friends and discussions so don't be bother with just one person. I also have encountered one too when I responded to a discussion and he gave comment there saying I am gold diggers or filipina are gold diggers but I just ignored him and that's the end of the story. From then I tried to avoid him and avoid all his discussions.

I'd say you did the best thing you could. If they personally hate me, I would ignore them or if they totally disagree with my discussion and use harsh words I'd just reply with some comment like, "Okay, that's your opinion, but I think differently. Thanks for Sharing. :)"

Your right. you are the better person, just ignoring them, if they continue to abuse you verbally instead of discussing your discussion, they are being disgusting, you could always report them. . But i would just ignore them or say thanks for your opinion. I think it makes people more mad when they are rude to you and you are still pleasent back to them.

You are right by ignoring the person my friend. I saw another person who did something like that to my friend. She didn't fight back and tried to control her temper. Although when I saw what he said, I couldn't help but say something because he was extremely rude. It's ok to ignore them but if you really feel that you have to fight back you can. As much as possible, try to sound calm and educated when you try to do that.

I actually think you did the right. It was good of you to let it go. You would just play right into their hand if you stooped down to that person's level and started replying with similar comments. It would just drag everything and make things more unpleasant. People like that should be ignored. I haven't had to deal with something like that on here but I dealt with a somewhat similar situation at work the other day. Some girl decided to attack me verbally for no reason at all. She was causing quite a scene too. I was very, very pissed off and so badly wanted to tell her off but refrained from doing so. I wasn't going to lower myself and have a shouting match with some immature teenager.

I either would just let it go and tell them they have the right to their own opinion or I would get silly and sarcastic with them. Usually I just let it go

We the myLot members should not misbehave with fellow members.Somebody may not agree with other's discussion.The answer should be with polite words.I also don't want to take revange.I don't believe the principle of blood for blood.I appriciate your 'let go' principle.Behavior denotes one's character.

It will surely make me sick if I will be in your situation. Write them back in a polite manner. Tell them why you write those words, but if they still do that just ignore them for as long as you know that you answered them politely. Let them pull their own tail. Happy posting!

I did experience such incident her. I was also debating to myself whether to reply back but that wouldn't be me. I decided to let go and focus more on those repsonce that are more calm and proper. I believe you did the right thing. And well done on your self control. Have a nice day!

Why would I let my time use for them? They are not worth talking. Period!! LOL

Hey ketybhagat, I try to take each response separately and treat each one on an individual basis. I say choose your battles wisely, which I think you did. Unfortunately, there are always "bad apples" who have nothing better to do but be mean, and ignorant, personally even on mylot I have the philosphy I was taught since I was knee-high to a fence post and that is "if you don't haven't anything good, loving, positive or nice to say, then don't say anything at all". I have yet to figure out why some persons just like to be "jerks" especially in a situation as mylot presents, which is you have a choice on what discussions you choose to participate in, no one is forcing any one to join or comment on any discussions. So I treat each response individually, if the respondent is really mean and nasty, I don't bother with them, if they are expressing themselves appropriately I generally will comment on their comments even if they are negative. And don't forget like any cyber relationships, you can get "kids" thinking they are being so funny by making smart remarks, just to hear themselves talk. -- You did the right thing!! be happy, be joyful, be safe and be strong! oohcute2340

Its ok to disagree. That's the point of mylot. To share opinions and get an idea of what others think. There are no right or wrong answers when opinions are given. To use hurtful language though is another story. I've gotten a few angry posts, but they have never been really disrectful, maybe the person was venting a bit, or had a very strong opinion and stresed it. I don't take it personally, nor would I respond back (like you I see no point). The readers here are smart enough to figure out who it better person and poster. I'd let it go too. Those sorts of answers are few and far between, so its best to ignore them and not let ruin your experience. Enjoy!

Yes let it go. People are sometimes like that, they will always have something to say. Even if they know you are telling the right thing, one single hole that they see will be thrown against you. Stand firm on your ideas and don't give them the chance to bother you. If they want to say anything... let them... but then when they get too much, like if they are becoming personal already then you should have to talk back, but keep calm. Get even, but in a nice way.

You did the right thing.. if i were in your shoes, i'd do the same thing.. I'll let it pass and continue to what i'm doing.. in the first place, they aren't worthy of my time.. i won't waste my time arguing with them..

I would consider the source and let it go. I know when I read some of the responses not only to my discussions but to others where people act like this I just say to myself it must be sad to be so unhappy that you act this way towards other people. I feel you are definitely doing the right thing by letting it go. It just goes to show how much better a person you are. Misery loves company, so why make these types of people happy.

well you did right, just let it go and even let those attracted people feel enjoy themself.it's waste of time to argue with person online specially when someone use the rude and nonsense words. i also used to try to prove what is right with those carry different views . but now i realized we are different so they disagree us, why wast time to try to persuade them...