True friends, how many hands does it take to count them?
By robthir
@robthir (4)
United States
January 10, 2009 3:15pm CST
Long ago when I was just a kid, I remember some grownups saying you could count true friends on one hand. I really refused to believe that statement for a long time. But here I am, all the way grown up and it doesn't even take a whole hand to count the 'trues'. The ones that stick with you through changes of family, job, personality, beliefs, etc. Someone who will say and mean it, "I won't like them if you don't want me to" My own true friends are not people that I talk to everyday, but I do know that if I needed to, I could show up with 45cents and the clothes on my back and they would help me clean up, get back on my feet or get over whatever it was that had me so low. I will do the same for them. Also, I wouldn't even want more than a few because being a true friend isn't something one can do in their spare time, its a lifelong committment.....
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@mychattime (1013)
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10 Jan 09
I so agree with you, one of my best friends is a friend of 26 years and although I only see her once a year we text every week and have a great great friendship. I have had many friends over the years but not all of them are realy true friends as you usually find out when you move. There are not many I could phone if there was a problem in the middle of the night or something!
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@mychattime (1013)
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10 Jan 09
Sorry to answer your question i agree with 1 hand, which I was always told when I was younger!
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@lilyoungfella (1196)
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
I really agree on what you just said. Real friends are not those you see and talk everyday. But are the ones who's willing to be with you when no one else seems to be around. AS they say, they love you when they see you. But when they don't ... They still do.
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@KellyMate (361)
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10 Jan 09
I have two best friends!
My best friend who moved to another country, so i dont see her a lot, and my boyfriend. There's nobody else I can trust with problems, Im not exactly close to my mother or anything!
Yes, one hand only!
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@CRIVAS (1815)
• Canada
11 Jan 09
Like you, I used to believe that my parents were wrong about this. Now that I am 26 with two children of my own, I have seen that most of the people I thought we my friends, truely weren't. Now I have about 3 friends that are "trues" and to tell you the truth I couldn't be happier. I am not a people person by any means and as such I have very little patience for unimportant griping. My best friend and I have known eachother for over half of our lives, we have been threw thick and thin and have always managed to stay close despite any changes that happened in our lives. My moto is this: It is better to have ONE good friend, then it is to have 100 friends.
@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
11 Jan 09
I do believe that statement. I have found that you have your fair weather friends that want to be around you when everything is fine but when trouble crops up they disappear. Then there is the true blue friend that there is not many of that will stick with you and weather the bad storms right alongside you and help you out. I have one true blue friend and she is like my sister although she is not blood relative.
@ajrox1810 (992)
• India
11 Jan 09
Hi,
If the word "True" is removed, then it takes a billion hands to count friends. But just because of that word, I have to sadly declare that it will take just one hand. True friends are very rare to find and are those who can do anything for you...Anything. I do have one such friend, and that takes just one finger of my hand.
Regards,
AJ-Rox
@keelymcilwain (797)
• Canada
11 Jan 09
One hand for me. I have my boyfriend, my 2 friends ashley, a very very good brother like friend back home, and my mother. The rest of the people are friends but not true close friends that I can count on.
@noniefam (284)
• Indonesia
11 Jan 09
when i was still young i couldnt count my friend cause i had so many friend in my neighbourhood. but started in high school till now i can count my best friend in 1 hand only cause its difficult to find a good friend now. friend who can share n here when we sad n happy
@akiira (97)
• Australia
11 Jan 09
One hand. I don't think I actually have that many friends. There are lots of people who I talk to everyday and even more who are "greeting" friends, but I don't think I have many (if any) "true friends."
On another note, I think it's just common courtesy to comfort and help someone who suddenly shows up at your doorstep with nowhere to go. It would be rude to slam the door in the face of someone who obviously needed it.
