Online dating
By smartie0317
@smartie0317 (1610)
United States
January 9, 2009 10:30pm CST
I feel a little lonely, but there's not too many great guys where I live and go to school. I was thinking of trying online dating. I've met friends from online, both men and women, but never for dating. Have you dated someone online? How did it work it out? Share stories both good and bad. :)
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5 responses
@amazingheart (781)
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
Hi Smartie, to make your online dating safe and successful we have some essential "rules-of-the-road" for safely navigation. Just be cautious when sharing personal information that could reveal your identity, once you've given out your personal information, you can't take it back! Before you shared phone numbers, you have discussed the need to respect each others privacy, and if either of you decide to end communication in the future, you will not the use the phones number as means to pursue an unwanted relationship.
Do your own research before meeting in person. Contact any of your state or local municipalities to obtain public information above all else, use common sense. Pay attention to the details someone shares if your fin anything that does not seem to add up, follow your intuition and stop the communication regardless of the connection you feel with any of your "friend online".
@c4cyber (70)
• Pakistan
10 Jan 09
People seem nice when you meet them professionally, but when it comes to real life and real commitments, things are different. You have to about something else to keep you busy, instead of going of going online. But if you want to try, try it with care, and never just trust anyone all of sudden.
Remember, People are different in real life and they know how to mask their faces.
@Frederick42 (2024)
• Canada
10 Jan 09
Once, I met a girl online and she was very friendly over the net and we also exchanged phone numbers and then she called me to meet her eprsonally, but when I reached the place, she sent the message that I should get lost.
This is the case with online dating. It is difficult to find a good partner because many people are nothing but cheats.
@Pleiades (846)
• United States
10 Jan 09
My whole life, practically, is living on the internet. Because of that, I've found some really nice people, and some that are just down right whacky. Sometimes, I wonder where some people come from. Anywho, you asked for some good and bad stories? I've got both.
BAD: I met a wonderful man online over six years ago. We began as friends, then turned into online lovers. How is that possible? Well, I suppose we spend all our spare time online, chatting to each other and sending love letters. It was so wonderful. This man was what I have dreamed of: tall, dark hair, non blue eyes, warm smile, not too skinny and not too fat...He even came out to see me, but before and after that happened, we both came across something on our own travels that proved deadly to us. He forgave me, but I couldn't him.
It turns out that after five years of distance, we found that we could possibly give us another try. But, this was after I found out that he wasn't all what he first told me. His age was much younger than I was originally told, he had joined the fire department and he loves the beaches. I live in the deserts, have four children. He'd never been married...I have.
GOOD: Around the sametime I met the previous man, I met another man. This one was opposite from what I ever wanted. He was blue eyed, redhead and lacked the same taste in music that I liked. Plus, he's in the military. In a sense, we are differnt from day and night, yet, I picked him.
RESULT: I had to pick: the soldier or the fire fighter? Both men were equally great in their own ways, but one had more. I decided to let the younger one go so he can start his own life so he can stay in his homestate.
It's not easy, online dating, no matter how you look at it. I've got to deal with my man being in another country and we have to keep that honour and trust thing alive. I can't say it's something I recommend for just anyone to do...but it's good for me because there are times when I like being alone, just me and the kids.
*Pleiades