Love and Age
By chillpill90
@chillpill90 (1936)
January 9, 2009 5:43am CST
Well im starting this discussion on the basis that i havd had alot of relationships where there have been some age gaps. I personally dont think that age should play a factor, cos surely if you really like someone and they really like you then if there older or younger than you shouldnt matter shoud it???
Im in a relationship now with a girl who is younger than me and we are head over heels about each other, but she is scared of telling her parents about us because of how they will act about the age gap.
I cannot be the only guy out there who thinks that age dont really matter when you love somoene??
because look at the age gaps between some of our parents.
Let me know wat you all think about if age is a big factor in love or not.
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18 responses
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
9 Jan 09
Ideally age should not be a problem. However her parents are very correct in worrying about their daughter’s future too. if as you profile says, you are 22 and she is younger than you, then she cant be very matured herself. So you need to act the matured partner and if required, convince her parents about yourself. Cant help it really…take it or leave it!
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@grandpa_lash (5225)
• Australia
9 Jan 09
Good point. If he's only 22, even if she's only 15 or 16, it's not what I call an age difference. lol. I've had a wife 17 years younger than me, and not so long back a de facto 36 years younger. Now that's an age difference, and much as it pains me to say, it does in fact make a difference. It's a very hard row to hoe.
Lash
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@chillpill90 (1936)
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10 Jan 09
thank u for that shes 15 nearly 16 and i do take the mature role,
i mean all we do is kiss and hold hands, and i do understand her parents being worried, but surely if they get to know me then it wud put there mind at ease?
@monishavakil (1019)
• India
9 Jan 09
not at all, i dont think age should be a factor at all...we all are having general discussions where we write are feelings or opinions..guess depending on a persons age he would choose a discussion to write to...so i dont think it should be any kind of a problem.
@syeryn (573)
• United States
9 Jan 09
Age shouldn't always play a role in a relationship but it can based on the maturity of the parties involved. I've seen relationships where there aer 10 years between people work out very well and then other ones fall apart bacause one is not ready for a full committment.
@zureyna (87)
• Malaysia
9 Jan 09
Age doesn't matter to me too but it will be a bit difficult to make others understand and accept that issue. If u really love each other, both of u should work hard . I believe, if they can understand and can see how much you love each others, they will try to understand . The most important thing is TRYING. Most of the time, we fall in love for someone not because his/her age but because of their character/personality etc.
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@ulalume (713)
• United States
9 Jan 09
Age shouldnt really be factor in a loving relationship. Though, people need to be realistic too. It is disturbing for a young woman to get into a relationship with an old man (and likewise a young man with an old woman). Then there are legal limits on relationships, which are ultimately for the good of society. Beyond this, and in general these age gaps shouldn't really be an issue, especially for two consenting adults. PS: Your families really shouldn't have a problem with it either. If the person your with is nice enough, then she should fit right in.
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@Ithink (9980)
• United States
9 Jan 09
You know I would normally say it doesn't matter, what is a number. However, there is such a thing as too much age gap in my opinion. A teen shouldn't be going with an adult which is why there are laws overseeing this.
If a person is say 15-16 with a 22 year old I have to think what can they have in common. If there is a big age difference as in like 14-16 to like 30-40 I'm one to think yep that is sick.
I might be bias as we have a 2 year old granddaughter that we have guardianship of from our teens little affair with a 40 year old. I turned it into the cops but they said that nothing could be done as there was no proof, we got the proof when our granddaughter was born. All he got was 2 years, yes I put him in prison and I think he should still be there.
Not saying that is you but parents worry and have the right too.
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
10 Jan 09
How am I contradicting myself? It isn't contradicting it is an opinion. First of all a 22 year old can do a lot of things a 16 year old cant. Along with the fact that I'm sorry most 16 year olds aren't mature enough to be in a relationship with someone older and don't really know what they are looking for in a relationship. Then again maybe the 22 year old is immature and therefore looks for younger people that are too.
Really in the real world, one thing leads to another and most will end up sleeping with who they are going with if it lasts for a few months and between someone that young and someone that is 22 it is not a good thing and that is why it is called Statutory Rape. A young person is easy lead most of the time.
An opinion isn't contradictory even if you don't agree with it.
I didn't say that cant have anything in common, however how much can they have in common? Again these are my opinions and not a contradiction.
@chillpill90 (1936)
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10 Jan 09
wait wait u contradict urself, surely a 16 year old and a 22 year old can have a lot in common after all its not a big age gap its only 6 years.
u contradict urself abit. its not like theres a age gap of even 10 years.
so surely they can have a alot in common, they might have the same interests,
just cos of someones age it doesnt mean they cant have the same interests as someone younger or older!
@spiderlizard22 (3444)
• United States
10 Jan 09
When it comes to love there is no limit even if it isn't mutual. It is not about age but about compatibility. Not all humans are equal. Some reach maturity at an early age while others reach it at an advanced age. They are some who thinks its wonderful for their to be two people who are in love with each other regardless of age while others would harass or even kill because they disapprove age gaps.
@shinymood (405)
• China
9 Jan 09
I personally don't think age is a problem for love and relationship. It's a safe to cliche to say this but I have seen many examples around me that prove my point.
Several of my colleagues married their wives or husbands with age gap ranging from 5-15 and they are perfect couples and live happy life! My father is 11 years older than my mom, and they are adorable! My husband is 15 years my senior and he says that he's the luckiest man to have me as his wife lol.
Age might matters under certain circumstances, but mostly it's just age.
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@zeny_zion (1283)
• Philippines
10 Jan 09
for me, its better if the guy is a lot older than i am. i dont like to be older than the guy. you see, if you really love each other then go for it. they are not the one who will live by your side but the person you will choose to be with you forever. just be sure that you are ready and responsible to face all the hardship and trials
@sonusd (1547)
• India
9 Jan 09
i think age factor some time should be taken in to consideration during choosing partner for love because othere than partner love is from heart but for paaartner it also emotional as well as physical so it should not be so gap between two partner because their thinking will have a big difference
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@Polly289 (269)
• New Zealand
9 Jan 09
My late husband was 12 years my senior. So if you look at that, when I was 10 he was 22. It doesn't sound that good does it? To answer your question, no age shouldn't come into it. If you love that person or are compatable with them why should age come into it? Can't say what to do about the parents. Who knows? They may be okay with it or think you're a dirty old man. Good luck with your love.
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
10 Jan 09
I think you are too young to figure it out that age is a big factor in love or not.Since you are only 22 years old and if there is age gap then your girl friend must be 13-14 years old.At this age you cannot expect maturity of thoughts and expressions.Dear true love does not pay heed to age,caste,creed,colour,financial status .Let the time pass and you will automatically come to know about your query.
@yichuhehua (160)
• China
10 Jan 09
well personally i think the age should not be a factor in one's love. IF you two are love really, there is nothing can hold you back. so i think you two should persuade the parents. And bless you!
@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
9 Jan 09
I have never believed that age matters. If you love someone you love them. My sister and her husband are twenty years apart and have been married for many years. I am six years younger than my husband and we have been married for 36 years. The heart doesn't say how old are you before it falls in love. The age doesn't even come into the equastion.
@cynthia23 (163)
• Philippines
9 Jan 09
age is doesn't matter us long you love each other,if understand each other
who cares other person,be responsible for the relationship you enter
my b/f before he thinking about age gaps but for me doesn't matter for me
because i love him,but he thinking listening people says so he left me
for me before you get in the relationship u knows what is the right and wrong
you older enough.mind and listening people sometimes make be complicated
if love each other go.forget age be,trust each other,love,respect
happy both
@justjoe225 (20)
• United States
9 Jan 09
I don't think age needs to be a factor but it may be. I mean someone who is 19 is apt to not have a lot in common with someone who's 30. That doesn't mean that can't be overcome but i do think it's a challenge some couple's with age gaps face.
