How naturally do you accept your mistakes?
By deserve40
@deserve40 (1656)
India
January 10, 2009 9:38am CST
We all do mistakes in the daily life as well as in our professional life. However, it is more important to learn from those mistakes. And perhaps the first step to learn something from such mistake is to accept the mistake. If we do not accept that we have committed a blunder, then there are very few chances of improving and learning from that mistake.
We do accept some of our mistakes openly. However, how naturally and easily, do you accept your mistakes?
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12 responses
@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
11 Jan 09
Mistakes are important. So many things in life can only be learned by trial-and-error. We need to make mistakes to grow and become the best we can be. I've known people who swear they never make istakes, and Ican only feel sorry for them. They're obviously making mistakes just by thinking they don't.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
12 Jan 09
Friend, I feel like differing with you on one point that we have to make mistakes to learn. I personally we can learn from the mistakes made by others too. It is not necessary for us to make mistakes and then learn from them because some mistakes may prove to be dangerous.
I also feel that we can swear that we will not make certain mistakes. Ofcourse some mistakes are not made knowingly but we can be careful to avoid some mistakes. Yes, one cannot swear that one will not make ANY mistake.
Learning from the mistakes is the most important thing.
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@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
12 Jan 09
OK. I can see your point. I believe, though, that when it's our own mistake we give it more attention.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
10 Jan 09
When I make a mistake with something I am usually very open to admitting it, and will try and change that thing for the better from there. There are times I have not been able to catch myself and will often be told, and I just will try to watch it and improve from there. I find if you are willing to want to change things when something happens instead of getting upset this keeps more things in harmony and you will usually often end up learning more from them as well.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
11 Jan 09
Yours is a very good strategy. If you admit the mistake, you know for the sure that you have made a mistake and you need to improve upon that.
It is true that if we are willing to change ourselves, then nothing is impossible, only sincere efforts are required. Learning from our mistake is very good way to improve. There is no point in getting upset about the mistakes which you have already made but more important thing is that you have to learn from it and make sure that you do not repeat the same mistake again.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
11 Jan 09
Yours is a good attitude of accepting your mistake every time you feel that you have made it. If you are open to accepting your mistake, then you are likely to be liked by others for being honest. Another thing I feel like agreeing with you is that there is no point in getting upset about the mistake which you have already made. But more important thing is to accept and try to improve upon it by learning from the mistakes.
Being open to admit mistake requires high moral too.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
20 Jan 09
Hi deserve40,
I agree with you, we should accept our mistakes, and then only we can improve or learn something in life. For that we should realize the mistake first. If I do any mistake the next time I will take more care for avoiding that mistake. I don’t think I will take more time to accept my mistakes, if I did any. I will surely do corrections and even ready to make an apology if it demands the situation. After all we are human beings and we have the right to do (we think like that) mistake but necessary corrections should be made according to the circumstances.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
20 Jan 09
That is what I exactly mean. We are humans and so we are bound to make some mistakes at some point of time. But we should try to avoid such mistakes again. And for that we should accept the mistakes which we have made. But it is not so easy to accept them in natural way unless we have trained our mind for that. Normally nobody likes to makes mistake and so nobody likes the mistakes and so it is hard to accept the mistakes naturally.
We have to train our mind and make sure that we do accept our mistakes naturally so that we can improve upon the same things naturally.
@gomattot (15)
• India
12 Jan 09
I am a person who oftenly do mistakes, i mean am completely imperfect, but i do accept my mistakes and work on them. i just try improving if i do anything wrong, if i'll not do so then as u said i could never succeed and will remain in my same position that i am today
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
12 Jan 09
No problem if you feel that you are completely imperfect because I feel that nobody can be completely perfect. If someone says that one is perfect, then there is no scope of improvement in that person.
So, it is good to accept your mistakes if it is not going to hurt your feelings directly or indirectly.
Have a nice time.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
19 Jan 09
When I was younger I was always afraid of making mistakes, and that fear of mistakes made me miss out on a lot of things. I often thought it was better not to try, because then I wouldn't make any mistakes. I think that my childhood is one of reasons why I had those thoughts, because my father used to get very angry when I made a mistake, and I have somehow learned that is a dangerous to make a mistake. I have learned that when I made a mistake I got yelled at or beaten, and of course I wanted to avoid those things as a child, so I tried to avoid mistakes at all cost. As a adult I have slowly learned that it isn't dangerous to make mistakes, and I have become better at admitting my mistakes.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
19 Jan 09
Young people are always afraid of making mistake. They fear to make mistakes and so sometimes even the best of the ideas are not implemented. But when we grow up we learn that the mistakes should not be repeated and making mistakes is natural thing.
Normally we do not admit our mistake easily. However, if we try honestly to learn to accept our mistakes and try to learn from them we can become much better human. If we can train our mind to accept our mistake in a natural way, automatically we will learn to avoid the repeatation of such mistakes.
Thanks for your response.
@arthi_88 (1516)
• India
12 Jan 09
I do accept my mistakes but if the person in front of me is rude at that moment or when I am apologising then I keep my apology for later. I will accept when me and the related person in scene are both cool headed to get it.But to somebody whi si a stranger I accept the mistake then and there cause otherwise it will be plain rude.
Have a nice day!
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
12 Jan 09
So you do not accept the mistake so naturally. I agree with you that you cannot afford to accept your mistake in front of a rude person or else you run a risk of being insulted.
Thanks for sharing your views. Have a nice time.
@cambiste (1244)
• India
10 Jan 09
I make one too many mistakes, but unfortunately, i have too much pride, its takes a while for me to admit it aloud, even if i do admit it to myself the moment i make it.
Usually, i just go about without admitting it. It bad, i know. But as long as others dont get blamed for my mistakes, i dont care.
Anyway, happy mylotting.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
11 Jan 09
I think that you are not doing anythin wrong as long as you are admitting your mistakes to yourself. It means that you have accepted and understood that you are not right and you have done something wrong. This very idea in your mind will help to be careful not to repeat the same mistake. I do not think that it is necessary for you to admit it publically.
Sometimes, accepting the mistake in public makes us feel little and that is not good for our moral. If repeatedly we keep feeling little about what we have done then it we may lose confidance in ourselves in long run.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Jan 09
Hi, I agree we make many mistakes in life, some of them very regrettable and damaging and some from which we can learn and improve. Personally i feel that it is in one's own interest to accept the mistake and learn from it.But again it depends on the circumstances and people concerned.I do accept my mistakes to myself , even if i may not do so openly to others( again it depends on the person and circumstance) , and i generally try to analyse where i went wrong and if possible make amends.
But unknowingly i have made the same mistakes again and regretted it , i guess that is life, there is no end to mistakes and learning..
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
11 Jan 09
Well most of the people would say that they generally do not accept the mistake in public. It is just to avoid being in funny situation. However, I personally feel that if you can accept it to yourself it should be enough. But it is necessary that you accept it will full heart and decide not to repear it again. It does not depend upon the situation or person if it is kept to one's ownself. I mean all of can accept the mistake by heart and tell ourselves that we will learn from this mistake and will not allow the same thing happen again in any case.
@moneymaya (901)
• India
11 Jan 09
yes friend its true that all do mistakes in the daily life as well in our professional life and as far as learning from mistakes is concern I would like to say that I openly accept it if its done by me , and definetly try to learn from those misakes, thanks
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
11 Jan 09
If you can accept your mistake openly, then it is great thing. Keep it up. And learning from our mistakes is even greater thing.
Thanks for the response. Have a nice time.
@srijshm (1165)
• India
10 Jan 09
I found it very hard to accept mistakes until i heard a good friend say " If i was right more than 50% of time, then i will be a king in share market".
this statement made me realize that even i am wrong most of the time. Because i have never got it right in the share market. Since that day i have become more open to others opinion & have no qualms in accepting my mistakes.
This quality has also made me a better boss/manager because i now take responsibility for failures by our team. When you have your team support at office, working becomes so much fun & targets become that much easier.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
11 Jan 09
It is good to accept mistakes done by a one's ownself. However, I feel like differing with you that most of the times you are wrong. No it is not necessarily true. You need to check properly if you have made a mistake or not then only you should accept it. Otherwise, the people will take the advantage of this type of nature of yours and will start balming you for anything and everything, knowing that you are going to accept it.
Well, as a leader of the team, you have to accept the failure of the team if it so happens.
@mein_traum (132)
• Hong Kong
11 Jan 09
I used to care about my mistakes tremendously and bring them to my dreams. But I find out it is no use for bearing all those miserable memories in mind if they only get you more upset. Now, I have learnt to forget them but at the same time, I tell myself I will not do the same blunder to disgrace myself. If I can learn from my mistake, there is still some value in it.
Learning to accept your mistakes is an art and part of our learning process.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
11 Jan 09
Well said friend - learning to accept mistakes is an art.
There is no point in brining the miserable mistakes made by you to your mind every now and then if they are upseting you. However, if you tell yourself that you are not going to repeat that mistake again, then there are more chances that you are going to try to avoid the same mistake again. I think that that is enough for anyone who wants to improve.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
12 Jan 09
Yes, it is important to teach our kids to accept the mistakes and try to improve upon such things. If the kids are taught such things right in the childhood it builds them as good human. And I am sure that it really works. All the people who learn to accept their mistakes naturally without showing any sort of anger or without hiding anything will be respected by all as they are honest pepople.
Thanks for sharing your views. Have a nice time.