Would you want to know what you ex is doing...
By pulangpluma
@pulangpluma (334)
Philippines
January 8, 2009 7:20am CST
Would you want to know what your ex is doing if you still have feelings for him/her? And would you still want to know what your ex is up to if you are over him/her? Just curious. I wanted to know how people respond to a break-up and if it is just me because somehow, I still want to know what my ex is up to.
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14 responses
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
8 Jan 09
I guess I'm a little weird, I don't wonder at all about anyone like that. I know we aren't together as there was something wrong with the relationship. I'm so busy in my life with my husband, kids and life and just living that I don't think of them.
@pulangpluma (334)
• Philippines
9 Jan 09
I think you are very happy with what you have now that is why you do not care at all. Good for you. thank you for responding.
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
8 Jan 09
Yes even if you say you are over the person ,you cant help but be curious about someone you were with.I guess you want to know if they have moved on and if they found someone and if they are happy with their new found love.And if they are happy you must feel a little pinge on your conscience as you wonder how they could have moved on so quickly .I think even though it may considered selfish ,you would still want to know that tghey think about you every now and then and even regret their decision
@pulangpluma (334)
• Philippines
9 Jan 09
Funny you should say that because it is partly true for my case. I wanted to know if my ex still thinks of me sometimes, or why has my ex been able to moved on so quickly, can't help but compare myself sometimes. So part of me wanted to steer clear of anything that will give me flashback. thanks for replying.
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@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
21 Jan 09
Just stating what is human nature and goes for all of us ,I merely stated what I went through recently in my own relationship.So thank you for the opportunity to get if off my chest ,a weird kind of therapy and closure you may say.
Thanks for the Best Response
@pulangpluma (334)
• Philippines
9 Jan 09
thank you for replying, just more than a year, so you can say its still fresh.
@monishavakil (1019)
• India
8 Jan 09
it is complicated. it really depends on the situation you broke up in...if it was bitter or nice. if youll are still friends or not. yes however you will always wanna know what he is upto. although once you meet someone else that feeling will automatically go away as you will have someone to be with.
@pulangpluma (334)
• Philippines
9 Jan 09
Thank you for responding. How I wish that will happen soon, it is hard to be curious because I cant help but wonder what could've though I know its a waste of time because it is basically over.
@Queenperk (192)
• United States
23 Jan 09
It depends on how we became ex in the first place. If we didn't get along or something like that I wouldn't want to know but if we just grew apart then yes b/c that means to me if you can't be happy with me or work things through then I want to know or see who you end up with and why them i guess I don't know.
@pulangpluma (334)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
I see what you mean. I guess if I did get hurt, like if there is infidelity then I would not even want to see my ex's face. :) Thank you.
@nympha687 (940)
• United States
23 Jan 09
Whether you are already over him or not, it's still nice to know what he's up to.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
8 Jan 09
I always like to know what my ex's are up to...In fact I've remained friends with pretty much all of them except for two..One because he was abusive to me and the other because I was abusive to him BUT I have heard about how he's doing when I run into friends of his etc...
@pulangpluma (334)
• Philippines
9 Jan 09
Thank you for responding and sorry to hear about your previous relationship. Good for you though, that you remained friends with them as that will be hard for me.
@amitksing (1323)
• India
8 Jan 09
I think Yes, I will do so!
Whenever I associate myself with somebody, even if I am physically away from him, I take a bit of interest in knowing whats going on the other side.
A girl (a good frnd of mine) at College likes me a lot (but I have a girlfriend). Dont know why but I am always interested in knowing whats happening with her.. So, I think I have that thing in me..!
@kykidd (6812)
• United States
8 Jan 09
I'm always curious to know what anyone I have ever dated before is up to. I guess it is mainly because I cared about them at one point in time. And I just want to know if they are alright or not.
I don't necessarily want to know if they are in a relationship or that type thing, but things about the rest of their life I like to know.
Thanks for starting this discussion, and have a great day!
@pulangpluma (334)
• Philippines
9 Jan 09
thank you for responding:). I thought I was alone because most I knew don't care at all.
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
8 Jan 09
i guess maybe it's just part of human nature to be curious. i actually don't care what he's up too, since we have been divorced for almost 4 years. we do still talk, we were married for 16 years and have a daughter. and while i was in texas for christmas i did go over to his house, several times, once to see the blue heeler i had raised from a pup, she stayed with him after our divorce. we get along now as friends. there were two things that happened while i was there.
i was there, along with my daughter and granddaughter, and his present girlfriend came in, she didn'e expect me to be there i guess. now he and i are sitting across the room from each other, but she had to hang on him, i guess so i would know she was his girlfriend LOL. like i care.....i live 1600 miles away and i live with a great guy. it was pretty funny though, the way she acted was almost like high school.LOL
and since i travelled with my oldest daughter and her hubby down to texas from virginia, she got a laugh everytime we heard george straight 'all my exes live in texas' LOL even though it is true, i live in pa now, and all 3 of my exes live in texas LOL
@pulangpluma (334)
• Philippines
9 Jan 09
Thank you for responding and sharing your funny experience. I guess the new girlfriend is a little bit insecure :). Happy to hear you are happy after the divorce.
@pulangpluma (334)
• Philippines
9 Jan 09
yeah, i know I should not think about my ex to be able to move on, its hard but I am doing my best. Thank you for responding.
@pulangpluma (334)
• Philippines
9 Jan 09
Good for you, it is stressful sometimes, but you are lucky you are not bound to his emotional chains. Thank you for responding.
@achinthya (1216)
• India
8 Jan 09
thats true we still want to know because once upon a time they were our close friends....so some feelings will be there in the corner somewhere though not very strong..
@pulangpluma (334)
• Philippines
9 Jan 09
Thank you, yes its true I am guilty of this. I wanted to know what's going on because I think I still have feelings for my ex.
@Frederick42 (2024)
• Canada
6 Mar 09
I would be least bothered with what my ex is doing. In the first place, I left her because I could not tolerate living with her. So, it would be childish on my part to bother what she does.
Only those people are bothered about the doings of their exes those who are not satisfied with their current partners.
