Which Is Easier??To Forgive or To Forget??

ah... i always go with the policy - "Forgive but never forget" It helps because by forgiving a person you are going to get that mental peace. If you stay angry and irritated with this person, the very sight of him is going annoy you like hell. You would always remind yourself why you hate him and why you should always make your life miserable but in the process you are just making your life impossible.. Forgiving makes things simpler.. BUT.. You should never forget what another person did to you.. Forgive him but always remember that this person has betrayed my trust and so next time i should be careful when dealing with him.. This prevents you from being hurt again.. As for answering your questions, I would forgive my friend as well as forget the incident as friendship includes money matters.. As for the boyfriend, i would forgive but not forget..

I suppose there can always be forgiveness,but I don't think you can ever forget. I was in a relationship for seven or eight years over thirty years ago. I will never forget,I still think about him quite often.

I think it is easier for me to forgive then to forget if someone wrongs me.

It all starts with a decision, it means that you decide to forgive and part of forgiving is forgetting to a certain extent. I wouldn't say that it is harder to do one over the other, unless the person making the decision hadn't had the opportunity to ever forgive anyone before. That's when the decision process becomes a bit difficult to bear or to make.

i think forgiveness is much more easier than forgetting....

Personally I just like to forget. It seems like every time I forgive I am the one that pays. Just get the relationship out of your mind and move on. Why would you want to forgive someone that just screwed your whole life up?Crocket.

If my boyfriend came and told me truthfully that he wasn't happy and he wanted to be with someone else. I would forgive him. But if he was sneaking around with this person, I wouldn't forgive or forget.If a best friend left without telling me I would forget, forget that we were ever friends. There wouldn't be forgiveness or forgetting. It is one thing to ask for money, if I have it they are welcome to it. But to leave town without saying a word? That is so wrong.I think it is easier for me to forget after the proer revenge is excuted than to just forgive, unless there is a heartfelt apology.

In my view,forgive may easier than forget. i now experencing something like the second situation you've mentiond. She was one of my best friend.But something unpleasant happened between us in my high school.To tell you the truth,although years have been passed,I still can't forget our happy time.while i've been forgiven whatever she did.

hi I go with the policy FORGIVE but Not FORGET It's not always easy, but the benefits of forgiving and forgetting, can be powerful! Everyone says forgiveness is a lovely idea until they have something to forgive and forgetting may not be a realistic or desirable goal.

i think forgiving and forgetting both are equally important..so i will vote for both..though if i see all my past experiances, forgetting is what i have done mostly...and also if we see, forgetting is eqaul to forgiving.. thanks happy mylotting

For me, it is easy to forgive and forget, it takes a long time specially if it involves my wife and my son. I am a husband and I father, my role is to protect them with all my might and I do not want anyone to hurt them. I can forgive them but I will never forget what they did. I can forget if people mess me up but not for my family. I love them so much.

in my view forgive and den forget.... if u do so n think in dis way nothing wrong will come ur way

I would just forgive them. Of course I'm not going to be happy about it, but forgetting is not the best answer to everything all the time. A relationship is, most of the time, going to come off bad, no matter how much you don't want it to. And to give up a friendship, even if the friend moved away and didn't tell you about, is not a very smart thing either. Friendships can last longer than relationships, and friends are an important part of life. Forgive them, but not forget what they did.

I find it comparatively easy to forgive but I never forget.

It might take me a while to forgive...but I never forget. If I forget about what happened I am more likely to make the same mistake. I did decide that I wouldn't loan money anymore. I get tired of "loaning" money and not having it for my emergencies...or if there is something that I need at a really good price I have to pass it up because I don't have the money because I loaned it to someone else. I don't hold on to the hate or ill feelings about a situation because it is not only allowing the person who caused the ill feelings to live rent free in your life, but also it will do a lot of physical damage to your body. I let go of the situation and "forgive" but typical of most people, I don't forget. A good example is a man who I was engaged to dumped me on Christmas Eve. He married someone else two months later- she had two cars and a house. I finally was able to look past the hurt and betrayal and forgive. A few years ago he called me and wanted to get back together. The memories of the pain he caused me flashed like lightening and I immediately told him no way, I wasn't second or third choice in someone's life. We might have been engaged, but he betrayed my trust and love. I now have a wonderful man in my life that I love beyond belief!! We dote on each other and find fun ways to express our love for each other. Yes, find it in your heart to forgive, but learn from the experience and don't forget- just don't use it as a weapon to hurt the person that you forgave.

I would like to forgive in both instances because holding onto resentment would only ruin my life but having said that I probably could not be in any sort of relationship with either party ever again because the one thing that is most important would be gone and that is trust; without trust you have nothing. Sometimes I think trust is more important than love. So I tend to agree with others who have stated forgive but don't forget.

I think that it's easier to forget then to actually do the action of forgiving. I would much rather forgive though because I would rather salvage a friendship then to lose all the memories that I've had with that person that I could be fighting with. There are also people that it's hard to right wrongs with though and I guess you just have to take it as you go like with everything in life basically.

easy to forget, If U can forgive U can forget. But If U can't forgive u can forget.

Forgive but not forget.If you want to forget somebody,it is too difficult.After all,he accompanyed with you for several years. you can be friends.Forgive is virtues.