Oh, My Hubby DID It Again!
By gr8life
@gr8life (6251)
Malaysia
January 9, 2009 3:19pm CST
Hello All,
My husband doesn't really like to make a phone call when he is away. When he goes outstation or somewhere, I always tell him to let me know once he reached his destination. I get worried easily and always have negative feelings when I don't hear from him at all (I am not jealous but I am worried about his safety) Just a phone call-that's all I ask. I don't ask him to call me every now and then and I don't even think of controlling his life that he needs to tell me every single things he does without my presence. Three days ago, he went to Thailand. He told me that he will call when he reached there but he didn't. The whole night, I couldn't sleep thinking what had happened and why he didn't call. He only called me the next evening to check on myself and the kid and he was alright there. A few days after, he called me from Sabah, which is located in East Malaysia and that's not on the plan!
At 8pm yesterday, I sent him to a bus station as he is going to Singapore by bus. His Russian friend is here and they just decided to spend this weekend in Singapore a day ago before the guy goes back to his country next week. They yet to get a ticket and they just go and try their luck. I told him to let me know when they managed to get tickets and what time they're leaving. Again, he didn't. When I called at 10pm, he told me he was on a bus and got tickets for a 9pm trip. He said, he will call me when he reached the immigration check-point and the trip will take almost 6 hours. I fell asleep and woke up at 4am. I checked my cell phone but there's no missed calls. I tried to call him and I didn't get. Maybe he is already in Singapore right now!
He always think that I am jealous and curious to know the details of his trip but in fact that's not the most concerned matter to me. I am worried of his safety. Anything can happen and I just need to know where he is, with whom and whether he is alright or not. At least when people ask, I don't have to tell that I don't know where my husband is right now!
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7 responses
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
10 Jan 09
I have been in this kind of situation a lot of times... my husband seem to take for granted the fact that there is someone at home who would like to know if he reached his destination safe and sound... or that i would feel better to know where he is and who he is with... there are times that i also do this to him... just so he knows how it feels like not be be informed...
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
10 Jan 09
Hello aseretdd,
Whatever he does to me, I can't do it to him. If he didn't call me when he supposed to do, it' s alright - no big deal. But if I am supposed to call him and I didn't, he will start to 'nag' at me. Today he smsed me twice - just to ask my favor to top up his cell phone credit. He forgot to bring his postpaid cell phone as he was in a hurry yesterday. Whenever I ask him why he doesn't want to call when he goes somewhere, he has this standard answer, " I wanted to but you are very fast sometimes. I yet to rest, you already dialed my number. You don't trust me, huh?" I rest my case!
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@echomonster (2226)
• Greenwood, Mississippi
11 Jan 09
This reminds me of times when I was traveling in bad weather and my parents would always want me to phone them to let them know I arrived at my destination safely. I always looked at things in the opposite way, thinking I would phone them if I got into trouble. Sometimes I would forget to phone them and let them know, but I always felt very guilty afterwards when I found out how worried they were about me. Now I definitely wish I had been more considerate...I bet your husband will come to a similar realization eventually also. He must realize how much you worry about him because even I can tell how worried you were based on just a myLot message!
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@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
10 Jan 09
I would want my husband to call me too!! Just to know he is safe makes my day go better...It is important...I am sure if your husband gets busy then he can't call but just one call to let you know he made it is very important...
You worry about his safety and with a child at home it is even more important...and it makes you worry more..
I totally understand why you need him to call...
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@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
10 Jan 09
I don't blame you for wanting him to call. When ever my husband goes on a trip, I want him to call me and let me know that he got there safely. That way I do not have to worry. I will worry until I hear from him and can not relax until I know that he is safe. I think it is very selfish not to call people and let them know you arrived safely. I am sure that if it was you traveling that your husband would worry about you as well, and I bet if you did not call him or waited till the following day he would be worried sick.
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
12 Jan 09
Hello ladym33,
At least, I know that I am not the only one who think like this. I made it clear to him that it is his safety that I worry too much. Especially if he goes out till midnight or when he goes to somewhere that I know it is not a very safe place to go. If it's me, he will 'nag' and scold me non-stop as he always say, "It just takes you a second to press the button and call me. Is it hard?" and I can't say the same to him...
@yoursonlyurs (394)
• India
10 Jan 09
A made for each other couple.
the intention are good
let that grow to be stronger in love n care....
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
9 Jan 09
[i]Hi g8life,
Ohhh....I will feel the same when I will not also hear from my husband if he will be on a trip! Hopefully, he will call you when he arrived in their destination. It's not really easy to be thinking what happen to him when we don't hear anything![/i]
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
10 Jan 09
Hello checapricorn,
Oh, I need to correct a mistake! My husband called me from Sabah three days ago while he is supposed to be on a trip in Thailand. They decided to cut short the Thailand trip and flew to Sabah before returning to Kuala Lumpur. I called him this morning and he was resting in the hotel room as they reached Singapore early morning. He smsed me after that - asked me whether I can buy a credit for his cell phone. He brought the wrong telephone which is using a prepaid card! I know he will call when he is in need!
