Did you get hurt when the "honeymoon" stage of your relationship was over?
By Pleiades
@Pleiades (846)
United States
January 7, 2009 11:43pm CST
Some of you may know what I mean by that word. When you're fresh in love with someone, you'll be calling and talking every single day, writing or just can't get enough. You'll spend every waking moment in some contact with the other. The idea of going a day without something is furthest from your mind...yet, it's bound to happen sooner or later.
My current boyfriend and I have been "together" since September of 2008. For months, we had a system and it was wonderful. He'd call me before and after his day at work. So, that was twice I'd hear his voice. We'd even email each other every day as well. At one point, I could set my watch to his calls. It wasn't until he was forced not to call me due to power outages at his base that we started to "wean" each other from our communications. Man, that was a drag. Last month, we hardley talked on the phone. It had to do with his assignments he received and had to leave the base for it. Now, we're talking on the phone maybe once a week if I'm lucky.
So, yeah, the honeymoon phase is over with us, and he's even mentioned that even though things have quieted down between us, that doesn't mean he loves me any less. I just have to be patient and understanding. The first weeks it happened I was in tears and contemplating on letting him go. Not his fault, I have abandonment issues.
We're still together and all it takes in a situation like this is: always tell the other person how much they mean to you and how much you love them. Do and say things that will keep the love alive, no matter how corny it sounds.
*Pleiades
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@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
8 Jan 09
Hello Pleiades! I also experienced what you have experienced. I met my husband in an online dating site. During our first year of chatting online, he was so sweet, thoughtful and caring. He called me twice a week which lasted for 1 hour (long distance call is expensive that time, sent me a text message. and sent me an email everyday. He sent me presents on special occassions too. But then during our 2nd year, it became blunt, he rarely called me, there would be very rare emails anymore and there was a time that we didn't chat anymore. I got hurt. I missed him so much and I miss talking to him. I never thought we would be together until one time I received an offline message from him that he is planning a trip to the Philippines. I got very excited and then he is true to his words, he came here July 2008 and decided to marry me. Right now we are away but we are always talking on the phone, on yahoo messenger and sending text message and emails to each other. Hopefully this year, I could follow him so that we could start our family together.
@Pleiades (846)
• United States
8 Jan 09
What a lovely story you shared with us. I wonder why things like that have to happen? But, it's good to see that your man was true to his words and his heart...and mostly to you. That's rare. Sometimes, I think men are out there dangling the hearts of their love simpley because they don't want to be alone. That's sad. Wow...you two are separated in distance now? That stinks. I wish you luck in your way so you two can follow your dreams.
*Pleiades
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@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
8 Jan 09
Thank you Pleiades! Yes, we are away right now. I am still waiting for his pettition to be approved.
@miryana_d (10)
• Italy
14 Jan 09
Hi Pleiades,
My it is because I am a jealous person, but I think that it is not a good sign when phone calls become more and more rare. Usually it means that he has something else on his mind. And in your case only 4 months have passed, which in my opinion is still honey moon period. R u sure he's not seeing someone else?
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@Pleiades (846)
• United States
15 Jan 09
Miry...I'm very sure he's seeing something else...he can't keep his hands off it. It's called his Xbox controller. *LOL* But, in his defense, he's just wrapped up in his work and the fact he's on the other side of the world with very litte to do. He's faithful to me as I am to him.
*Pleiades
@miryana_d (10)
• Italy
15 Jan 09
Ok, I am sorry for the suggestion, but this is the firts thing that comes to my mind when they don't call me as often as before. My be you should have your Xbox as well :)It will keep you from thinking too much about him...
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
8 Jan 09
I think that it is probably a normal thing to go through the "honeymoon"phase of a relationship. There are the niceties in the beginning but then when it becomes a routine then things can take a downward spiral.
Sometimes a couple can keep the love alive and some need to move on. I guess I was a little upset when the beginning part of my relationship started to fade away a little bit.
All that really matters is if you have true love for your significant other.
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